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One more thing. Nesta's trauma is just as valid as the sisters, as all the characters, and I understand that anger and self loathing is hard to deal with - I've been there. I see Nesta. But often times the Nesta lovers are the ones who hate on Feyre and Nesta because they're "weak" or "annoying". I think they're both extremely strong and resilient, and so is Nesta.

Something that has stuck with me that I think the fandom needs to hear: you can be raised in the same house but by different parents.

Sibling(s) live different lives and have different trauma. But at the end of the day, no one understands you better than your family. The sisters know that, and that's why they can forgive each other and reconnect.

I was on tiktok and saw someone call Elain a manipulative people pleaser and I would like to just say that people pleasing is usually a defense mechanism and is not inherently manipulative. Living in situations where you have to be perfect (which was very much Elain's situation the most out of all the sisters), you are constantly pleasing the expectations of others, leading to people pleasing habits. To do what they tell you.

Maybe Elain is secretly manipulative, but I don't think that explains any of her behavior to date. I think it's just Nesta lovers/excusers wanting Elain to be just as toxic as Nesta (which has support seeing as they were based on the evil step sisters). The person also insinuated that because Elain got engaged to Graysen, knowing full well that her sister was now fae, that she's bad. Wasn't she with Graysen before that? And even if it was after, she had no trust for fae and no reason too. She was taught to be ignorant.

Many people who don't like Elain like to mention that she only grew flowers and not vegetables. I used to laugh about this the same way the fandom jokes about Feyre's painting skills. But the more I think about it, the more I'm inclined to think there may have been a reason for this. 1. Feyre got her flower seeds, not vegetable seeds. So she may never have had those seeds in the first place. 2. We don't know what the soil is like, what the climate is like, we don't know what can grow there, if anything. 3. Maybe she did try but she couldn't get them growing and never told her sisters, so their POVs paint her to be vapid in this regard (again, she was based on an evil stepsister, and very 2 dimensional, but I bet that Maas is going to talk more about her garden in her novel - which is obviously the next one, idk how people think otherwise).

I just don't like it when people hate on Elain, especially when those people are generally diehard Nesta fans. For many of them, they saw themselves in Nesta. I saw some parts of myself in Feyre. Let people see themselves in Elain.

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I was on tiktok and saw someone call Elain a manipulative people pleaser and I would like to just say that people pleasing is usually a defense mechanism and is not inherently manipulative. Living in situations where you have to be perfect (which was very much Elain's situation the most out of all the sisters), you are constantly pleasing the expectations of others, leading to people pleasing habits. To do what they tell you.

Maybe Elain is secretly manipulative, but I don't think that explains any of her behavior to date. I think it's just Nesta lovers/excusers wanting Elain to be just as toxic as Nesta (which has support seeing as they were based on the evil step sisters). The person also insinuated that because Elain got engaged to Graysen, knowing full well that her sister was now fae, that she's bad. Wasn't she with Graysen before that? And even if it was after, she had no trust for fae and no reason too. She was taught to be ignorant.

Many people who don't like Elain like to mention that she only grew flowers and not vegetables. I used to laugh about this the same way the fandom jokes about Feyre's painting skills. But the more I think about it, the more I'm inclined to think there may have been a reason for this. 1. Feyre got her flower seeds, not vegetable seeds. So she may never have had those seeds in the first place. 2. We don't know what the soil is like, what the climate is like, we don't know what can grow there, if anything. 3. Maybe she did try but she couldn't get them growing and never told her sisters, so their POVs paint her to be vapid in this regard (again, she was based on an evil stepsister, and very 2 dimensional, but I bet that Maas is going to talk more about her garden in her novel - which is obviously the next one, idk how people think otherwise).

I just don't like it when people hate on Elain, especially when those people are generally diehard Nesta fans. For many of them, they saw themselves in Nesta. I saw some parts of myself in Feyre. Let people see themselves in Elain.

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If Fred hadn't died, do you think Ron would have been an Auror?

