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You sure came here, because I liked or commented on a post - and all you found is the abandoned blog of a failed, embittered online activist. But if you follow the link, it will lead you to a much brighter place ...

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4 basic rules for being a better white ally

Guys, I quit updating this blog. You wonder why? Ya know, I feel quite incompetent to write a social justice blog. Seriously … often I had ideas for entries of my own, but then I got discouraged. Other social justice bloggers are just so much better and quicker and most important – SMARTER than me. Uh huh! Compared to them I'm just a lame copy cat. And that's not what the world needs. The world needs heroes of progress. Social justice bloggers should be heroes of progress. So I'm of no use here. But, before I leave, let me share some insights with you:

4 basic rules for being a better white ally.

No # 1 - Hell yes, humility, baby! I learnt from the web, that there are a lot of obnoxious whities thinking, being a white ally would make them somehow special – or even worse – superior! Maybe I was mislead, but not this mislead! Being a white ally is not about being proud and strutting around bragging. It's all about humility! It's about being constantly aware of the crimes committed by the whites in the past, present and – yes – in the future. I'm German. I wouldn't say that Germans are great white allies. But I think, being German can help developing humility ... For decades, if a German actor got a role in a big Hollywood production, he ended up playing the villain … Everybody knows why … And we damn deserved it … So Germans have a certain tendency to feel self-conscious about their … history … Self-consciousness is the first step towards humility. Being a white ally is our duty – not something that makes us morally superior or some crap.

No # 2 – Don't forget: You're never done. Being a white ally means, you're never done with unlearning racism. Racism is engraved into white man's education and media. We practically take it in with the milk. You have to unlearn racism as long as you live. You have to accept that we'll always be only the lesser evil but never the good guy. Deal with it fellow whitey.

No # 3 – Make no assumptions (thanks Bastard Planet ;-) )

Make no assumptions about people and cultures you don't know and probably will never understand with the grasp of your cute little white brain. Assumptions was the roots of all the toxic stereotypes. You have to accept that people of all races are human beings with human rights but you also have to accept that they have a culture and history – completely different from yours, a different mind set, different values and goals. Accept that you might NEVER understand their thoughts and feelings and that it's okay this way – that they are okay this way – that they simply have the right to be the way they are and to obtain success and happiness. You must know, colorblindness is another form of racism. You can't say, that these people are just like you – only with more or less distinct different physical traits, 'cos by saying so, you strip them of their history and culture and their racial and ethnic individual identity. You don't respect them since you belittle their individuality. You're doing that since this individuality is something you're scared of – something you can't control. Do you know why people make up stereotypes? Of women? Of people of color? They do it out of fear. They stereotype people with the hope in mind to be able to calculate their thoughts and actions. Sounds crazy? But it's true! So be fearless – make no assumptions – NEVER!

No # 4 – Get off your racist glasses – no magic trick!

A bad experience you had with a person of a different race you had with proximately 6 persons of your own race. I'm experiencing this over and over again. And always fucking again I have to put off my racist glasses.  It's a simple trick but it feels like magic. Okay you had a bad experience with person of a race different from yours. Now you think, you see a dreaded stereotype verified and you are reeeeeeeeeaaaaaally down and confused. Let me help you getting off your racist glasses ... How often did you experience this situation with a person of this race? And with HOW MANY people of YOUR OWN race did you experience the exact same thing? Bingo! You went through the same situation with lots of peeps of your own race and one person of a different race but you only saw this other, foreign person like a big fat purple elephant in the middle of the crowd.

Good bye guys, wish you great bloggin'. Spread the love!

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Should we ban bossy?

Short answer: YES

For more info: #BanBossy posts on Profeminist

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Reblog if you wanna give Leslie Jones just the biggest hug and think she's beautiful

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Truth about police brutality and how to become stronger in our society

Aired so many years ago, still accurate.

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We have ‘well regulated’ nail clippers and 3oz of liquids in America, but not guns.

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She shines so bright and I'm deeply impressed of her strength, calm and positivety. It makes me even prouder to be a woman. She is a great role model. I wish the happy couple all the best.

This Woman’s Response To People Who Shamed Her Engagement Photos Is Too Perfect

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Ask yourself: 1.Do I feel like I can say what I need to say in my relationship? 2. Do I listen to my partner about what’s bothering them? 3. Do I feel comfortable saying “no” and “stop” to my partner? Will they listen? 4. Can I talk with my partner about using condoms and birth control?

Click here for more great information about healthy relationships! 

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This is absolutely disgusting.

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You’re never ‘too much’, nor are you insufficient. Laugh loudly, smile with all your teeth showing, don’t apologize if there’s no reason for it, if you dislike shaving, don’t do it. Never hide yourself. You’re far too precious and unique to be hidden.

What’s on my mind (via thoughts-of-the-awakening)

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It may be pride month, but let’s not forget aces and aros who are unhappy with their orientations. You are still important and loved.

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So you’re saying white privilege doesn’t exist in America?..

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thank you

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Guanyin, Monkeys, and Crane, Muqi Fachang, 13th century (Southern Song Dynasty)

Happy Chinese New Year and Year of the Monkey!

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The Carters @ the CFDA Awards