You know, I've been thinking about this a lot lately. It's kinda fucked up that when you air past grievances about femmes and why you feel unsafe around them you get so many people coming in saying "not all femmes" and "they're not real femmes" when butches have to take so much accountability for the shitty actions of other butches. It's such a double standard that we as a community can never make mistakes because we present masculinely whereas they are allowed to "not all men" us when one of their own behaves badly.