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Important note for minors about coming out as plural: do not trust conservative parents or caregivers

With the Trump administration returning has come a renewed surge of bigotry around the country. Right wing media is being used to indoctrinate people into a fascist hate cult.

If you are a plural minor considering coming out to parents, think long and hard about if it's safe to do so. As a minor, much of your life is going to be controlled by your parents. If they want to, they can limit social media access and take away your ability to communicate with other systems. They can force you into therapy against your will with the express goal of getting rid of your headmates. Parents even have the right to physically assault you as punishment.

While plurality is not part of the mainstream conversation yet, there is a chance that it will be soon with so much ongoing research into it. Some of which is likely to make mainstream news at some point. And there is a real possibility that when this happens, conservatives who don't know plurality exists today will flip on a dime the moment their media sources decide it's a problem.

Even if plurality doesn't become visible to mainstream conservatives, their minds have been poisoned against enough related phenomena that it can still be extremely dangerous to come out to them. Most conservative Christians believe in a real spiritual warfare, seeing conservative Christians like themselves as warriors against the forces of the devil. If you experience any sort of spiritual plurality, it is very likely that they will see you as being demonically possessed.

And with the rampant transphobia, even if you don't identify as transgender, systems with headmates with different genders from the body's AGAB are likely going to face the same discrimination from them.

You obviously know your parents better than I do. So if you're confident that you'll be safe coming out to them, then go for it!

But otherwise, I think it may be wise to wait a few years until they no longer have power over you. When the worst they could do is cut you out of their lives.

Additionally, it may be wise to take steps to prevent your parents from finding out.

If you think that your parents may look at your social media accounts, have accounts that are only for plural stuff that you only log into in private browsing modes, and don't share these accounts or their passwords with anyone.

Additionally, don't share too much personal information on the internet. Don't give people your real name or your address or anything they can use to find you and out you to your parents.

It has happened in the past that pluralphobic groups have tracked down and contacted the parents of minor systems, whose parents subsequently took away the system's social media access.

Above everything else, be safe!

I believe that the future is plural, but that future is still a ways off. And I want to make sure that young systems growing up today can live to reach that future.

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“you just think you’re better than people for not shopping on temu” yes i do because i am

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It still astounds me that people take the true fact that old or sick wolves will wander away from their pack to die as some kind of indication that wolves are cold and unfeeling.

It's an act of self-sacrifice. Wolf packs will do almost anything to help their sick or infirm - they will literally put themselves in danger to help the ones they love! The sick and elderly wolves don't wander away from their packs because their packs threw them out, it's explicitly the opposite - their pack won't abandon them! The only option is to force the issue by wandering away from the pack and not coming back.

I can't imagine how much love it would take to leave your family behind and d let yourself die alone because you'd become too sick for them to look after, and you know they'd never abandon you.

And you know what? Sometimes they don't die. Sometimes they start feeling better - the sickness recedes, or the elderly get a second wind - and they come back! They come back, and their pack is overjoyed to see them again. Wolves mourn, and wolves experience relief as well.

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"but aces and aros can be in relationships"

Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?

Yes, even demis

Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?

Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?

Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?

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I just heard my mom tell my brother, “when you die, you will go outside and garden until your father says you’re done” and it took me a second to realize that my brother was playing a videogame and this was not a theological discussion.

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[> worm offers you hope for the new year.]

[> do you accept?]

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Do not quit alcohol cold turkey

Do not suddenly stop drinking alcohol as a new years resolution if you have been consistently using alcohol most days

Your body gets used to the presence of the alcohol as a sedative in your system

Suddenly removing the sedative you are chemically accustomed to is like suddenly removing the wall you are leaning on - you will topple over

You brain electricity gets overexcited

This causes seizures

This causes sudden onset dementia (Wernicke's encephalopathy)

This causes brain damage

If you use alcohol often (even in moderate amounts)

Or in large amounts

Or you have ever noticed you get shakey tremors and anxious when you stop drinking

Then your body is chemically dependant and you need to be very careful coming off alcohol otherwise you will cause brain damage

Slowly wean down the amount you drink over days or weeks

Talk to a doctor about your goals to quit and ask about support options

Medically supported withdrawal is a lot safer

If alcohol withdrawal goes badly there is a 15% chance it will kill you.

Do not go this alone

You deserve to be safe

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In my first year university course there was a class I remember as being mandatory (at least for English majors) about fallacies and biases in writing. And this prof was all about reading the whole article before you formed your argument. That was his whole thing. You know measure twice cut once he was read twice respond once. He stressed this so much that on our final exam (which was two long form essay questions and a few short answer questions) that I decided to read the WHOLE exam booklet before I grabbed my pen.

Turns out that is what he wanted. The final page, the final question, informed the student that if they wrote 1. Their name, 2. Their student number 3. Their favourite fallacy, and wait for 30 minutes so they don't arouse suspicion, you will literally be given 100 percent for the exam WORTH 40 PERCENT OF YOUR GRADE.

I think about it to this day. The prof literally saw the "reading comprehension on this site is piss poor" and said I can fix them

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Because I’ve lost control of my life

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“calories dont count over the holidays” WRONG! calories don’t count ever. stop counting them enjoy ur life

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there needs to be a niceys block button that says i have nothing against you i am only curating my experience and then a toughies block button that i dont know kills them with spikes

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reminder that if you’re questioning your gender, “what do I want?” and “what will make me happy?” tend to be much more useful questions than “what am I, really?”

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