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everyone of any gender is capable of harm of whatever kind, whether that be abuse, assault, bigotry, anything. and capable of being harmed by it too. i’m just tired of people being treated as inherently more or less dangerous and more or less vulnerable to being hurt by on the basis of their gender identities alone. using it/he and wearing more hoodies now doesn’t thicken my skin to the catcalls i still get on the street and it doesn’t make me feel like turning around and being misogynistic towards someone else neither. people treat my masculinity like a weapon, or at least like a shield. i’m so horribly sorry my shorter hair and unmade face make me so scary to you, a hideous monster that couldn’t possibly need a place to talk about having one day been a scared little girl too, about still carrying the scars of misogynistic sexual violence that left me wary at the sight of strange men for years. but i bleed the same blood as before even when there’s some more T in it.

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i feel the same way about the term tmra as i do about tra

like yeah obviously i think trans people (including trans men) deserve rights????? why dont you????? why does that make me equivalent to an mra in your eyes for advocating for trans rights?????

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i’m starting a new ideology called poonerism that’s all about how trans men and transmascs are the most oppressed people in the whole world and other trans people but especially trans people amab are so so privileged over us and barely feel transphobia compared to us so literally anything we say or do to them is punching up. we’re called poonies and will exclusively identify ourselves and our beliefs that way but NOBODY besides us is allowed to say that word EVER because it’s a SLUR and if you say it you’re being transphobic towards us and admitting you think there’s an evil underground network of scary abusive trans men trying to take over the world. because I said so.

/satire. you know what about.

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Transandrophobes unironically think trans men are well-liked by both terfs and mras.

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Trans guys: *literally just talking about how misogyny can affect them*

Some people on this site, for some godforsaken reason: “See!?!?! Those horrible transandrobros just think trans men are women and trans women are men >:(“

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i think just the statement "masculinity is always praised no matter who presents that way" rlly shows that a lot of people on here who call themselves feminists don't actually know anything about basic feminist or queer history. seems more likely that they've picked this language up to seem less hateful

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i open tumblr. i see “infighting is a dogwhistle.” i just pound my face into the table a few times. i post this. i close tumblr. goodnight.

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"TERFs don't actually hate men; they actually see trans women as women because they engage in transmisogyny against us!"

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't think that "ExterminatetheYchromosome.tumblr.com" thinks that we're women because we say we are...

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yknow in another life i think i could have genuinely like the term tboy for myself but ive seen too many people use it to mean "trans men i think are annoying white teenage girls"

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i do not condone misogyny, but i can understand the male victims who are bitter about feminism and it lack of nuance towards the female offender. And the constant sanctimonious praise and shielding of women against crimes that they get away with because of patriarchy and the idea that women can't be sexually violent as men. if you must insist on supporting all victims, why is your resources still gender segregated, and include trans and gay men in that segregation who have very high rates of assault but no support? why is the only support group on campus "femme identified only" yet you don't make a space for masc people as an alternative?

the whole, it makes women feel unsafe argument is fucking horseshit if your abuser was female or you are a gay man and your abuser was male. i can't forcibly segregate myself from both men and women because both people abused me. what about the lesbian victims of abusive female partners? I am still attracted to men even though I was raped by one and I still have share spaces with him regardless of my fear.

I was raped as a man and as a woman. Where exactly do I belong when it comes to supportive spaces because i'm certainly not welcomed in your supposed feminist space because i pass as male now. where do i go? or am i less of a victim now that i look like a man? you can't support all victims, then turn some of us away because it's less convenient for some of you.

the fact of the matter is that we matter less. we are unimportant and worth forgetting about. your insectionality theory doesn't serve me when i'm left to fend for myself.

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how many gags where someone supposed to look like a man turns around and gasp haha so funny and shocking it's actually a woman have you seen compared to the inverse. because i've seen a solid handful of transmisogynistic jokes exactly like this and can't recall a single one joking about masculine women.

ok but like. can we talk abt how it’s seen as funnier and more ridiculous/offensive to call a “man” a girl’s name than it is to call a “woman” a guy’s name and the kind of transmisogynistic jokes and rhetoric that use that against trans women and transfems all the time

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ok but like. can we talk abt how it’s seen as funnier and more ridiculous/offensive to call a “man” a girl’s name than it is to call a “woman” a guy’s name and the kind of transmisogynistic jokes and rhetoric that use that against trans women and transfems all the time

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trans man: exists

TERFs: obviously SHE'S been groomed by the evil queers to hate herself and to seek an escape from the patriarchy by becoming the patriarchy

"trans friendly" radfems: no, he's a MAN and he was always a man because that's how gender works. which meanssss he's inherently an aggressor and part of the patriarchy and cannot relate to real women and thus an inherent danger to them unless proven otherwise!

trans man: 😐

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also yeha because i just saw someone else mention this: forcemasc IS transgressive for kink spaces because trans men & mascs are frequently infantalized , feminized and forced into submissive roles. and its not just an old issue, i see it on here every day. ppl love to reduce trans men to their (assumed) pussies and then get mad when we try to have any sexual agency

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I don't really know what to say the danger of shoving trans women in men's restrooms and the danger of shoving trans men in women's restrooms do not feel quite equal to me tbh. :(

cool I'll tell that to the next trans guy who suffers a traumatic head injury from being beaten up by a cis guy for using the women's restroom

what do you want me to say here. why is it a competition. why are we going into this with the presupposition that one side of the trans binary must have it worse.

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WHAT????????????

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT??????

HUH??????????????????????

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Any other trans mascs feel like the pressure to conform to toxic masculinity is extra intense by a society who won't accept us otherwise but also the pressure to not conform even slightly to toxic masculinity or even traditional masculinity at all is extra intense from others?