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shout out to descientia for being an amazing ignis rper! like wow! THEY ROCK! I LOVE THEIR WRITING AND THOUGHTS ON IGNIS

     SENDING SOME PIKA POSITIVITY TO @descientia!

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Someone in the fandom I'm in manipulated me into relapsing in my self harm and caused me to attempt suicide. I keep seeing them all over my dash despite having blocked/blacklisted them. We have mutuals and I'm worried for their safely, and I don't know what to do

   First of all dear, please do not hurt yourself. You are so loved & cared about. you are the only YOU in this entire world

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Can you please send some positivity to echoesxofxthexpast? The mun is going through a really tough time right now.

   POSITIVITY & LOVE TO @echoesxofxthexpast

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Filming guy again sorry. see my dad's getting arrested sometime after next week, we had a talk today told him he needed to get help he promised me he will and I told him I'd support him but he doesn't know he's gonna get arrested and I keep telling him idk why my siblings won't talk to him (even tho I do) I mean the filming is just tip of the iceberg. I'm sorry I'm kinda confiding in this blog I suppose I just need constant reassurance

    Friend, I would not believe your father, not after what he’s done. & I think your siblings do not want to talk to him because they probably feel uncomfortable around him. I really believe that if you want to rid yourself of this feeling you need to put distance between you & your father. I mean after what he’s done, I do not think you need to be around that. I think these feelings you are having is your body & mind trying to tell you to get out of that situation. Our bodies have a wonderful way of telling us & alerting us of bad situations. 

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Hello it's me again, the guy with the filming incident. I'm kind of on the verge of having a mental breakdown because I have to keep going back to see him every weekend to help with a job that I don't get paid for. He doesn't get arrested til the end of this month and every day I keep doubting myself that I did the right thing . I don't wanna not see him cause it'll be too suspicious I just wish I could stop thinking and feeling guilty about it .... thank you.

   Take a deep breath friend. I promise you do not need to feel guilty for turning him in! I don’t think you should help him anymore. You need to create distance. The more distance you put between the two of you, I’m sure you will start to feel better. You did the right thing, friend. I promise you. 

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I... Am I a bad person if I don't love my abusive spouse any longer? And if I slept with someone else who was giving me huge emotional support and we got swept up in a moment? I know cheating is wrong and I didn't ever think I would even be capable of it, but there's no denying what happened and I don't really feel sorry for it. I'm terrified of speaking out about what I did, I don't know how hed react or what he would do to me though and I'm really doubting myself as a person in general now..

   First of all, you are NOT a bad person! You made a mistake that is all! Plus, you are in an abusive relationship--there are so many factors that went into this mistake that you have to forgive yourself! I also think you MUST get out of this relationship. Call your friends or family to stay with them & have them with you when you tell your spouse it is over. Or you can even call the police! You deserve to be happy, & be safe! You are not a bad person, friend! You are wonderful! 

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I need help. I might be having a small panic attack idk, I'm just so worried for my Dad because he's in the military and I've been reading a lot about how we could be on the brink of war and I don't want to deal with the stress of war, but what really gets me is my Dad is super important in the US navy and I'm afraid for his safety. He's almost out of the military and now his life is at more risk than ever and I can't think straight, I'm so scared.

   Ok friend, I am here! What I want you to do first is take a DEEP breath. I want you to hold that for 3 seconds then I want you to release for 3 more seconds! I want you to take into account your breathing & think about your body for a moment. Take into account your breathing & your finger tips & just how your body is moving. It will give your mind a bit of relaxation. Now, I know what is going on in the world right now is scary & nerve wreaking. You are not alone in your fears. I think it is best to talk to your father about your fears. I think it will definitely put you at ease & help ease the trouble in your mind. He loves you very much & I know he wants to help you through this! It will be alright!

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I don't think I'll be able to sum up my problems with my remaining 431 characters but here it goes. I'm a fourteen year old Irish girl with divorced parents. My dad isn't ever present in my life and I have severe depression. Like, Hannah Baker depression. I've always been bullied and a few years back the people in my class started spreading rumours that I was an accident and that's why my dad left. I get slagged for liking Harry Potter but I like it as it was the only book my dad read to me.

   I am so sorry you are having to deal with such small minded people, dear. Sadly bullying is still running rampant these days. But please know that it isn’t your fault your father left. You are NEVER responsible for another’s actions. What they do is on them, not you. I know it has caused you lots of pain, & I am so sorry for that. But you are not the reason he left. I truly believe you should talk with your mother as to what has been happening. Perhaps you both could find a different school, or at least talk about the problems you have been having. You are definitely loved, so please do not hesitate to reach out

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(tama) but she's also obsessed with fictional boyfriends and obsesses over them. she wants different goals later on in life (living in the city where i don't), & she won't be able to move to my state until at least two years from now. we rarely communicate outside of texting which i don't like, and we have different work schedules and stuff..i don't know if i love her romantically any more....i'll definitely talk to her about my worries, but i don't want to ruin a friend i've had for years..

