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To any trans person reading this, there's nothing transphobes are afraid of more, than you surviving.

As long as your heart beats, there's a chance you'll outlive them, so please let it keep beating.

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the treat is for ME i havent had pet rats in over a decade. new baby. dont worry i'll get you a friend soon

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if youre discussing diy hormones and youre only advice for diy testosterone is for trans men/mascs to 'go to the gym' then you dont actually give a shit about trans men/mascs, ESPECIALLY trans men/mascs of color, when we are practically YELLING THAT WE ARE DISPROPORTIONATELY AFFECTED BY SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND SEXUAL ASSAULT BY SOCIETY AT LARGE

IF YOU DONT HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR DIY TESTOSTERONE JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP AND DONT ADD YOUR TRANSPHOBIC ASS 'just go to the gym bro' TAKES

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I have a feeling that The Death of Rats would be kept quite busy in Mossflower.

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Bettye Lane, unknown date

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yo hey US people who sent in absentee ballots, they are tossing mail-in ballots for no reason. i just had to call my county board of elections and demand a cure for my ballot because north carolina didn't send out any notices of issues with ballots, and the issues are fake. if you voted by mail-in make sure your ballot was actually counted

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rip mythbusters you would've loved destroying cybertrucks

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Very concerned that some of the response to trans men being concerned about the lack of DIY T sources is “go to the gym and ask the biggest there duhhh, cisgender men have never been a threat to transgender men” . I’ve see multiple people say “ask cisgender men at the gym” . Just sigh.

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Yeah I don't think I'm gonna try this product for my birds

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I'd say he's grown somewhat since February!

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they've aged. and attained a meat

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Splitting the difference on productivity fetishism by striving to maximise my personal utility, but only for purposes no-one actually wants.

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I love you intersex people. If you're intersex you have to stay alive.

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Jeff Lynne / Electric Light Orchestra

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when i call myself a lesbian and state that i am not (just) a woman, i am not insisting we must replace the current definition of lesbian, but expand it. when i say i'm a lesbian, i mean that i am attracted to and want to be in community spaces with queer women, yes, but i also want other people to be a part of this space as well, because their experiences are identical or near identical to those that queer women face, and/or they are attracted to those women.

i'm not saying that women who are attracted to women only and not in the wrong for saying that's what they mean by lesbianism means to them. there will be many people with that belief and its fine, but when they start to say that no one else can have their own lesbian experience that doesn't line up with theirs perfectly is when there's an issue. even 2 cisgender lesbians can have wildly different takes on what lesbianism means to them.

many lesbians are butchphobic. many lesbians are biphobic. many lesbians will not date or sleep with a queer woman who has dated and/or slept with men or people with penises. many lesbians reject butches who are also men. many lesbians in general reject trans women and other trans lesbians. that doesn't mean that they are 100% correct about lesbianism on the whole... that's just what they've defined it as, for themselves.

my definition of lesbianism includes all dykes. i'm attracted to people who identify as lesbians, dykes, sapphics,, intersex dykes, lesboys, transfem dykes, trans lesbians, lesbian trans women, boydykes, mtf butches, guydykes, butches, femmes, bi/pan/mspec lesbians, transmasc & ftm dykes, male lesbians, bisexual lesbians, multigender dykes, genderfluid sapphics, non binary dykes anyone who identifies as a lesbian sapphic and or dyke. yes i am also attracted to queer women in general, but i am mostly attracted to other lesbians, sapphics and dykes, because there is a culture that is present in these identities that are unique, which is why these terms exist to begin with. we have a nebulous shared experience that spans across many individual identities.

trans men are treated like butch dykes and lesbians regardless of how they identify. theyre bullied out of womanhood. intersex women and people receive this treatment throughout our lifetimes. transmascs, transfems, trans women and queer women in general get treated this way as well. any woman and/or femme who is even remotely gender non conforming gets hit with dyke and lesbian and butch and all kinds of slurs and insults. a lot of people relate to this experience. we're all judged for the same traits, people don't know our AGABs and our identities. many of us share exact experiences despite totally different individual experiences

lesbianism is broad. it's not narrow. it encompasses many forms of transness, from transmasculinity, transfemininity, transneutrality, bigenderism, multigenderism, two spirit, genderqueer, genderfluid, non binary, gender non conforming and many other identities. it's not simply cis woman loving cis woman. or cis woman loving non binary person, which is even worse- conflating non binary people with being women. this definition of lesbianism could not be more transphobic of it tried.

the rejection of butches who are Too Butch only makes this worse, but we can change this by allowing people who have these experiences to express themselves and engage in lesbian, dyke and sapphic spaces. our community is so vast and varied. we have unique experiences from all over the queer community that intersect with lesbianism and dyke identities. we have to celebrate and include these things and expand what we currently know about lesbianism- not replace anything, but build upon the history that came before us, and the people who are coming out as lesbians, sapphics, and dykes today.

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what happened to male socialization not being real? you were saying that a few months ago and now all trans women are male socialized? what happened?

Male and female socialization in the TERF-y sense is not real, which is to say that gendered expectations do not determine personality. My mom not letting me grow my hair out is an example of male socialization. Despite her trying to confine me to the Boy box, I keep my hair long now anyway. Do you see what I mean? When a trans woman identifies as a woman, she does so partly because in so many ways male socialization did not "take." She is not a man, so the effect male socialization had on her is radically different than the effect it would have had on cis men.

And I don't even think we should keep distrusting cis men the way we do. All it comes down to is that when you are consistently treated as one gender growing up, you generally have substantially different experiences because certain things are generally targeted towards one and not the other. For instance, an AMAB kid could join the Boy Scouts, and an AFAB kid could join the Girl Scouts. These are two very different organizations but if a child was interested in scouting they only had one option. This dividing line, with "boys" on one side and "girls" on the other, is socialization.

It does not mean trans women are trained to be men. It just means that most of them had some experiences tied to being AMAB that AFAB people did not and vice versa. There is a lot of gray area here and every person is a little different, and can even report having being socialized the way more typical of the opposite assigned sex, or a mix of both.