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Be the person your teenage self wanted and needed in their life.

You may not be able to change the past but there will be a kid out there screaming to know people like you exist.

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Items Needed:

Microwave

Washing Machine

Oven

Stove

Bed

1 set of bed sheets

2 pillows

Laundry basket

Plates

Forks

Knives

Spoons

Cat food

Kitty litter

Drawer

Bookshelf

Hygiene Items

Phone

TV and/or Tablet

Transportation (car or bike)

Cleaning Supplies

Note: some items may come with where ever I end up living this is just a grand total list. Also, y’all are welcome to add suggestions as I’ll be updating this throughout <3



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fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.

hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho

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If you're a gassy person, listen to me at least this once i beg. It took me 18 years and outside forces to realize this, but there are literally yoga positions you can do to alleviate gas pressure and pain as well as get it out.

(Consider also, you might not realize you have food allergies)

The two most helpful poses for me personally are

#1 get on your elbows and knees and arching your back (butt towards the sky, squeezing my abs tends to help me)

#2 lay on your back and lift your legs, bent at the knee. Hold the bottoms of your feet towards the middle and gently pull your legs in towards you keeping your knees bent forward.

#3 this one also works somewhat for constipation, starting about two inches from your right hip bone, use the heel of your hand to press firmly down and move it upwards to just under your ribs, move across the abdomen in a straight line to about the nip line and go down once again, this time at the hips moving diagonally to the middle and down

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ppl need to stop telling kids and teens those are gonna be the "best years of their lives", feels like telling em things won't get any better

that thought can make ppl (especially those with trauma) feel hopeless and trapped

plus adulthood is pretty rad! free to make ur own choices!

telling kids their future is bleak is very discouraging

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I'm going to make it. No one and nothing is going to stop me.

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I don’t know who needs to hear this BUT you have to take things one step at a time. You’re frustrated because you’re trying to do it all at once. You’re trying to lose weight, buy a house & rent, practice meditation, vacation, practice gentle parenting (without gentle children), work 9-5pm with 2 hustles on the side, date, clean house, cook & save lol you’re only one person. One thing at a time my baby.

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I'm not sure how this blog will turn out, but I want to gear it towards others struggling to navigate independence and responsibility. I've had a lot of challenges that connecting with others in my situation would've helped tremendously. I thought books on "adulting" would help me in the same way, but the truth is those books are generally lacking in the most important parts of maturing. Sure, they teach you how to buy a car and budget but no book was able to teach me how to be gentle with myself during a learning period better than the people around me, it couldn't teach me how to help someone who's struggling or manage my mental health while I went through stressful times. The only writing I've found the stress of moving on depicted in helpfully was poetry, which, as you can imagine, did not help me learn how to change my windshield wipers. Hopefully, this can be the in-between for at least one other person out there, and always feel free to drop your own advice or experiences or anything else!

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everyone in this room will someday be dead- emily austin

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Lost the best years of my life to this site (I'm lying, it was middle school) so yeah, kinda a tumblr vet. Just trying to make a blog for adult me where I can post my current interests and such.

Being an adult I'll have some adult things to talk about (I will be tagging and adding warnings on sensetivr content!) I can't say for sure what this entails but most likely there will be mention of personal experiences, ex: coping with/ effects of trauma, trans and queer experience in America, dealing with difficult people and situations, recovery from bad coping mechanisms and the lighthearted things like pets, walks, memes etc.

Everything sensitive will be cut or tagged with the real letters and no extra symbols to prevent blocked tags from slipping past peoples radars and ending up on their feeds.

All walks of life and identities are welcome, but I ask that you keep it respectful even if there are things you don't understand.

  Minors on my blog, please have respect for me and yourself and know that I will always do my best if I can answer a question and provide support and resources but your best allies are those around you like parents, teachers, etc. Trust me, I've been there.

I'm a total cat dad and I'm still trying to navigate the beginnings of adulthood as well as heal myself and make a better world, follow along if you want! Now that I've said all this, I can't promise it won't be a shitposting dumpsterfire