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When I hear the argument "but the fetus is half my DNA, I should get a say," I think, You HAD a say earlier, but once the situation exclusively involves her body, it's up to her what happens now.

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Yes fair adventurer, the name of the foul beast you must slay is “google”, once a fair and honorable wizard, Google has fallen to the dark ways and must be stopped before-

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Here's a funny little story about disability accommodation.

So I'm a bit deaf. Like...I have a prescription for a hearing aide but don't own one kind of a bit deaf. And I used to work at this noisy ass addiction treatment clinic. So even in my office I relied a lot on lipreading.

So one day I'm working with this client, and she's getting more and more upset and shut down, no matter how I try to steer us onto a calm, relaxed subject of conversation. And I can't figure out why the conversation has gone so far south.

And then I realize I am sitting at a buckwild angle in my chair, leaning waaaay over to the side. I'm almost falling off this chair. I look like a total goober.

And then I realize I'm doing that because I'm trying to lipread this client, who keeps turning further and further down and away from me. I probably would have noticed sooner but lipreading is actually kind of hard and I was focusing on noticing her upset rather than my body language.

And then it clicks.

She thinks I'm leaning like this because I am being a passive-aggressive asshole who is trying to force/shame her into making eye contact with me. I'd known this client enough to know she hates eye contact- possibly autism, possibly anxiety. Always possible it's both or something else.

I sit up straight and say. "Oh! Hey, I don't give a shit about eye contact, I'm trying to read your lips so I can understand what you're saying to me."

Instant vibe change. She relaxes, and sits upright comfortably in her chair, looking about a foot to the left of my head, so I can see her face clearly but she doesn't have to either fake or evade unwanted eye contact.

From then on things go a lot smoother, and we can get some good work done.

One side benefit from normalizing accommodations and reducing barriers to them is that it allows for low-stress conversations about what everybody needs in order to fully participate in an interaction. If I hadn't named the need I was trying to meet, she wouldn't have realized she could have her need met as well.

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The State department has changed LGBTQ to LGB.

If you claim to care about trans people now is a good time to show genuine ally ship.

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Yea, your girl is a masochist, but have you confirmed the types of pain that she's comfortable with??

Sure, your lover is into petplay, but have you talked about whether you're supposed to yank on that leash??

Absolutely, she's into degradation, but do you know whether that name makes her think of a bad ex??

Mhmm, your girl is into getting choked, but do you know how to grab her without endangering her?? Do you even know if she wants you to stop her blood flow and/or airways???

I see, your darling is into rope, but do you know whether you're tying them up in a position they don't like?? Did you even remember your rounded edge scissors in case of emergency??

Okay, so it's into CNC, do you react with care and compassion if/when it safewords??

Yea, your Dom/me is hot and scary, but have you communicated your needs, and wants, and appreciation for them?? Are you ever making sure they're having fun?? Are you ever even using your safewords, if not why?? You might need to!

Just please, I'm so so tired of hearing people pushed away from/out of kink spaces whether, online or irl, because there are some kinksters out there that cannot practice safely.

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sucks so bad when a character you love is heavily infantilized. that is a grown man he knows what a cigarette is. intimately

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bringing this back

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Earlier I was scrolling Reddit and I come across a post in r/shrooms, a sub reddit dedicated to psychadelic mushrooms and frequently featuring entries from users who are posting during a trip.

A guy posts, freaking out, that the delivery person who dropped off his food had a huge snake wrapped around his neck and the snake was talking to him and tripped him out.

He shares a picture ne sneakily took of the delivery driver.

The delivery driver actually does, in fact, have a live 7 or so foot long boa constrictor draped across his shoulders.

Can you fucking image. Being blasted out of your gourd on hallucinogenic substances, getting a random knock at the door and the guy has a live gigantic snake just chilling. Your head would explode

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Nosy ass plant

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Updating the way my lanternfly hindwings rest. The slight overlap is a more natural and comfortable way for the wings to fall, despite the initial urge to make a symmetric fold. New design on left, previous on right

There is nothing quite like sharing my art that makes me notice the flaws and aspects I'm unhappy with 😅 this is the fifth or sixth iteration of this species and it surely will not be the last :]

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for the sake of appearances i am very much a “that’s none of my business” and “i don’t need to know about that. you keep that to yourself” sort of fellow. removed. respectful. but being fully honest i AM a nasty little ears perked freak… like yes tell me all of your information without being prompted at all. i love to listen.

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you ever hear anyone say something so dumb you have to draw a new yorker cartoon about it?