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Does it count if it's mutually killing eachother?

your first kill together as a couple is an important relationship milestone

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I think my coke is trying to tell me some big, hero's journey type shit is going to happen to me today.

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An Emperor take that I see a lot is that his character is designed to be different in different playthroughs depending on your choices. "If you're nice, he's good, but if you push him, he's bad." I disagree.

The Emperor who threatens you is the same as the one who doesn't. And the Emperor did do *something* to Stelmane (that we don't have any context for or know the full story of) whether or not you learn about it. His past and his personality aren't different based on your choices. That's a big part of why people hate him---they can't change him. (Aside from potentially pushing him toward different endings once you're fighting the brain or on the docks.)

When he does threaten Tav, it's not that he's a different person in that run. It's that getting scared and angry is just a normal reaction to being threatened by the person who holds his life in their hands. He's still the same guy who wants to work together amicably, who wants equals instead of thralls, who wants to defeat the brain, and who will part ways without harming you when the game ends.

If you're nice to people, they're usually nice back. If you're mean or threatening to people, they get upset and might be mean or threatening back. It's not being a different person or a mirror or anything deep. It's just how interacting with others works.

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The last game I played is literally the Sims. Where I can have a job. And a house. Hmmm, you know what, I'm the opposite of doomed.

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"family function"...? i didn't know it could do that

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Sylvia had the ex who murdered her a few hundred years ago. I don't think anyone could have had a more personality shaping toxic relationship.

give your characters exes.

give them a variety of exes. give them relationships that shaped who they are but did not last. give them people they tried very hard to love but it didn't work out. give them situationships that taught them things. give them something deep that was real but could not endure. things that hurt. things that ended amicably. people with whom hot passion cooled to warm affection and became undying friendship.

no more first and only. give me the context of what made them know the next or one after was final and right.

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This whole thing about scanning your face to prove tour age is making me remember, in 2018 while out in paris we got our wallet stolen during a particularly busy night at a lesbian bar. It was very late and with no money to buy metro tickets we were effectively stranded, but some people helped us and we ended up staying the night at a really sweet older man's place. His face was deeply scarred and he was missing an eye. We chatted on our way and he told me about his life, probably to help calm me down. He explained he had been stuck in a house fire 20 years ago and had had multiple rounds of facial reconstruction and a skin graft, but there's only so much surgery can do so he just learned to live with it. I remember he said he liked the queer bars because they're the only place people don't really stare at him.

At some point I took out my phone, and at the time I was using face unlock. This prompted him to tell me all the ways this technology doesn't work on him. How his phone selfie camera doesn't focus right because it's not detecting a face. How he had to update his ID the old fashioned way, because the website kept rejecting his photos. And how it was becoming more and more common, and how it was making his life way harder.

This was 7 years ago, and now whenever I see this sort of technology I think of how that guy can't use it. And how house fires are pretty common, and how anything from being born this way to a skin condition to heavy tattooing can probably cause the same issue. Can these people get age verified ? Will they just lose access to all social media, which are increasingly necessary in society, if this becomes the norm ? These are people who are already driven out of public spaces due to how they look, and they're getting pushed out online too all in the interest of companies wanting more money.

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You know when trans women have their eggs crack late in life, and suddenly go full Barbie in their self-expression? Getting addicted to Tumblr is my late-realising enby version of this.

Why the fuck are you 30+ on tumblr

this is my house?

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begging young people to stop getting all their opinions from pinterest and tiktok

NO, radical feminism doesn’t suddenly become a-okay as long as it’s trans inclusive

NO, you being traumatized by men doesn’t give you an excuse to threaten random people you perceive as men

NO, someone’s identity not making sense to you isn’t a personal attack against you or the queer community as a whole

NO, you can’t call intersex people disordered or deformed

NO, intersex people DO want to be included in the queer community, stop speaking on our behalf

NO, using the f slur AS A SLUR isn’t reclaiming it, regardless of whether it applies to you or not

NO, having kinks isn’t a gateway to becoming a horrible abuser

NO, it’s not okay to threaten random people for having contradictory labels

NO, sex work is not inherently predatory and always abuse

NO, men CAN AND DO have periods and get pregnant (YES, including those icky cis men. intersex cis men exist)

GET OFF PINTEREST AND TALK TO PEOPLE

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Nothing against the two vegans I know irl, but every time I come across the vegan subreddit, I feel like making myself a nice big pan of bacon and eggs with cheese on top.

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Well, I'm fully committed, the hair is chopped short now. Weird how much lighter my head feels.

The forever dilemma: I want to cut my hair short to look more masc/androgynous but having long hair works so well for metal concerts.

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My coworker is so fortunate that the MS Teams auto suggest believes in her. 😁

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My "favourite" one was when a straight woman just said out loud, in a group setting, that she wouldn't date a bisexual man, because it's enough for her to have to be jealous of other women. She doesn't want to have to be jealous of men too. Why have to? Why even be jealous at all? Why not just trust your partner? (Or end the relationship if they have given you reason not to trust them.)

I swear, cishets say the darndest things.

Heterosexual relationship culture is so alien to me and I don’t know if it’s the fact I’m not cishet or the fact I’m autistic but I hear so many things that make me go “Am I insane or are they?”

There’s a lot of hate on widowers and I saw a woman say “You cannot compete with a dead woman.” which is perhaps a reasonable statement to say if he’s constantly comparing you to his dead partner but that wasn’t what the post was about. And I realized “Oh my God, these people genuinely feel like they’re constantly in competition with their spouse’s exes and the ex being dead makes them feel insecure that they cannot best her.”

There’s also been an uptick in the ‘men and women cannot be ‘just’ friends’ rhetoric which I feel like is extremely dangerous and reflects the rise of fascism and sexism. Some of these stories of women feeling threatened by their husband’s female best friend have some merit and others are like “I feel angry that my husband still talks to the girl he grew up next door to and she and her wife are invited to family gatherings and included in family photos sometimes. Am I right to be suspicious?” No. No you’re not. I cannot imagine being you and living with that high level of stress and paranoia and constant torment and jealousy about your husband having a positive relationship with anyone who isn’t you.

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my "unpopular" dragon age worldstate choice opinion is that most options for a decision can make for an interesting narrative and painting some choices as the "correct ones" kind of defeats the purpose.

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My biggest success on Tumblr so far is that my most popular post is also an accidental haiku. And I also find out on a day when I ordered Japanese food for lunch. 😂

So I can tell him to go away but I still can't smooch him? Cowards!

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I feel personally offended by both interpretations.

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My mom used to be a teacher and actually letting/encouraging the smartasses to teach the lesson for a bit was her go-to method of making sure they'll never be disruptive again.

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you're on the spectrum and a teacher ever asked you whether you would like to teach this lesson instead since you clearly already know everything about the subject, they weren't actually impressed by your immense knowledge of the subject that you were proud to be sharing. That's just teacher code for "can you like shut the fuck up."