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Abusive behaviors that may be hard to spot or identify as abusive

Constant passive aggression toward someone, implying anger or that something is wrong, and then blowing up at the person for it out of the blue, and blaming the person for not knowing.

Isolation tactics, an example of this would be attempting to convince a person that their other friends are toxic, or that they shouldn’t be around them. Oftentimes this is disguised as care or concern, but it’s a tactic that leaves the person dependant on the abuser for support.

Babying you, or infantalizing you. Not letting you do things because they say they feel it would be too hard for you, or that they worry you would mess it up. This is a way of lowering self confidence and making a person dependant on their abuser.

Picking at your character constantly. This one feels obvious, but it can be easily disguised as concern; and it could be harder to spot for someone who is used to this behavior being directed at them. This is usually spontaneous, and is designed to wear down self esteem over a period of time.

Always depending on a person for emotional support, and then never letting them talk about their feelings. This teaches the person that their feelings are less important than their abusers, and therefore, shouldn’t be spoken about, or they are being selfish/needy.

Including you in plans without talking to you beforehand, and then expecting you to drop everything for them when you finally find out. Usually if the person refuses to follow through it is met with intense anger or guilt tripping behavior. This is incredibly toxic.

These are only a few examples, but definitely some things to be on the lookout for.

Stay safe, darlings.

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this is what i needed in life

anti mitsuki flag! xoxo

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Let’s talk about how extra Bakugou is.

First off, this dork obviously put a lot of time into his hero costume. Which does make him look badass.

Then his (rejected) hero name and let’s not forget Lord Explosion

This guy already has created styles and names for his special moves

He “freestyles” swimming to win

He can clearly cook

He is talented with drums

And last but not least…

Has a part of the moon named after him!

This boy is something else

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Some of y'all - Mitsuki is queen. Mitsuki can do no wrong. She’s a strong woman.

Some of y'all with common sense and actually sight - She legit hits her kid the one time we see her and she’s abusive.

Me with common sense and actually sight - My glasses are on I see the truth.

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!!!Tell’em !!!

Can’t do this on my main bc parents follow that blog but my abused ass doesn’t want to see an other Mitsuki isn’t abusive post!! SHE FUCKING BLAMED HIM FOR BEING KIDNAPPED, THATS SIMPLY PUT VICTIM BLAMING!!!!!! And guess what was one of the main struggles of Katsuki after the Kamino ark? That’s right he blamed himself for All Might’s fall, “I WonDEr iF THaT HaS ANytHiNG tO Do WiTh ThAT?!?!?!” But what do I know? I’m only an abuse victim that got blamed for bringing up the past?

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Look at my bois!!!

cuties ft. dad might! 

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Im honestly completely baffled someone can watch somebodys parents hit their child and say they have a great family

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@elyseisgay

@elyseisgay Are you kidding me? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Look you little piece a sh*t don’t test me. You are absolutely ridiculous if this is how you respond to every post of Mitsuki being abusive. Is this your thing? Do you look up these post to be an absolute jerk and discredit everything that people write?

I wasn’t made until I figured out that you had the gull to reply to my post (rudely I might add) and then BLOCK me? Like what? B*tch this is stupidity at its finest. I was going to be nice, but let’s recount your disrespectful behavior not only did you comment on my post in a frankly disrespectful manner and imply that I don’t understand abuse you interacted with my post and basically decided that “I can trash you, but you can’t trash me”. What is this mentality?

You are rude and you have a big a** attitude and you are drunk on whatever alcoholic beverage you drunk, take your a** of that high horse and realize that others know what abuse is and that you only know what you went through and everyone else only knows what they went through too. Don’t start with me with this b*tch attitude you’ve got.

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you know he would…

inspired by this post  from @incorrect-tododeku-quotes 

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An incredibly fast sketch bc I had to get the mental image of aizawa with the half bun out of my head after today’s episode

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Aizawa Shouta || Boku no Hero Academia ep. 50

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Crying kacchan (*˘︶˘*).｡.:*♡

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I’m so into Dabi tho 

**Do not repost!**

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Why Mitsuki Is Abusive. Period.

