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tap tap.. adoption isnt found family! stop calling it that, its dehumanizing for adoptees! respect adoptees and treat them like human beings! not like a fictional character existing for your angst/fluff fanfictions (that get everything about adoption and how adoptees feel.. never researching anything about adoption too)
respect adoptees and stop treating them like their subhuman! 🫶
btw a good majority of adoption includes human trafficking! that isnt found family!
listen to adoptees and stay quiet!
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i know family planning is a hard topic and can be controversial, how one chooses to grow their family is a contentious topic, and often politicised for some reason, but people saying "I know that you can JUST adopt" whenever bad news comes out regarding family planning is so :/// bad feeling, you know.
or "you can always just adopt instead of doing X"
or "oh you cant do XY now! just adopt!"
or "dont' do that! that's bad! just adopt!!!"
or "it's not the end of the world. just choose adoption"
or even "just adopt!!!"
yes, let's just choose adoption. as if it's not grueling and heartbreaking for everyone involved lol let's just adopt, let's just choose this. sure you know adoption is just SO easy to do! sure you know adoption is JUST so simple, you can even hand back the child if you don't want them anymore lol. just so easy. just adopt.
the flippant way adoption is banded around is so upsetting sometimes. did you ever think about us as the adoptees? the ones who it affects the most?
i guess not!
#adoption#adoption thoughts#adoptee#my post#adoptee thoughts#adoption issues#actual adoptee#family planning
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reunion/meeting/re-meeting/getting to know your birth family is not smooth at all and I wish that non adoptees knew this and could hold more understanding and empathy for us who are trying our best to navigate this situation when all the barriers are stacked against you
it's not smooth like you see in the media, in your films and your games, and I wish that people could take their time to understand how different and difficult and easy and smooth and heartbreaking and simple and complicated it can be for so many of us.
please don't take your information for granted
#adoption#adoptee#adoption thoughts#adoptee thoughts#adoption reunion#family reunion#my post#transracial adoptee
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lucky you who live in a family who know their family members' important events, birthdays, ages.
Lucky you who can say "Oh, happy birthday to you!" instead of "oh, IS IT your birthday? I didn't know, happy birthday, what age are you?" who are you? who are you?
You are my family, you are my sister, you are my father, I do not know what age you are or how to pronounce your name.
Happy birthday for the first time from your youngest.
Happy birthday.
#adoption#adoptee#adoption thoughts#adoptee thoughts#transracial adoptee#culture#intercountry adoptee#adoption issues#birthday#biologicals#my post
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"we [characters] are having a kid it's you [other character] here's the adoption papers" "character a should adopt character b" "i want [actor] to adopt me"
no but i'm literally begging people to stop saying things like this it's genuinely not funny and honestly damaging to adoptees trying to speak up about how adoption isn't all sunshine and rainbows
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Ocean Vuong, from On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous
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Genuinely hate that 90% of the adoption tag is posts about "adoptables", animals or "found family" fanfic.
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will never not be crazy to me how something supposed to be child centered works so hard to protect the parents instead of the actual children
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everyone keeps telling me that I resemble my birth family so much
friends, family (adoptive and birth), even acquaintances whom i joyfully show my pictures to keep saying it
everyone in the village at home over there and at home over here says it too
but i don't see it at all lol I was saying it to my mother that I've spent so much time not resembling anyone at all, now that I do, it's almost another form of bewilderment it is what it is
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An adoption abolitionist’s plea:
Don’t say your for-profit artwork has been “adopted”.
Don’t advertise your portraits with cutesy phrases like “Isn’t Uwu Smolbean Rag Doll Doodlybunz peachy keen? Adopt her today for just $299!”
Don’t call buying an inanimate friggin object “an adoption”.
Doubt I’ll be heard by many. But I’ll keep saying this stuff til kept people who claim progressive and leftist values begin to comprehend that countless millions of actual living, breathing people in this world have been bought and sold as infants or children and it AIN’T FUCKIN CUTE.
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Vietnam Ethnic, Dao (Yao) people, Traditional Costume
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having to talk to my birth family through google translate only is really adding insult to injury
we're staring at each other with too wide a grin through the screen because we don't understand each other
because i don't speak your language and you don't speak mine
không dễ để học một ngôn ngữ ở độ tuổi này
nhưng em đang cố gắng rất nhiều
#adoption#adoptee#adoption thoughts#my post#adoptee thoughts#transracial adoptee#vietnam#culture#language#vietnamese#broken vietnamese
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this birth family reunion is everything i've ever wanted and yet i still feel so unfulfilled
my chest is still sore and aching but for different reasons, it's not going to go away
it still doesn't feel like it has happened - like i dreamt the whole thing up, but i didn't. maybe it's compartmentalising, maybe i need to talk about it more, or maybe being entirely in control of a situation for the first time is disorientating.
it feels like a lot.
a lot of people you tell expect you to be delighted and that everything is fine and that all of your issues go away once you've had your family reunion, you got what you wanted, you should be happy and fine now. it's not exactly the same as before, but it's similar, it's different, it's not the same, how can anything be the same again?
nothing is ever going to be the same again - i've just achieved one of my major lifetime goals, one of my biggest wishes, and it feels like everything and nothing has changed - still disorientating.
i'm riding the wave but the wave keeps getting bigger and smaller and I can't follow it. i hope it compartmentalises itself soon.
#adoptee#adoption thoughts#adoptee thoughts#transracial adoptee#adoption tracing#my post#family reunion#birth family#adoption reunion#birth family tracing
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adoption adovacy is hard bc everyone just tells you to just shut up, that's the way it always is at first, we have to stay strong
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kaeya says .... adoptee rights!
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it went like a dream
it went nothing how i expected because i didn't expect anything at all
it went too quick
it went too slow
it went so well, there's so many, and now i'm home and so far away on the other side of the world
but i have a family waiting for me, right there, all the way around the world
"it's because of family circumstances that we have to be apart but we will always be with you"
it's over and we're back to the internet but i know you're there and they know where i am
i'm home again and again and again
I'm going to Vietnam on Saturday
#my post#adoption#adoptee#adoption tracing#biologicals#family#family reunion#intercountry adoption#transracial adoption
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I won't have access to tumblr but I'll return in a week's time with an update
Hope you are all well
Stay safe
I'm going to Vietnam on Saturday
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