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Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

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Healing isn't easy, it takes time, lots of it. And it never truly banishes, you just grow around it and become stronger due to it, kinda like how a tree would do.

Don't feel discouraged, you got this. Healing isn't easy, but to choose to improve yourself to be tender and loving despite everything is already more than you could ever know. It will take time, but you'll reach that point, I trust in you. You can do this, you can heal, I know it!

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My friend asked me today if I ever thought about the fact that whenever we're so excited we immediately tell our friends. And to that I say, no. It is not something I pause and realize whenever happens. We're social creatures, humanity has survived so long because of being social, showing love and sharing knowledge is imbedded into our genes, we are made to love and be loved. Of course you're gonna show someone you love what you love. It's human nature. And honestly, it's quite poetic to think about, isn't it?

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I'm excited to age and become old, I can't wait for the day I began to get any sort of smile wrinkles to show I've been so happy throughout my life. I'll be the sweetest grandma, the type that is filled with love and is grateful for everything. The type of lady you sit with and talk for hours about what worries you as you have tea and eat some biscuits. The type of lady that will bring you comfort and warmth, and that even just by looking at her you know she radiates joy and enjoyment. And I hope that I come to appreciate the beauty in life and the moments old and young, and that I make the most of my life.

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As long as there's life on this earth, we're never alone. We're billions of people, plenty of people experience and feel the same. And if it's not people going through the same and how we're all interconnected, then we always have nature with us. The trees provide shade for us, food, wood to keep us warm. The birds sing lullabies not only for themselves but also for anyone that might hear. The sky paints itself with all sorts of different colors every sunset and sunrise just to remind us that even after everything, life still goes on. We're never alone.

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I got to hold a baby goat today. They were so small, so fragile, and they almost fell asleep on me. The day was rainy and cold, and even though I had felt so damp before, holding the baby goat made me feel warm inside. Maybe the goat felt similarly, all cozy as she was held gently, warmth on her side despite the cold winds that were blowing.

This made me think about how many actions we have done that made people feel comforted and happy. We aren't aware of how we might have changed someone, how our words changed someone. Because maybe it was just another Tuesday for you, but maybe the way you told someone how they did so great stuck to them. Maybe your presence made them realize things about themselves.

Everyone is so interconnected, and we always learn from each other. We should embrace that humanity, allow ourselves to be soft to others in order for others to be soft, too. Because someone has to take the first step.

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Be the reason today why someone smile, why people believe in kind souls and pure hearts, restore that faith for humanity :)

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Every moment is unique, eternal. No one but you, right here, right now, will be in the same exact spot, at the same exact time and look at the same exact place. Everything is fleeting, ephemeral. That's why no one gets to live and experience what you do, but it's what makes it so valuable. That's why, maybe we should take a moment to pause and appreciate everything surrounding us. It will never be the exact same experience.

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Today a cat came up to me and started rubbing themselves all over me. I felt so loved, so much joy!! Sometimes, the small things are the ones that mean the most. A happy life doesn't mean you've done many big accomplishments, it can be simple things in your routine, and unexpected surprises inside of it, like a cuddly neighborhood cat.

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You're still young and learning. You can make mistakes. You're young and growing. Everything will get better. You're young an growing, and full of love even if deep inside.

The fact you're trying to grow to become a better version of yourself means a lot already, and you have a whole lifetime to become that version of yourself. Cut yourself some slack, you're doing great :^)

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Children make me feel so- well, emotional. They always stir up something in me. Specially toddlers, who know no better. Children are just the victims of how they're treated, a reflection of everything they've seen. It makes me sad to think how many more children will have to experience things similar to mine, seemingly small actions and doings, but that actually shape who you are.

A mom belittling her daughter because she doesn't want to do something, a dad that spends most of his time working, and his free time is spent indulging in his hobbies instead. So many small things. But you grow up and realize they affect you so much, now you feel incapable of making your own decisions, now you feel responsible for the way someone acts. And while it is the parents fault, I also understand, having children is difficult, everything is getting more expensive, you have to work to pay it all even if that means having no time. The little time you have the last thing you'd want is dealing with someone else.

But at the same time I can't understand why they would bring to life a human if they can't take care of them, parent them properly. Yes, some people shouldn't have children, if you can't provide them with their needs, if you'll blow out on them.

Worst thing of all, even those small actions will be seen as normal, some might even consider it a good family because it isn't even downright abuse. But the child is still hurt, even if in another way.

Children deserve to be loved, to have someone patient to teach them everything, to have a safe space to rely on, to feel seen and heard. I wish every children to have someone to do that.

Perhaps one day that vision will come true, in a future.

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It's never too late, it's never too late to begin to do something, to change whatever makes you uncomfortable. Change is always possible, when done out of love.

Love everything to spite everyone who told you that what you want to do isn't possible, that you were too old for that, or too young.

Yes, you can't change in one day, but one day is a good place to start. It's not "one day" it's day one. And day one can be right now. It doesn't have to be big, it just has to be a beginning. A little of something is better than doing nothing at all. Start off small and continue rolling the ball, do each step full of love, full of respect for yourself, to not allow others dictate how you live.

It may take time, you might face hardships, but to become better you have to accept the risk that comes with it. At the end of the day it's about what you want to yourself, and the fear of losing shouldn't stop you to the possibilities of everything good that could come in your way. Let yourself loose and allow yourself to begin whatever you know will bring you joy, remember, it's day one, day one can be anytime.