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compulsory golden trio slumber party drawing (the powerpuff girls coding was unintentional)

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best friends to lovers? no, best friends AND lovers!

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the beloved and infamous Granger-Weasley clan

bonus:

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Starborn, Fireheart & Lady Death - CC, TOG & ACOTAR

Artist: renata_watsonn

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Ruhn and Lidia for the holidays - Crescent City

Artist: @/elizianna.the.one

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The Gates to Elain’s Mind

Let's talk about when Feyre goes into Elain’s mind in ACOWAF.

What does she discover there?

The gates were solid iron that are covered in vines of flowers BUT the blossoms were all sealed, sleeping buds that were tucked into tangles of leaves and thorns.

You know what sleeping buds need to bloom?

Sunlight.

What is it that Elain said she needed?

Sunlight.

Plus, there is this as well we need to take into account:

"Every curtain shoved back as far as if could go, to let in as much sun as possible. As if any bit of darkness was abhorrent. As if to chase it away."

Who is seated before the sunniest of windows?

Elain.

Who is it that is most connected to Sunlight?

Her mate, Lucien. The heir to the Day Court.

Not a certain shadowsinger who lives in the shadows (aka darkness).

All signs continue to point to an Elucien endgame if you are a critical thinker and can connect the dots....

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I can move on. I have the right to move on. I am moving on. And yet I get judged for my decision to move on.

We broke up 4 months ago. I had been mentally out of the relationship for months. It had been abusive. There was coercion, distrust, miscommunication... I didn't feel safe and i didn't feel happy. So I left. Finally.

I don't need to have sex to move on. I don't need a serious relationship to move on. I can enjoy just dating someone. I can enjoy other kinds of physical intimacy that is not sexual.

But there are expectations by others on how to move on. I enjoy sex, but I want to know that that's not all to a relationship. Regardless of if it's serious or not, I want to be treated with respect.

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I need some "it would have happened anyway" everlark fic recommendations

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Elain’s brows twitched toward each other. “The queen—with the feathers of flame.”

“I’ll go.” Lucien was staring at Elain as he spoke. We all looked at him. Lucien shifted his focus to Rhys, to me. “I’ll go,” he repeated, rising to his feet. “To find this sixth queen.”

Elain now watched Lucien warily. Blinking every now and then. She revealed no hint of whatever she might be seeing—sensing. None.

He only glanced at Elain, whose face was again a calm void while she traced a finger over the embroidery on the couch cushions. “Yes. Let me help in whatever way I can.”

Before that dark wind swept in, Lucien looked back. Not to me, I realized—to someone behind me. Pale and thin, Elain stood atop the stairs. Their gazes locked and held. But Elain said nothing. Did not so much as take one step downward. Lucien inclined his head in a bow, the movement hiding the gleam in his eye—the longing and sadness. And when Lucien turned to signal to Rhys to go … He did not glance back at Elain. Did not see the half step she took toward the stairs—as if she’d speak to him. Stop him.

“I’m fine,” Elain said quietly. And then asked, noticing the gore on him, the torn clothes and stillbloody weapons, “Are you—” “Well, I never want to fight in another battle as long as I live, but … yes, I’m in one piece.” A faint smile bloomed on Elain’s lips.

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Can somebody tell me wtf is "forbidden" about Elriel? Because we all know the blood duel shit would never happen because if Elain told Lucien she loved Azriel he would immediately back off and if Azriel said he loved Elain Rhysand would back him. And it would be perfectly convenient for Elain to marry Azriel and stay in the Night Court with her sisters forever and never venture out of her comfort zone. Azriel was never kept from seeing Elain. Lucien was though. Lucien wasn't allowed anywhere near his MATE without an armed fucking guard despite all he did for Feyre despite her setting him up to fail. And marrying Lucien would mean going away from the Night Court, away from her sisters who coddle her and keep her "safe." So actually Lucien and Elain is more forbidden than Elain and Azriel.

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Sometimes your hearts cries while your eyes are dry. And I think that's the worst.

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my favorite acotar men + “i could fix him” text posts

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