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Moody PNW

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gay people can never just say "i love you" instead it's always gotta be some shit like "you wouldn't mean to, you wouldn't plan for it, but you'd end up breaking my heart. and i don't think that i could deal with that"

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For the entire time he's lived there, Buck's loft has been minimalist. Nothing on the counters. Nothing on the table. Nothing on the fridge.

Then a house plant appeared on the island.

Now there's photos on the fridge. Decor on the table. Candlesticks, pumpkins. Pillows and blankies on the couch.

Buck is fucking nesting.

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it's our PEOPLE....... (long glance at tommy) who make life worth living.... (ducks head and grins)

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Don’t look at me rn🥺😅

looking through pinterest for cheesy quotes because i like to use them for the titles of my fics and i keep finding ones that just fit bucktommy and i just- *cries*

like they are terrible and cheesy but like....... *cries again*

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GETTING HIS PILLOW FLUFFED <33333333

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Buck’s past partners: not everything is about you

Tommy: I will make sure you spend every waking moment knowing I am here for you and you only

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Guys Buck is SO spoiled ♥️ he got ice packs and fluffed pillows and his boyfriend sleeping on the couch to be as close to him as possible and breakfast in ‘bed’ and coffee while they waited for Denny to get out of surgery and he got his man all dressed to the nines for a mummy funeral and reassurance at every turn

Tommy is spoiling that man ROTTEN and I love it 🥰 finally our Buck is getting the love he deserves

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S. Bear Bergman - ‘Butch is a Noun’

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Their couch theory + Tommy sleeping on Bucks new couch = Endgame?

Did I find something? A way to twist their couch theory on them? Maybe, but BuckTommy endgame🤍 especially after this episode.

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'Cause our people are what make life worth living.

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There’s always a lingering question that I ask myself, which is why do I, a cis bisexual woman, enjoy romance between two men so much?  

There are easy answers, like that it’s just fetishizing.  And like, I find men attractive, yes.  But I also find women attractive.  I don’t have a problem with enjoying het romance, assuming I can find good ones.  I enjoy stories with female characters I can relate to.

But there’s something much deeper at play, IMO.  A friend of mine who is a gender studies professor was the first person to point this out to me, but a lot of women enjoy m/m romance and gay porn because of the lack of women.  It removes a source of pressure and sexism.  Without any women present, you don’t have to constantly evaluate the sexism of their portrayal, or be reminded of negative experiences in your own life.  It allows women to experience romance and especially sexuality without all the baggage that comes with it in our patriarchal society.

This was recently illustrated to me rather dramatically.  I read a recommendation for a het romance.  And it sounded cute, and came highly recommended.  The tropes at play were fun.  Until I read a snippet and realized this was a romance between a woman and her boss.  I had a visceral negative reaction.  

Instantly I’m thinking of sexual harassment stories I’ve read and heard from other women. I’m thinking of how uncomfortable it would be to have your boss develop feelings for you.  How icky the power dynamics would be, etc.  

And then I realized…this wouldn’t bother me if it were two men.  Now, there’s no logical reason for that.  Sexual harassment is just as wrong when its object is a man.  But I know I’ve read fics with a similar premise and never thought about it.  Because when it’s two men I can accept this is just a light romance, a fantasy, meant to be fun and sexy and not to represent the real world.

But I can’t when it’s a het relationship.  There’s too much baggage there.  Too much societal history of abuse.  I can’t relax enough with the premise to enjoy that story.  

Now some people can.  And that’s fine.  And some people are never going to be okay with power imbalances like that regardless of gender.  That’s also fine.  I don’t think having either reaction makes one morally superior.  It’s okay to just enjoy light entertainment for what it is without going into deep analysis.

But it’s much more difficult for me, and I think for many women, to relax and enjoy romantic and sexual stories when they involve female characters.  We’ve been burned too many times by shitty depictions, by shallow role models, by abuse portrayed as romantic.  We have developed a stress response, a trauma response to heterosexual romance.  We are hyper-reactive to a wide variety of triggers in regards to it.   But removing women from the equation makes stories safer for us.  And maybe it shouldn’t?  In an ideal world?  But for many of us, that’s the truth.

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The way they look at each other is INSANE😍

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You know what scene I really need?

Buck, Bobby, and Brad trying to get everything set up for the plane landing and Buck mentioning Tommy in any way and Brad asking something along the lines of “Oh, you’re gay? That’s cool.” Only for Buck to finally say the words “I’m bisexual, actually.” And that’s how I need to hear him say it for the first time.

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Just heard a helicopter flying above my house and instinctively said “Tommy?”

I think I have a problem😅