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Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory?

I’ll tell you the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. Even family can mistreat and disrespect you.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you.

Let them gossip about you,

Let them ignore you.

Let them be "right."

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them run your name in the ground.

Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel.

The end.

Let them go.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.

Don’t you dare let them steal your light.

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.

You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control…..

Let them go. 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨💯

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I don't think people understand how stressful it is to explain what's going on in your head when you don't even understand it yourself.

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I wish that you could see the pain that I've seen. all of the times I spent being not me, I hope you know that there's so much going on in my head.

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ANXIETY isn't just having trouble breathing. ANXIETY is waking up at 3am from a dead sleep because your heart is racing. ANXIETY erupts for no reason. ANXIETY is stressing over things that may or may not be real. ANXIETY is questioning your faith, how could my creator allow me to feel this way?. ANXIETY is calling your sister 3 hours before she gets up to work, hoping that she will respond so you can stop thinking about the attack. ANXIETY is a shower at 2 a.m. ANXIETY is your changing mood in a matter of minutes. ANXIETY is an uncontrollable tremor. ANXIETY is crying, real and painful tears. ANXIETY is nauseous. ANXIETY is crippling. ANXIETY is dark. ANXIETY is having to make up an excuse after a behavioral attack. ANXIETY is fear. ANXIETY is concern. ANXIETY is physically and emotionally draining. ANXIETY is raw. ANXIETY is real. ANXIETY is a fight with your spouse, even if you are not angry. ANXIETY is breaking you at the slightest annoyance. ANXIETY is flashbacks. ANXIETY is "what if?" Anxiety is a lot of "what's wrong" and "I don't know."

Your feelings matter just because you're upset by something that others do, it doesn't make you crazy or worthless. Some of the most successful people in life have anxiety. This is not your fault. This is not the end. You are strong. You're smart. You are brave. You are worthy.

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People like me don’t have people, we are the people that people have.

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This one shocked me! I followed him since “So you think you can dance” days and watched his fairy tale wedding with his wife Allison and than their beautiful family they built. He was such a joy to watch on Ellen.

PLEASE CHECK ON YOUR "STRONG" FRIENDS AND FAMILY ❤️🙏🏻

It's the strong ones that keep everything to themselves.

You never know what someone else is going through!

His smile was so infectious!

Just because they're smiling doesn't mean they aren't battling their personal demons!

If you ever need to talk, I am here, and we can find resources together!

#mentalhealth #SuicideAwareness

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It’s fucking happening…. This is not a drill. Rihanna

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Something I started when I first felt lost was my own journal.

Some people find it hard to find the best ways of writing down how they are feeling so I recommend using these journal prompts as a simple starter.

Hope these help you off load whatever is holding you back or down and help you through a thought dump process

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A bottle of water at Costco is £0.25.

The same bottle in the supermarket is worth about £0.50.

The same bottle in a bar costs £2.

In a good restaurant or hotel, it can be worth up to £3.

At an airport or on the plane, you may be charged £5.

The bottle and the brand is the same, the only thing that changes is the place. Each place gives a different value to the same product.

When you feel like you are worth nothing or everyone around you belittles you, change places, do not stay there.

Have the courage to change to a place where you are given the value you deserve. Surround yourself with people who really appreciate your worth.

Don't settle for less 💖

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Depression is feeling like you’ve lost something, but having no clue to when or where you lost it until one day you realise that the one thing you lost… was… YOURSELF

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Why do you care what people think about you?

You have to learn one thing in life …

You can not love everybody, you can not appreciate everybody and it goes both ways.

If you don’t learn that now then you’re always going to be the fool of somebody.

Live your life to the fullest I’m everything that you do! And as long as you don’t hurt anybody and you are happy doing what you want to do LET THEM TALK.

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Things I Wanted To Say But Never Did…

Went in a sad little box in my mind, alongside the things I wanted to do but never did.

They nestled there beside the opportunities I missed through fear and insecurity.

Places I didn’t go to when I had the chance.

People I didn’t dare to meet.

I would sometimes open the lid of the box to have a peep, when I felt brave.

Or angry enough.

Regret and bitterness would flood out and overwhelm me, mostly in the dark of the night.

The stench of ‘could have’ was suffocating.

So one day, when the box became more full than the life I was living, I said ‘no more’.

There is no more room in that box and so much room around me.

There is no more space for self-pity.

There are no more days left for wasting.

It is now.

So I began…by saying yes more, much more. And also saying no too; to things that stole my joy and froze my heart.

I spoke my mind and my truth, always with kindness. For kindness is easy when you open the box.

I took the chances that came my way and sought out a few more.

And life became so much more colourful that I began to weep for the colours I had missed all those years.

But there was no time for those tears.

I had work to do.

Regrets became challenges, fears became thrills and desires, desires became wonderful experiences.

I still keep the box.

If only to remind me that it must remain empty.