This was made with help from @abusekiller . She helped with counterpoints and manga chapter references.

But Heimao, isn’t it normal in Asian cultures to physically punish your child?? So Mitsuki hitting Bakugo is completely normal.

You’re right. Physical punishment is pretty normal in Asian culture. However, just because it is normal, it doesn’t make it okay- not to mention abuse, which isn’t normalized in Asian culture. In fact physical punishment in general is bad, @spikytyphoon has made a great post on it here.

What about Rei burning Todoroki??? What about All Might punching Izuku??? If Mitsuki “abuses” Bakugo what about them??

Wow. That’s a large case of “what-about-ism” you’ve got there. But, I’ll address it anyway. What Rei and All Might both did was sh*tty, both me and my colleague agree with this. However, what separates them from Mitsuki is that they both have done something to make up for it. All Might showed that he was happy that he was alive and not hurt, and would dedicate himself to helping Izuku become better. And Rei, most likely, went to get professional mental help immediately after. Not to mention both of them only did those hurtful actions once. Mitsuki is unapologetic about her actions, which deserve retribution.

But Mitsuki is QUEEN!!! She’s MILFsuki!! flAWLESSS!!1!!1! She can do no wrong!

I hate to break it to you, but she can and she has. Just because she’s pretty and can put Bakugo “in his place” doesn’t mean she’s doing it in the right way- not does her hotness excuse the verbal and physical abuse she uses to do so.

How can Mitsuki abuse Kacchan if she cares for him? She obviously does care!

You’re right again! She does cares about Bakugo’s success in life. However, I believe that she is only seeing the positive results of her actions, i.e. Bakugo’s motivation to become #1. And since she doesn’t recognize the other things that her abuse make him into, i.e. arrogance, need to clearly be the best, and self-destructive independence-she thinks that this is the only method to get through to him. But, abuse is abuse.

It was meant to be a joke!! Haven’t you even seen anime?!

Again, the author hasn’t said whether or not this is meant to be funny and not abuse. And others who have experienced abuse, like me, found the words and actions to be similar to their experiences. Gag or not, that’s pretty bad. And for the second question, yes we have. In fact @abusekiller has made a post about people in animes that have been abused-whether addressed or not, which you can find here.

But Mitsuki is CANONICALLY not abusive!

It doesn’t say that. And trust us, we checked. From her manga debut in chapter 96 in June of 2016 to June 25, 2018 ((the day I’m writing this)) neither the manga, author, nor anime has addressed whether or not she is abusive.

Do you even know the meaning of abuse?!!

Yes. We do. And I even have first hand experience in emotional abuse. But just in case you want us to tell you the definition of abuse, the most common definition we could find was that abuse is the repetitive and/or regular treatment of an animal or person with violence and/or cruelty. And Mitsuki has done these things in the short span of anime that we’ve seen her in. In about 30 seconds, she hits Bakugo 3 times. Seems repetitive to me. Plus, she calls him a “little bitch” and/or “weak” (depending on the translation), which is both cruel and demeaning.

But it was a light smack!!

I know someone who would disagree with you. Sir Isaac Newton. He said that “every action has an equal opposite reaction”, meaning that the amount of force can be reflected by the reaction of the object struck. When Mitsuki struck Bakugo, his head went from an upright position to an almost 45 degree angle. Even if he was relaxed, a light hit would’ve only tilted his head slightly forward.

It was only once, so obviously it’s not abuse!!

Actually, Mitsuki hit Bakugo 3 times, which is evident in both the manga and anime. And in chapter 165, Bakugo clearly states that he was regularly “put in his place” when he was justifying using violence to make kids behave. Todoroki, an abuse victim, said in response “There’s definitely a better way of doing things.” And a kid beforehand said that his violent tendencies must be because of a bad upbringing.

