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I know school's out at the moment, but recently I've been feeling a lot of pressure from my parents to get the best grades possible. It's like they just expect me to be perfect and I'm really feeling heavy. I love Kill La Kill a lot, so I thought this would be a good place to ask.

As a parent myself, I know that we do expect our kids to perform to the best that they can, it’s a pretty common thing, we know our children have potential and we want it to bloom and not go to waste! Getting the best grades possible will help our kids get a good job when they’re older, which is what we encourage them to do!

However, it is not fair for your parents to pressure you so much, they have you in mind when they’re saying things like that, but they shouldn’t be pushing on you to be perfect at school. It’s the summer holidays now, enjoy yourself if you can and relax, if you have homework, make sure to do it at a steady pace and not leave it all until last minute to minimize stress. When you return to school, keep in mind to try your best, but not to push yourself. If your parents continue to pressure you, have a conversation with them about it, telling them how you feel. A relationship without communication, whether it be platonic, family or romantic will never work! 

Try and get across to them how you feel, they should be understanding. Good luck my dear!

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I don't like being with at my father's house because he doesn't exactly cares for me, only for my youngest sibling and my older brother. He doesn't really feed us (especially me) because he's 'broke'. I want to stay with my mother but she's been really abusive lately, example she will scream at me if I don't accept getting called a brat or whatever. I don't know where to go, I don't have friends nor any other family members to go to. I'm only 14 and I want to give up on life. Any help?

Don’t ever give up!

I know it seems like everything’s going wrong, but you still have so much to live for! It’s hard to see it sometimes, I know.

Also, I know it may seem like your father doesn’t care, but maybe he just doesn’t know how to show it. He might find it easier to show his affection for your siblings, but not know how to convey this to you. I’m not sure about his financial state, though if you’re struggling to get food-search for the nearest food bank (or something of the like)!

When it comes to your mother, it’s not a bad thing to stand up for yourself. Yet, it’s a good idea to evaluate your own actions and whether that could have ricocheted onto hers. Considering you want to stay with her over your father, I’d wager that you care for her a lot. Remember that Christmas can be a very stressful time for a lot of people, so maybe she’s so irritable because of that.

My advice would be to seek a teacher or councilor at your school or youth club. I’m sure they’ll be all ears to help you out of your tricky situation. These people will no doubt find you somewhere safe and comfortable to go to.

Stay safe, stay alive-and good luck.

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My birthday is coming up soon and I'm really excited and all. But i really want to come out to my family (im bi) I live in a homophobic family where they think bisexuals don't exist and are just trying to be "edgy" or whatever. My father is also quite abusive so I'm scared he might beat me or scream at me if I tell him. What should I do?

First of all, a happy birthday is in order!

Secondly, your intentions are wonderful! Coming out to your parents is a big and scary decision-so well done for making it this far!

However, your safety is important. If you think that you’re family are going to cause you physical harm because of your decisions, then it may not be worth it. 

Of course, no one knows for sure how other people will behave. You may be surprised at how accepting your family can be when they are dealing with a bisexual person in their house. If you do choose to come out to them, then you can look for ways to explain your attractions to both genders to help them see things your way.

In the end, the choice is yours! If you feel that you will be happier with them knowing, then go ahead. Yet, if you are really scared of their reaction, you can still wait until later. Some people choose not to come out at all.

Just remember, that we are all proud of you, regardless!

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ALSO both admins have been at MCM expo all weekend. I know there was an ask that was sent in before then, but we were frantically finishing our cosplays.

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//: Hey guys! It’s Mod Mochi here! I would just like to apologize for the inactivity of this blog lately. Mod Toothless has a pretty busy RP blog that keeps her hands full and I’m just straight up forgetfull.

I have now synced the email for this account with my phone, so this problem should be resolved.

Don’t be discouraged from sending an ask! I’ll be more on top of things now.

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Inactivity

//: Hey guys! It's Mod Mochi here! I would just like to apologize for the inactivity of this blog lately. Mod Toothless has a pretty busy RP blog that keeps her hands full and I'm just straight up forgetfull.

I have now synced the email for this account with my phone, so this problem should be resolved.

Don't be discouraged from sending an ask! I'll be more on top of things now.

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I straight-up called my teacher's methods impractical yesterday. She yelled at me after class, and I definitely deserved that and I apologized, but she didn't care. I don't want to go back tomorrow, what do I do? I can't switch classes.

I can understand how you feel about your teacher’s methods. We all feel that way and speak out of line when we feel that something is unfair. Don’t feel so bad for expressing your opinion.

In addition, I can see why you may feel ashamed, however, after looking over their actions, your teacher may well feel the same. We normally don’t realize our actions until we think about them. The case may well be that they realized your apology was sincere.

