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You ever been in a state where you physically have no energy, but you're bored and socially understimulated so you kind of wish you could just invite people to come over like this:

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Working a customer service/customer facing job has taught me that people are just as self entitled as I was worried they were.

I am a receptionist for a vet clinic. We are a small vet clinic that only has one vet. Which means we book up really fast. Yet the amount of people who call in and expect a same day appointment is infuriating. And then to get frustrated and yell at me as though it wasn't your poor planning that put you in that situation.

Don't even get me started on how unhappy people are with me when I tell them they need to make a deposit to schedule an appointment. I've been working here for 6 months. That policy has been in place for 4 years. So stop complaining to me that you think making a deposit is absurd or how you won't be brining your pets back because you would need to make a deposit to schedule them an appointment.

Like honestly people pull your head out of your ass and realize that the employee that has to handle customers and their complaints is a person too. In all likelihood they're a person who doesn't have a lot of authority with their company, so getting angry and upset with them won't change anything besides the fact that employee is now having an even shittier day thanks to you.

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On god I better not be actually considering going onto discord while at work. I've grown complacent with browsing Tumblr at work. I want the social interaction. But also YOUR AT WORK BITCH YOU SHOULDN'T BE ON ANY SOCIAL MEDIA

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Please talk to me I have no idea how to people properly

Messaging people for the first time is so hard. What am I supposed to say? Like, "You seem really odd and your blog intrigues me. Do you want to have philosophical conversations or perhaps talk about fictional characters?" What! Whatever. I will just follow you back and stare at your blog with my big beautiful brown eyes.

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I am a simple man. I see "tulpa" mentioned on a blog, i block indiscriminately.

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People want to help you until your problem becomes annoying to deal with

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I'll never be able to understand how someone can be told a term is bad, how that term is bad, how that term is used to hurt people, and ignore all that so they can continue to use it.

If you've been told how the term RAMCOA is bad and antisemitic but you still continue to use it, you suck. If you didn't know this doesn't apply to you. RAMCOA as a term is antisemitic and outdated. That doesn't mean the trauma isn't real but it does mean you should be using a different term. Just use OA, it's easy. It doesn't downplay your trauma at all, it's a real thing, it isn't a term used to describe a conspiracy theory, and it isn't antisemitic.

It's crazy that there are people who will freak out over someone acknowledging the flaws in the term RAMCOA as if we're invalidating trauma when we're not, we're just saying to stop using a term rooted in antisemitism. It's like calling autism "asperger's" knowing it's both outdated and a harmful term. RAMCOA is both outdated and a harmful term, so why don't you stop using it?

RAMCOA deniers are not abuse deniers. We're just sick of seeing people normalize an antisemitic term.

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"We have no set DNI however we will block if we're uncomfortable in any way. We are not a NSFW blog, but we occasionally talk about adult related topics, all tagged appropriately. The only thing we are very strong about is endos"

Why draw the line at endos? Like it almost made me laugh, there are so many worse things. Why is that your only thing? What did endos do to you?

Because endos want to know if a space is for them. Our blog isn't for endos. Our blog also isn't for pedophiles or racists or bigots or transphobes. The reason why we dont say "hey fucking pedos dont interact" is because they wont throw a massive tantrum if they interact and then find out our views. "transphobes dont interact" if they wanna interact after seeing our pronouns, they will. easy block.

endos do this thing where they expect every space on the internet to be for them. they hear the word system, they see the word alter. and they love jumping in. this is not a safe space for them. us constantly saying were anti endo, endos fuck off, endos dont touch this post. its to show others that this is a safe space for people with DID. and its a warning to endos. they will get shit on if they ignore the massive signs saying, leave us the fuck alone.

the reason why we dont do this for anything else. racists, pedos, transphobes, is because we see less of them on here, and because they wont listen either. we aren’t going to get attacked if we block or call out a racist transphobic pedo. we do however run the risk of getting severe backlash (not only just from saying it) if we dont make it clear we're anti endo, and then get mad if endos interact.

this is not a safe space for endos. this is not a safe space for you, if you're asking this question. endos need to fuck off and let us have our fucking own space. we could say dni to whoever the fuck we want. this is our blog and our space, we dont need reasons. but as soon as it is relating to people who like to worm their way into communities and to constantly demedicalise a disorder and equating their spiritual practice to a disorder, we get hate. suddenly we need a reason. and suddenly, no reason is justified.

so endos dni, pro endos dni, "mixed origins" dni.

this isnt a safe space for people who do not care to understand dissociative identity disorder. this isnt a safe space for those who claim to be a system without trauma.

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So my nephew is 2. And the body's name has some letters that are hard for a toddler to pronounce. So until further notice I am Uncle Corn

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Realizing I have boundary issues once again.

There is a small thing that has been bothering me. It's literally so insignificant I don't know why it bothers me so much. But since it's such a small insignificant thing I should be able to talk to someone to stop it from happening.

But then in hit by an intense feeling that I'm the one causing a problem by being bothered by this small insignificant thing and I should just get over it. And if I try talking to someone about changing it they'll get upset with me for that reason.

And I realize I feel that way because that's how this situation has played out many times in the past.

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My favorite thing (realizing I often start posts with my favorite/least favorite thing) about sharing a social media as a DID system is randomly logging into tumblr and seeing a post written, but not published.

Like I just logged in to see a post about what terms we prefer when describing our anatomy as someone who is trans. And like I didn't write that. And I find it hilarious that whoever did write it like the term cooter.

Or just logging in and seeing barely started/unfinished posts. I've got a draft saved now that just says "Okay this is fucked." Don't know what is fucked but I appreciate the sentiment.

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New Intro Post / Searching for Friends

Hello! You can call us Solar or Poly (kinda funny how we've taken on one of our sexual/romantic identities and turned it into a nickname.)

We are a self-diagnosed DID system, working towards diagnosis. We won't be introducing our alters unless you're someone we're close to.

We are bodily 22, and use he/they/it pronouns collectively.

If you haven't gathered by our blog name yet we are polyamorous. We also collectively identify as transmasc and somewhere between gay and bi.

We're looking for friends, singlets or systems. But I don't want to make system friends where the only thing we talk about is being a system.

Some of our interests include:

Games (Stardew Valley, Skyrim, Mario Games, Dating Sims, and probably more games, I cant really remember)

Shows [genres] (Anime, Romance, Drama, Fantasy, Adventure, or Comedy.)

Webtoons, specifically historical romance webtoons, or webtoons about Isekai. (current interest I'm fixated on, lets see how long it lasts)

Our DNI: Endos or their supporters (some alters are iffy with endo neutrals), Trans-ID, minors, fictive-heavy systems (you make us uncomfy), people who use the term RAMCOA, and of course the general DNI criteria, but saying that feels redundant. I'll probably add more if I feel like it.

And finally some tags we use:

#poly-pothead - Any posts we make will have this tag

#poly-hothead - A tag we'll use when posting things that might be controversial

More tags may be added as needed.

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Hey can my boss, the owner of the company I work for, stop talking about retiring soon. Like bro I just started this job half a year ago, don't take it away from me already.

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things I need to read 100000 times a day while existing

things you need to read 100000 times per day when you're working

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Every single comment/post I type out...

do you ever start writing a comment on the internet and then think “oh what the fuck am i going on about” and delete it

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Fucked up thought I've had since I was a kid.

I was taught that to be early is to be on time be on time is to be late and to be late is to be forgotten.

Yet in the end it will be time that forgets me.