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yesterday I went to see Finding Dory and it left me crying for almost the whole movie

Finding Dory is a movie about a mentally ill person who gets a happy ending that doesn’t involve getting “cured” or becoming “normal”

Dory is a mentally ill person who resolves her problems accepting her illness; she discovers that when she tries to do things the “normal” way (re: just trying to remember), it doesn’t work. But when she tries to do things her way (re: trying to deduce what she was doing, which is, accepting how her memory is), it does work!

There are other ill people (like Hank or Destiny) who get to be happy even though they don’t get “cured”. The movie also features a very well written panic attack and how it feels to live with memory issues. Also, it teaches neurotypical and able-bodied children, like Marlin, that mentally ill and disabled people are so much more than their disabilities, and that it’s perfectly possible to love them. This movie teaches them how mentally ill and disabled people are not broken or unlovable.

And Dory’s parents? They don’t force her to be normal, either. They don’t punish her for not being able to remember. No, they accommodate her: instead of forcing her to remember, instead of getting mad at her, they keep putting shells in line. And when she disappeared, they didn’t say “oh she must be gone forever because she always forgets everything”, they believed in her.

Finding Dory is a movie that teaches children that they can succeed in life, that they can be happy and have friends and be loved, not despite their illnesses and neurodivergences, but with them. They just have to keep swimming.

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To my amazing big brother. You got this. Top left last summer not quite my heaviest top right last week at 50lbs down. Bottom left where I started at my heaviest. Bottom right. 50lbs down. A year ago I made the decision to make some changes in my life. I wanted to enjoy my life again. As well set a better example for my little one. I haven't talked much about my journey. As it is a very personal thing for me. But I wanted to share with you. As you are facing a big challenge and I know how hard it is. But you can do this. You have amazing support behind you.

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I haven't posted in a while. Life has been busy. But this is what I have been up to while I was gone

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Goes for crochet too

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Mine too

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Weekend hats

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Part 1. Of a shower gift for a co worker

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Hey look what I made. It actually looks like what it is supposed too.

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So I posted the start of my next project a couple of days ago. As I was happily crocheting away I realized I did not have enough yarn to finish what I started. Which presented me with a dilemma. As I bought the yarn on a resent vacation and can not get it locally. So I made the tough decision to tare it apart and make something else. The second picture is what I made instead. Turned out great.

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Kids back to school time to start a new scarf.

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All done. Guess it's time to get on with the rest of life. Or my next project

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Saturday morning projects

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Dishcloth