Blaming Mitsuki for being abusive takes away from Endeavor’s abuse of Todoroki!! And it demeans other victims of ACTUAL abuse.

No. It doesn’t. If anything, it shows that abuse can affect people differently, and that there are different forms of abuse. And the fact that Endeavor is abusive isn’t erased because of Mitsuki. It just adds another asshole to the list. Also, it gives real victims another character to relate to.

Bakugo doesn’t even address it as abuse!!! He fights back even!!!

That actually is very common amongst abuse victims. I didn’t even start to think my mom was abusing me until the parents of my friends wouldn’t belittle me for the same things she would. And even then, I denied it for four years-thinking I was paranoid because it wasn’t always bad. And to address the fact that he fought back- just because they fight back, doesn’t mean the abuse will stop. When I was 15 I stopped the physical abuse by showing my mom that I wasn’t weak anymore, but the emotional abuse still continued on. However, the fact that he does fight back might just make Mitsuki think that she just has to continue hitting him to make him behave.

Summary

Bakugo is being abused by Mitsuki. It is obvious by the anger issues that he has learned from his mother, the need to succeed, and his self-destructive tendencies. If you have disagree or are confused, my inbox and PMs are always open- all I ask is that we can have a civil conversation.

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Go Back, Try Again

Mitsuki is an abusive mother and no matter what you say this is a fact. Fact cannot be argued nor should you gloss over it. Hitting your kid hard enough that there is angle is not normal or excusable.

This is not a cultural thing. Asian culture might be rougher when compared to western culture, but normalization will not make it okay. For those of you guys getting ready to complain and tell me off my friend is Asian and suffered abuse nearly exactly like this.

This isn’t funny or exaggerated. Child protection services were involved. My friend fights back, but that doesn’t make it not abuse. Hitting your child harshly doesn’t automatically count as abuse, but doing so repeatedly over a large period of time does.

I got hit for being stupid plain and simple. My parents called me out for being dumb plain and simple. The thing is that they rarely did so. My friend all the time. That’s the difference here. How frequently this occurs. I was not abused. I was rarely hit.

What Mitsuki does has frequency. She hit Katsuki like it’s the most natural thing in the world. It’s not normal. It will never normal.

So those of you defending Mitsuki go back and try again. Animes and/or mangas can depict abuse even if it’s a thing on the side. Erased did it. So why are you justifying someone hitting a child. The implication is that Mitsuki has been doing this since Katsuki was a child. This is not okay.

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If regards to the 'striking him on the head' situation... when I visited Japan it was pretty common to see people thwacking their children on the head to discipline them. I don't think I ever saw a child cry over it? It was a pretty common action. And to be honest the children were doing things that needed to be corrected. Abuse would be beating your child. But sometimes verbally trying to direct a child just doesn't work. My opinion. Just giving you some context.

Yes… Hitting your children is common in many places… What is your point? Women being catcalled and homeless people being mocked in public is also common, so what, it’s magically OK then? Again, cultural practices are not necessarily moral. Also, it’s not because you don’t see the direct effect of an action that this action has no effect. That’s basic logic.

“And to be honest the children were doing things that needed to be corrected”. If by “corrected” you mean corporal punishment like spanking or slapping (or worse), then f*ck no. That’s exactly the kind of opinion that has to die.I think you need way more “context” than I do since 1) you need to look up the definition of abuse (here), and 2) you’re clearly not familiar with the real effects of systematic corporal punishment: I provided some meta-analyses somewhere in this post.

The reason why violence against children is so common is because people try to legitimize it again and again instead of learning how to effectively take care of a child. It’s nothing more than a vicious circle. And it does more harm than good. We could write thousands of pages about the ins and outs of violence against children, including the conceptualization of what we call a “child”, what it entails, the history of law regarding the parents/caregivers’ responsibility and so-called “authority”, the history and application of children’s rights, etc.

I understand that your opinion comes from your personal experience but keep in mind that the situations you use as examples are limited. You really need to take one step further by having a critical look at the topic you want to debate on.