Do not be afraid to go back tomorrow. Remember that you may have voiced what the whole class was feeling. I would advise to not mention the incident to the teacher and just forgive and forget about it.

I’m sure you can be strong and carry on being a great student.

(Though it may be best to not repeat the incident.)

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I really, really screwed up in class. I said something, and the entire class laughed at me (which has happened twice before this), so I called them sheltered and then excused myself a few minutes later. I don't want to go back on Monday, what do I do?

That sounds horribly embarrassing! I know I would feel just terrible if everyone laughed at me for something I said! I can totally relate to how utterly crummy your feeling.

But-

Everyone has those times, what’s important is that we get the strength to still hold ourselves high! On Monday, I bet everyone will have forgotten about it. If they’re still talking about it, you can tell them that it was just your opinion and to stop going on about it. If it’s really getting to you, I’m sure a teacher would be willing to help.

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((Hey everyone-Mod Mochi here! Firstly, thank you for all the follows and questions (even if I freak out and get really nervous replying X3). I just wanted to warn you all that I'm staying with my gran at the moment, so will check the inbox less frequently and mod Toothless can't get wifi for the next week. SO, if you don't get a reply straight away don't worry-we're just pretty busy right now!

Thanks again!!))

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i want to come out to being queer and also demand i see a therapist for what i believe is clinical depression (i've asked before but my mother didn't take me seriously). but my family doesn't accept lgbqt people, plus the job i want as an adult has to do with the military so i'm afraid i might be prejudiced for my sexuality, PLUS if i have a history of mental illness i could also be disqualified. what should i do? i want to come out and get help but the job means SO much to me. (gamagori please)

It seems you are in quite the difficult situation here. First thing foremost, and I demand your attention to this point is that your safety is the most important factor, if your family doesn't accept queer people to the point where violence is involved then I believe the best case for action would be to put your safety first at this point.

If you choose to come out, and it is completely your choice, your body and life is yours and yours alone, if they, like some others, are extreme with their beliefs and you are financially dependant, a minor or living under the same roof as theirs then make sure you fully know the pro's and cons before you come out. 

HOWEVER, it does not mean that the mind can not be swayed, people learn and change and although they may not accept you at first, do not give in and keep being strong! Although they may not accept people from the lbqta+ group, they are your family and although it can take time for everything to settle in, they may accept you. 

If they are not accepting on religious grounds, respect their religion at the same time, also remember to be kind, compassionate and honest, do not argue with them, work with them. If they react badly to it and respond in a way on the lines of you not getting their approval, then saying something like "I'm not asking permission here. I'm not expecting your approval. I am hoping for your acceptance and tolerance." would be useful. I'm not saying this will happen but it is always good to be prepared!

Finally on the queer part, DO NOT GIVE UP ON THEM, if you truly love them and want them in your life then you must not give in if things do turn sour. If you stop trying to reach out to them, it is likely they will do the same, keep your head high here!

Concerning wanting to see a therapist, it is a very good thing that this is something you want to do if you believe you may have something like clinical depression, be proud of yourself for this! Make sure to have done your research before asking her again, look up some therapists that may be near you and ratings from them if possible. Showing trustworthy examples may gain a few extra points on your side. When it comes to having this conversation, be calm and be firm with her and tell her that you believe it will be of benefit. Once again, do not lose hope! If she turns you down then try again, keep trying. If you are still at school, you may be able to get their help with seeing a therapist. I know for one that our school help system is impeccable with Lady Satsuki watching over, although other schools are puny in comparison to ours, it does not mean that their helping system too is puny. 

I am truly sorry to say this having a history of mental illness can increase your chances for disqualification, your best shot at this is to contact the recruitment offices and ask them. They could instantly give you an answer or they could asses you first, a good thing would be to apply when you have recovered from them or are on the path to recovering, they will see that and take that into consideration. I am also heartbroken to say this but there is indeed a lot of prejudice in the army for sexualities, if you are lucky enough to become enlisted and things begin going downhill then I strongly advise you talk to your manager and put those pigs in their places!

Good luck for what the future may hold.

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My mom wants me to see a therapist, as well as do some testing. I am uncomfortable with the testing, and I hate going to therapists (I've tried). I've told her this, and I'm really not sure what to do now because she keeps insisting that it's important and it probably is but I'm really just not comfortable with it.

If you’ve already seen a therapist before and not liked it then it’s probably not for you. Different people respond differently to help with any problem, and if it’s made you uncomfortable then that’s proof enough.

It’s important to really express how you feel to your parents, it might be worth sitting your mother down and saying ‘look, I really don’t want to do this. Is there another way?’ For example, if you had to do tests, could a local doctor you’re comfortable with run them instead.

