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i’m so fucking glad people know neil gaiman is a peice of shit now.

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radfem youtubers

a list of small radfem/lesbian/feminist adjacent & anti sw youtubers/content creators, rb with additions if you have more!:

🦋 Grace Adetoro (african radfem commentator/video responses)

🖤 feminist vhs archive (a hidden gem, old 80s-90s feminist content reuploader, andrea dworkin & radfem/edits memes!)

🦋 Elly Arrow (focuses on anti porn/prostitution content, video essays, commentary)

🖤 Lisa Michele (active steamer, fitness content, commentator, vlogger, childfree radfem!)

🦋 amy. (terf memes, songs & edits)

🖤 Radical Ramblings (video essays, presentations, livestreams)

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Pre-menstrual depression is always depicted as like "He He! I had a box of icecream bars and cried while watching the Titanic!" But in reality, it's more like, "I'm standing the edge of an abyss. There is nothing good inside of me, I'm filled with rage and desperation."

It's crazy that being told how to deal with that is never a part of anyone's menstrual sex education.

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god forbid a girl be a little controversial in her lifetime

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this website’s attitude toward gender non-conforming children and its universal insistence that boys who wear skirts aren’t really boys and girls who like short hair and non-feminine colors aren’t really girls is SO primitive and harmful.

how is ~othering~ children who don’t meet your performance standards for their sex NOT reinforcing oppressive patriarchal gender roles and expectations?

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Maggie Smith, photographed in Venice (1966)

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Thank you so much for your comprehensive and thought-provoking response. You’re honestly incredibly intelligent and humble, and reading your response was affirming, thought-provoking, and refreshing. Can you say more about why you think saying you can change your biological sex is *immoral,* as you put it? Thank you!

Hi hi! I’m glad that response was meaningful for you! I hope this one will provide something similar.

It’s immoral to tell someone they can change their biological sex because it’s a lie. It’s cruel to give someone that hope. To tell them that they can escape the pain and anguish they feel and trade it out for becoming their ‘true self’.

I know many women in this space are familiar with this promise. Happiness is right around the corner, right within grasp. It’s done with synthetic hormones and surgeries, and soon you won’t be miserable anymore. You can live life the way everyone else seems to: happily, with contentment.

There are a number of tragic anecdotes I could share, but those are not my stories to tell, nor are they statistics. Though I do think those should go hand in hand to tell a full story. Put the humanity in the numbers and vis versa.

The point is this: be truthful and earnest in all that you do. Honesty is the greatest kindness in this world. Being deceived leads to distrust in the people around you, leads to solitude and isolation. That is the last thing anybody needs. Community is the birthplace of love, and trust is woven in through that.

I sound like a total hippie running my mouth. What’s new lol. Peace and love, dude :)

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Do you think it would be possible to accept trans-identified people’s pronouns and the like if they accepted the reality of biological sex? Like a “born in the wrong body” idea. Is that what “”transmedicalism” is? Because anyways like. For me, I know I’ve tried to argue that the reality of sex (+ sex-based oppression) disproves trans identity and claims, but TRAs who I’m friends with still claim sex exists. And it’s difficult because the axis of sex can change how their arguments work entirely, whether they believe in biological sex or “it’s a spectrum/not real/etc.” And… it (no sexual dimorphism) seems a more recent, online development than in real life, or is that just me? Sorry if this doesn’t make sense and I’m just rambling. It’s hard to put it into words if that makes sense, it gets so confusing sometimes!

Hi hi! I’m sorry, I’m sure this has been sitting in my inbox for months and I simply didn’t see it! I’ve been thinking a lot about this, and I’m afraid the answer I’m going to give you is imperfect.

People are not born in the wrong bodies. The arguement I continuously saw was that people have male or female brains, and sometimes those brains don’t correspond with the right bodies, hence the existence of trans people. This concept has been disproven again and again, which I believe is why it’s not seen as often as it had been previously. After that came the ‘biological sex is a spectrum’ nonsense.. I have no idea how to begin having a conversation about that one, honestly.

Trans-ness is a social construct. It is the result of conditioning, intentionally or not. We are affected by the way we were brought up as children, how we learn to view men and women, what content we were exposed to and interact with. You know that shitty Garfield meme “You are not immune to propoganda”? It’s true. Our psyches are formed by positive and negative feedback, and we don’t even realize it.

