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The more you notice your blessings, the more you’ll find.🔍✨😌

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"i need to clean my room / do the dishes / do the laundry" = boring, horrific, makes it seem like a burden.

"i'm tending to my realm / the magic tower needs maintenance / i'm restoring the kingdom to what it was" = beautiful, amazing, spetacular, joyful, full of childlike wonder, actually describes what the task feels like as opposed to what it is

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Anger is not the enemy. Anger is a signal. Anger says, “Something hurts,” or “Something feels unfair,” or “I need a boundary here.” But sometimes, especially after trauma or emotional invalidation, anger can overwhelm you.

Here’s some suggestions I have for handling your anger in a healthy way.

Remind yourself that you are in control of your actions

You can be furious and still choose not to lash out. You don’t have to silence the anger, but you can figure out how to communicate it in a calm way.

Name what’s underneath it.

Anger is often covering pain, fear, shame, or grief. Ask yourself, “What is this anger protecting?” Sometimes it’s your inner child reacting to feeling unsafe, dismissed, or disrespected. And even if it is genuinely just anger, that’s okay, but it’s important to figure out if you can.

Communication

When expressing anger, I find myself saying things like

“I feel hurt/angry when…”

“I’m angry and I want to talk about it, but I am unsure of how to do that without being cruel. I need some time to cool down before we talk more.”

“I still love you but I’m struggling with my feelings right now. I need some space.”

Walk away if you need to

If you’re about to say something you can’t take back, step away. That’s not avoiding, that’s protecting. We often hear walking away is manipulative but that isn’t always the case. While walking away can be manipulative if the intent is to make someone feel bad or get your way, it can be an act of love to protect someone or your relationship.

Regulate before you respond.

Try cold water on your hands. Pacing. Screaming into a pillow. Journaling. Hitting a pillow or a punching bag. Playing loud music. Anything that helps your body release the tension before you speak.

De-escalate with compassion for you and for them.

Remind yourself, “I can be upset and still be kind. I can be angry and still be fair. I am allowed to be angry and I can express my anger in a healthy way.”

You’re allowed to feel everything.

Slipping up doesn’t make you bad. You’re just someone who feels things deeply and is learning how to hold that without hurting yourself or others. You don’t have to get it perfect. You’re allowed to be a work in progress.

Anger isn’t bad. You are very much allowed to feel it. The goal is to handle it in a constructive way as opposed to a destructive one.

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Life has been extra tough lately. I’m currently serving a 30-day work suspension for simply defending myself from a male patient who repeatedly touched me inappropriately. While I wait this out, I still have bills to pay, fur babies to feed, and one of my cats needs ongoing vet checkups.

If you have a kind heart and a little to spare, any donation, no matter how small, would mean the world to me and my little family.

Thank you for reading, sharing, or simply sending love my way.

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being a good person left me traumatized so excuse me .. if i act distant sometimes

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One day, I didn't cry. I didn't beg. I didn't fight back. I just looked at the mess I was in and thought, "this is not love, this is survival" and that was the day I chose myself.

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So I keep it, to myself— and it hurts.

Sylvia Plath

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“They want you thinking you're bad at being a girl instead of good at being yourself. They want you to buy your blush from a store instead of letting it bloom from your butterflies. They're telling you to blend in, like you've never seen how a blender works. Like they think you've never seen the mess from the blade.”

Andrea Gibson from the book Take me with you

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Kinda' got used to not being chosen.

Life doesn't end when the person you love doesn't choose you.

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Went to work without a wink of sleep again. People ask why I can’t sleep, I tell them my brain and intrusive thoughts come alive at night. That’s when my personal demons haunt me the most. So how do I cope? I write, I draw, I binge-watch, I pray... until the sun reminds me it’s almost time for work. Then I squeeze in a quick nap and face the world like nothing’s eating me inside.

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The world keeps spiraling into chaos because people vote like it’s a popularity contest, blindly following trends and hype instead of checking credentials, track records, and real credibility. No wonder we keep getting clowns instead of leaders.

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I'm too exhausted to explain my soul to someone again.

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Hey everyone! 🌟 I'm now on Alua! Join me for a space filled with creativity, good vibes, and fun! Let's connect, chat, and explore new ways to express ourselves. See you there! 💖