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Counseling Juveniles, not a fit for me, maybe it's for you?

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My Encounter with a homeless in Hawai'i

A week ago, I had a heart-wrenching encounter at a bus stop in Waialae. There, I witnessed the harsh reality of the homeless crisis that plagues our society, and the complete lack of action from our government. As I waited for my bus, I overheard a young man engaging in a heated argument with a homeless individual who had made a makeshift bed on the sidewalk.The young man, genuinely concerned,…

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It's fact of life, but it doesn't have to be

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What Was I Made For (What It Meant To Me)

Looking back on my journey, I realize now that last July 2023 marked the lowest point in my battle with depression. The seventh month of mourning the loss of a loved one had left me questioning the very purpose of my existence. Determined to find healing, I set my sights on Honolulu, Hawaii, believing it would be the solution to my problems. And indeed, while I was there last April, I felt…

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Love Comes and Goes, But Can We Control it?

In a private chat group of 20 diverse psychologists, which I’m a member of, the longevity of love relationships in today’s world has been a topic of intense debate. With some members, including myself, sharing their experiences of divorce or widowhood and others claiming to maintain happy marriages, the discussion delves into the complex dynamics of relationships in the modern era. Amidst the…

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Crying is a weakness!

Yes, crying is a weakness. This is what I used to believe. In life, we often grow up with certain beliefs and perceptions that shape our understanding of emotions. For many of us, crying was seen as a sign of weakness. We were taught to hold back our tears, to hide our vulnerability, and to suppress our emotions. Maybe you, like me, grew up surrounded by strong-willed individuals who rarely…

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Emotional Independence: What is it, really?

You often hear from Psychologists of the term Emotional Independence, but do not actually fully know what it is. Are you emotionally independent? If your answer is, ” I’m not sure.” Read on… Emotional dependence is when our emotions are influenced by others, making it challenging to feel in control. Achieving emotional independence is important for good mental health, although it can be…

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2024, The Next Chapter. Are you ready?

Losing someone you truly care about is an indescribable pain that can last for an extended period of time. It’s a feeling that penetrates deep within, often leading to the development of PTSD as a result of the trauma. If you’re a friend of mine on social media and have been following my posts, especially during the year 2023, you would understand the emotions I am expressing. Perhaps you can…

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Why I Don't Chase Women

In my opinion, there is a clear distinction between pursuing and chasing women. Pursuing is rooted in confidence and abundance, while chasing is driven by the desire for validation and acceptance. When you chase someone, your actions are not genuine and tend to push others away. It is important to only pursue women who show genuine interest in you because chasing after someone who is not…

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How To Psyho-Analyze Someone Even If You're Not A Psychologist

Have you ever pondered the significance of someone’s eyes? As a practicioner in the principles of evolutionary psychology, I place great importance on our inherent capacity to observe and analyze. Whether I am engaged in direct eye contact or reviewing photographs about a client, I can assess various elements. Do they meet my gaze directly or avert their eyes? Are there certain gestures or a…

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When You Help Others You Help Yourself. What have you done lately?

As I sit in my new place on this Sunday night, building my personal website, my mind wandered to the people and the communities I have helped over the years. It has been a long and fulfilling journey, and I am inspired by the thought that each one of us is born with a purpose. I firmly believe that every individual has a “god-given talent” to help and serve those around them. It may be…

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Neuroplasticity: Reorganizing your way of thinking

I know many of you have been curious about my body transformation and how I managed to stay motivated throughout the process. Well, I recently shared a picture (posted at the bottom of this article) on social media of my amazing body progress and today, I want to share with you exactly how I did it. First of all, let me tell you about the incredible power of the human brain. Our brains have this…

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Depression and the Healing Power of Stand-Up Comedy

Depression, mild or severe, is a journey that can take us to dark places, leaving us feeling lost and hopeless. It is a personal struggle, one that I am familiar with myself. But I have always found solace in an unconventional form of therapy: stand-up comedy. Stand-up comics have a unique ability to touch our souls and bring laughter into our lives. And in the midst of my own battles with…

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Avoidance Conflict - It's why you don't fight.

A friend told me a long time ago, “I wish my ex-wife and I fought more and express our disappointments. We would still be married to this day.” (This was my former Pastor) Avoidance conflict is a pattern of communication and behavior in which individuals intentionally avoid addressing conflicts or difficult topics in a relationship. It occurs when someone chooses to withdraw, evade, or sidestep…

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Anxiety, The Silent Killer of Love Relationships

I’d like to talk to you about Anxiety today. I’ve personally seen loved-ones suffered from it. Anxiety is a common symptom connected to many types of mental illnesses. Being close to someone that struggles with anxiety can be difficult and even overwhelming, especially if you feel like you don’t know how to help them. It’s important to understand the signs of anxiety so that you can recognize…

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Embracing the Mystical Connection: Exploring the Realm of Soulmate Bonding

what is soul mate In the depths of a sleepless night, my thoughts dance around the concept of soulmates or what some call twin flames. The enchanting notion of a profound connection that defies ordinary explanation captures my imagination, pulling me deeper into the mysteries of love. Fresh from my exploration of Unconditional Love, the word “soulmate” suddenly bursts into my consciousness,…

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Is Love a Feeling or a Choice?

The concept of love being unconditional has been a topic of discussion among my friends and family recently, prompting me to delve into the subject of “real love.” Based on my personal experiences with multiple relationships, I have come to understand that when you love someone, you genuinely care for that person without expecting anything in return. Love is not contingent upon their reciprocal…