There are situations when I can’t blame an individual for feeling what they feel. It is difficult to overcome that conditioning. As someone that was raised in an orthodox church, I still feel the urge to pray when I am in a tough situation. That doesn’t mean that behavior is logical, only that it was enforced. We must be concious of how we rationalize our behaviors. Thoughts, actions, etc. I do think, if your friends are open to it, that it would be wise to have a conversation to get to the bare bones of what they believe and why. Often times, that is enough to spark genuine change.

Personally, I have two requirements for respecting pronouns. The first is that the individual must know and acknowledge their biological sex. The second is the individual must pass. I base my usage of pronouns on observation, and sometimes trans-identified people do pass. Am I morally just for doing so? I don’t know. This is something I think about more than I would like. I think it is up to you to decide what pronouns you use, why, and with who. You are allowed to cherry pick. Life is not made of homogenous situations.

It is easier to use your friends’ pronouns. It’s easier to conceed. You avoid argument, you keep your friends. Speaking from experience, this option is not worth it. Have those talks. Listen to understand where they are coming from, and speak with the intent that they are also making that effort. Don’t start this conversation with the goal of responding. Neither party will get anywhere. If you find that you disagree and there is no chance that either of you will change your opinions on the matter, that’s fine too. I won’t say it’ll always end well, because it doesn’t. Sometimes you remain friends anyway.

The last thing I’ll say, and forgive me for rambling, is that saying a person can change their biological sex is immoral. It is an immense disservice. While I use preferred pronouns on a case by case basis, I will never say a biological woman can become male, or vis versa. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide how you want to approach this situation. My advice to you is to keep learning, keep reading, keep having these hard conversations. I hope it goes well :)

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how to become disembodied pro tips

1. never exercise, don’t even go for a walk if you can help it

2. socialize online where no one can see your face and body or hear your voice

3. orgasm only when you’re alone watching a video of strangers having a scripted interaction

4. never make something. never even put a premade something together.

5. refuse to touch and be touched

6. get everything delivered

7. replace what you have lost with fantasies of a life

8. deny that you feel the loss

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I've asked this question before and been surprised by the results, now I have access to more weirdos it's your problem:

It is the middle of a Sunday afternoon. You have nothing on, and aren't expecting visitors, deliveries or post.

Unexpectedly, there is a knock at the door.

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While I nodded, nearly napping, suddenly there came a slapping,

As of some one gently flapping, flapping at my chamber door.

“’Tis some fairy,” I muttered, “slapping at my chamber door—

            Only this and nothing more.”

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since i've been seeing too many "positivity" posts for these degenerates lately, let me say this. all rapists and pedophiles deserve death. end of. no rehabilitation, no ifs, ands, or buts. just death, immediately.

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Italian sculptress and art jewelry maker, Chiara Voliani

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Reminder: Xylitol is very toxic to pets so if you decide to start using it, be careful around pets.

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J. K. Rowling and Neil Gaiman are such a funny contrast to me, like Rowling: Oh, and by the way, I put gay characters in my books. People: Is there anything... showing that? Rowling: No. Also trans women don't deserve respect People: wtf Gaiman: Here are some immortals that transcend all human concepts of gender and attraction who use a variety of pronouns, and also some clearly canon human queers. People: Are the immortals queer? Gaiman: That is an entirely valid way to view them. Other people: Ugh, pushing a modern woke agenda. It used to be- Gaiman: Fuck you

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crazy how jk actually never said that. crazy how she actually said she would stand with trans people if they were discriminated against because they were trans. wild.

also, they’re writing for different genres. gaiman writes (mostly) for adults. harry potter is for children. there is a considerable difference for what can be put into those genres (remember when the christians held harry potter book burnings bc it had witchcraft?). just throwing this out here: dumbledore being gay is not relevant to the story she was telling. it just wasn’t. it was relevant to gaiman’s books.

J. K. Rowling and Neil Gaiman are such a funny contrast to me, like Rowling: Oh, and by the way, I put gay characters in my books. People: Is there anything... showing that? Rowling: No. Also trans women don't deserve respect People: wtf Gaiman: Here are some immortals that transcend all human concepts of gender and attraction who use a variety of pronouns, and also some clearly canon human queers. People: Are the immortals queer? Gaiman: That is an entirely valid way to view them. Other people: Ugh, pushing a modern woke agenda. It used to be- Gaiman: Fuck you