However, it’s important to remember that just because it didn’t work last time, doesn’t mean it won’t this time. I can understand why it might be hard for you to face such a problem again, but maybe seeing a therapist is worth a second shot. If it really makes you feel bad after you’ve tried, then you can always discuss these problems and stop again.

Remember-it never hurts to try! Keep your head up, I’m rooting for you!

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Um, hi, so a girl from my school died recently and while everyone is feeling all upset about it, I haven't felt anything. I mean, i didn't really know her but still. She's dead and I can't react. I've been noticing a lack of emotional response in my self in other situations too and I'm starting to think something may be wrong with me but i don't know what to do to try and fix it. A little help from Aikuro would be lovely, if at all possible

People's deaths can be extremely saddening to some, however it is not uncommon to feel nothing, especially as you didn't have a strong connection to her. 

Sometimes our bodies cope with death and sadness in a way that you don't feel anything. Antidepressants and some other medication can also have a small effect on our systems that can dull how we feel emotions within any situation so if you are on medication then that may be the reason why, mod herself has had the same thing happen to her because of her medication. I, although skilled in many ways, am not a doctor unfortunately and if you are really concerned about this, then I would suggest seeing a doctor or a therapist about it if you can afford it.

Don't assume there's something wrong with you, I can tell you are a wonderful person, so don't worry about it too much unless you feel like it's gotten to a serious point, then as I mentioned earlier I would recommend seeing someone if at all possible. Good luck, and don't give up!

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I know school's out at the moment, but recently I've been feeling a lot of pressure from my parents to get the best grades possible. It's like they just expect me to be perfect and I'm really feeling heavy. I love Kill La Kill a lot, so I thought this would be a good place to ask.

As a parent myself, I know that we do expect our kids to perform to the best that they can, it's a pretty common thing, we know our children have potential and we want it to bloom and not go to waste! Getting the best grades possible will help our kids get a good job when they're older, which is what we encourage them to do!

However, it is not fair for your parents to pressure you so much, they have you in mind when they're saying things like that, but they shouldn't be pushing on you to be perfect at school. It's the summer holidays now, enjoy yourself if you can and relax, if you have homework, make sure to do it at a steady pace and not leave it all until last minute to minimize stress. When you return to school, keep in mind to try your best, but not to push yourself. If your parents continue to pressure you, have a conversation with them about it, telling them how you feel. A relationship without communication, whether it be platonic, family or romantic will never work! 

Try and get across to them how you feel, they should be understanding. Good luck my dear!

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There was a situation at my school this past year, where my friend was being harassed. By trying to protect her, the harassers started going after me. I went to the school's administration, and they did nothing for a long time. When they finally came up with a solution, it proved ineffective and changed nothing. The school year was almost over by this time, and everyone gave up, but it's still bothering me and I'm not sure what to do.

First and foremost, I must applaud you for standing up to those who have been harassing your friend in attempt to protect her, I know that it can be difficult to do what is right and you showed exceptional strength in doing so. 

Those pigs harassing you and your friend had no rights to do so, also the school board should have been much firmer and quicker to take action. Under no circumstances were those people in the right, you and your friend deserved better as this was completely unacceptable for them to do those things.

Everyone dwells on the past my dear, moving forward from events such as these can be tricky, however I know you have the ability to do so. Meditation, taking up a new hobby and looking towards close events in the future are all good techniques that can help people in these situations. With meditation, it's good to reflect on what your life is now, the positives, the company you keep, your family, friends and everything dear to you are things that are close to you now, keeping them close and remembering the nice things in your life displays how although terrible, disgusting things have happened in the past, your life is wonderful and there are so many people out there that care about you. 

Looking foreword to events can also help, birthday's, fulfilling ambitions, days out, seeing your best friend or anything along those lines are good examples. I believe it brings a more positive outlook when you look towards things that will make you happy, and can help keep those nagging thoughts away.

I am proud of you, keep being amazing.

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Uh...hey. So, recently my best friend stopped talking to me and I'm not sure what I did wrong. I've sent her messages but she won't reply. At school it feels like I'm invisible which makes me depressed. Could I have a little advice from Ryuko? Thank you.

It's strange for them to stop talking to you, let alone them being your 'best friend', but there has to be a reason behind them doing it. Maybe something happened at home which made them drift off slightly or maybe they're going through something, the best way to find out is to confront them and ask, if they're not comfortable then just tell them that you'll be there for them through and through. That's what best friends are for right?

So don't sweat it too much, but if it keeps going on then I'd definitely go around questioning them a bit more. It's not fair for them to drop out on you like that.