   Perhaps tell her that you want to still be friends, but that long distance is not working for you. You just have to be honest. It is ok for things not to work out, that’s what dating is. You find out what you want out of your romantic partner! All will be alright, friend! 

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(tama) i need some advice! i'm currently in a long-distance relationship with someone who's one month younger than me. i used to have a sort-of obsession and major crush on her, and it took a year of asking out for her to be my gf. lately our communication hasn't been the best and she seems to be really attached to one other person that some other people ship her with (which is weird.)

   Long distance relationships are always hard, but they can be achievable if you communicate! Communication is DEFINITELY key in a relationship like this! I believe that you should tell your significant other your fears & your thoughts on what is going on. Nothing will improve if the other does not know what is going on. I hope this helps! 

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This blog makes me smile and it makes me really happy to see a freindly pikachu giving freindly advice and helping other people with thier problems. Please never go away, you are a silver lining in the storm of today. Shoutout to @pikapositivity for being so awesome!

oH GOSH! THIS IS SO SWEET, PIKA PAL! I AM JUST HAPPY I CAN OFFER SOME HELP & ADVICE! I KNOW SOMETIMES IT IS HARD TO ASK FOR HELP, SO THAT’S WHY I MADE THIS! YOU’VE GOT A FRIEND IN ME! REMEMBER THAT YOU’RE NEVER ALONE! 

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Marriagenon. I've been making plans to tell him right before I leave for a trip with a few friends who wanted to get me out of the house & away from him for a while so I can have my own thoughts for a while. And I just, i know I cant make him get help & I know that whatever he does is on him. But Ive lost so many people already. Ive already lost friends to suicide & im so afraid of losing him to. I might not want to be married anymore, but I dont want him hurt.. If that makes any sense

   If you feel he is a danger to himself, you may always call the police. They are on call if you believe someone might commit suicide. So if you tell him that you are leaving & you are worried about what might happen, do not hesitate to call the police! 

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In my fandom I've had a lot of drama happen to me (I was rping a villain so that's part of it) and I blacklist a lot of urls that hurt me on that blog. But it still hurts seeing them on my dash interacting with my friends. Am I just being petty? I want to let it go but I love my muse, but I keep seeing them and it keeps reminding me of everything they did. I just don't know what to do.

    Oh friend, I know it is hard. I believe a lot of people have had this happen before. I do not think you are being petty, I think you are still hurt! Something like that does not fade easily. I understand you are still hurt! I believe in time this feeling will fade, you will come to grow over the pain. You will see those urls & just shrug it off. For now, keep the urls blacklisted & just give yourself a soft break & give yourself a pat on the back for getting this far! Give yourself time, it will get better

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do you think I did the right thing of having my dad arrested for indecent filming that happened six months ago. I feel like I've let it dragged on for too long . he did tell me I could tell the police at that time but I said no. he's being nice to me but maybe because he's being manipulative I don't know anymore

   Friend what you did was ABSOLUTELY THE CORRECT THING TO DO! That is against the law & not something you should let yourself feel guilty about! I believe it best that you separate yourself from that situation for awhile. It seems quite toxic & very wrong. 

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I'm currently in a failing marriage. I carry the emotional weight & do all the housework & got a fulltime job at the demand of my husband. Im exhausted & drained & have to make myself have the energy to help my husband through his anger & depressive episodes. I want to leave but I know he'll break down without me here. He's threatened suicide & selfharm over even small things happening at work, I dont want to even think about what he would do if I left or told him I want to. Idk what to do

  Oh goodness! First of all, friend, here is a hug from me to you! Your situation is hard, but there are ways out of it! You cannot control what your husband does, you are not responsible for his actions! So do not for a moment think that you are at fault for ANYTHING he does! You are responsible for yourself only! & to be honest, you are doing a wonderful job! But you have to think for a moment, do you want this for the rest of your life? You shouldn’t have to carry the weight of a man who refuses to get help. That’s not what the world wants for you! Your life is supposed to be wonderful, adventurous & loving. You should be happy, YOU DESERVE THAT! To be honest, I believe you should call your family or friends, whoever you are most comfortable with, & have them come over when you tell him that you are leaving. Get your stuff, & move somewhere else. I believe this is the BEST solution. I know it is hard, it is difficult. But you deserve a life of happiness & love! I want this for you! I truly hope this helps, & just know you are never alone

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My parents have been married for almost 20 years now, and most people I talk to have step parents. I know I shouldn't think about it too much, but I feel like I'm gloating to anyone who has step parents everytime I talk about my parents. Any advice?

   Friend that’s not gloating! They’re your parents, just as your friends’ step parents are their parents! They just have a few more than you do! It’s not bad, it’s just different! Everyone should be able to talk about their parents, I mean they make us who we are right? They’re important! So do not let this fear get to you, take a deep breath & remind yourself we all have families & loved ones! Sometimes our families are different & that’s OK! 

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