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MIGHT remake/move this blog into a more positive space where i can actually talk and be Myself without worrying about being too much. i do it a lot but i think i need a fresh slate

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new blog @fakestorchestra

MIGHT remake/move this blog into a more positive space where i can actually talk and be Myself without worrying about being too much. i do it a lot but i think i need a fresh slate

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MIGHT remake/move this blog into a more positive space where i can actually talk and be Myself without worrying about being too much. i do it a lot but i think i need a fresh slate

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I couldn’t get to all the characters that were requested, but here’s all the options that will be set up for the phone charm preorders soon that’ll be open March 15th - March 30th!

I’ll make a post that’ll link to the preorders Friday!

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your platonic fem f/o thinks you're awesome btw. she told me she thinks you're rad and fun to hang out with and if it were a choice between you and her most favourite thing in the whole world she'd choose you. everytime. yeah, yeah she told me that. just thought you should know

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going to change things around a bit and hopefully post some more art and writing... now that my love for self shipping has been a bit reignited

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i dont Ship them (i do not 'officially' ship many things but thats beyond the point) but im a deloha fan as in i think the potential for a relationship there would be very interesting. is that the ship name i havent engaged with fandom since a decade ago

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i think something also needs to be said re: the rampant misogyny in self ship spaces and a lot of it stemming from unchecked jealousy, and how i’ve seen self shippers brand their f/o’s canon love interests as unhealthy or toxic or even abusive and calling them bitches just because (sheen voice) one she’s a female two she’s not a boy and most importantly SHE’S A GIRL

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(drafted this post back in feb 27 but modified a bit before posting)

this post really makes me want to talk about the phenomenon i've observed on self ship tumblr specifically where men are so hostile to other self shippers who ship/share with their male f/os because they perceive them as an immediate threat and "ew a girl".

i understand being incredibly irked when a character is canonically gay or very heavily implied to be and women ship with them or are getting shipped with them. i agree it's disrespectful as fuck when people ignore canon or heavily implied identities just bcz they wanna be self indulgent.

but also, sometimes your misogyny is just so blatant.

i understand being protective of gay headcanons. but headcanon is not canon, nor is it necessarily "coded" or "implied". and some people simply like spreading misinformation to accuse people, specifically women, of being homophobic.

and even when it comes to characters who are canon gay or implied/coded, i've seen self shippers go "ew a girl" at another self shipper, and you look at that other self shipper and they're just. someone who uses she/her, or presents feminine (sometimes overtly), and they're not even necessarily a woman. yet they get labeled as a cis woman and their self ship with the gay character is treated as a "het ship perpetuating homophobia". you aren't being slick, that's just blatantly trying to misgender other people. nonbinary people, gnc trans people, unlabeled people, people who are trying to figure out/questioning their gender, and the like... they all don't owe you, a stranger, jackshit or an explanation for why they are "allowed" to ship with a character. and they sure as hell don't deserve to be misgendered on the basis of "ew, a girl ships with my f/o".

and the root of the misgendering stems from how people think it's okay to use "woman" or "girl" as an insult and weaponize it. people can be so casually misogynistic in self ship spaces even now. even if a self shipper is a cishet woman she's not immune to misogyny she can experience from other self shippers. and some self shippers brand others as "cishet woman" in their minds (or even worse, brazenly out loud) regardless of whether or not it's true, because then they think it means they can make that self shipper a target, someone they can talk down to because they think oppression works like pokemon type advantages and rock paper scissors. even trans men are not immune to behaving like this, whether it's a conscious effort or not. in fact, i'd argue there's a lot of unchecked misogyny from trans men in self ship spaces.

people don't have to say the exact phrase to make it clear the way they think is "ew, a girl ships with my f/o", by the way. "it makes me uncomfortable when women ship with my male f/o" is, to be blunt and frank, a you problem if your f/o is not canonically gay. it's something you should examine on WHY you think like that, exactly. you are not immune to being misogynistic. think about what you're saying about women self shippers (or those who you perceive as women while blatantly misgendering them because you think somehow them being labeled as "women" makes it free game to condescend at them) and take a step back and examine how you word things. especially if you're posting on your public blog where other self shippers can see. "don't be misogynystic" doesn't stop just bc you're posting on a personal blog.

this isn't a vague, this isn't "pointless drama/discourse", this is based on observations i've had for the past few years. nobody is immune to being a misogynist and examining the way you think and perceive others, especially if it's out of jealousy, is important. otherwise that way of thinking might go unchecked and can get worse. do better.

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"BEAUTIFUL QUARANTINE / CIRCUMVENT ME"

[extra thanks to @kylars-princess for getting it glazed for me for here,, :>]

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if that coat's big on him it must be massive on someone smaller

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☝️one thing i want to say. i just got hit with a wave of nostalgia for one of my oldest hyperfixations circa 2013ish and if this persists i might just re-add an original f/o to the list

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mutuals I hope you know in my mind our s/is are friends and skipping through a field of flowers together and going wahoo yippee!!

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If you have a fem f/o, romantic, platonic or familial doesn't matter, please like this post! (Also feel free to rb with your fem f/o ships <3)

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Y’know what? BIGGEST! HUGEST! Shoutout to all the self-shippers with romantic f/o’s they can’t exactly kiss on the lips and make out with in the conventional way most human/humanoid couples would! Like monsters, aliens, robots and other creatures because of the significant difference in size or completely different anatomy. I think it’s hella cute thinking up and trying to figure out a bunch of different comfortable ways to kiss or nuzzle one another in various places that are more unique, that work out for the both of you and would make you both feel just as flustered and loved! ( ੭ ˘ ³˘)੭‎°｡⋆♡‧₊˚

(Pro/Comshippers fuck off! This post ain’t for you!)

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♡ Imagine patching up your f/o after an altercation.  They knew to come to you for help. You may or may not ask how they got themselves in the state they were, perhaps they’re quiet and reserved about the ordeal when they first called, preferring to not discuss what happened to spare you the gruesome details. Or alternatively they tell you how everything unfolded as you clean their wounds gently, trying not to press them about their choices.  Whether it’s minor scratches, a deep gash or a gunshot wound, they knew to trust you with patching them up. Especially if they couldn’t trust immediate help depending on what they did exactly.  A certain closeness to them as you stitch them up is relieving, the silence and comfort of being near them and making sure they’re okay by your own hands. Applying bandages and checking in with them to make sure nothing is too tight or uncomfortable. It’s a time of bonding between you both, making sure they’re all cleaned up and ready to heal over the next few days. Stripping them of their bloodied clothes, running them a bath or a shower, and making sure they don’t strain themselves by moving too quickly.  Expressing how you love and care about them, and how they have to be a little more careful no matter what business they get up to. You can’t afford to lose them, they know this, and they promise you to try and be a bit more ample to preserving their body from more harm. Though they appreciate what you do for them, and how you don’t judge them for how they got such injuries in the first place. They love you for this, for being so accepting and caring, it might not be something they were used to, but you’ve changed that for the better. 

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⋇⊶⊰❣⊱⊷⋇ Promo time?

Hi, Claire here!

I’m a selfshipper who’s huge into the big three toku!

My main f/os from each at the moment are Gira and Jeramie from Kingohger

Ace Ukiyo from kamen rider Geats

And ultraman Hikari!

Faves doc

I’m always good with sharing!