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Reminder that Anne Rice was always fierce.

(From Anne Rice: Playboy interview, 1993)

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Alright kids say it with me

My thoughts don’t make me a bad person

My feelings don’t make me a bad person

My thoughts, feelings, and impulses only exist inside my head, and none of it matters unless I act on it

Nobody can see my thoughts or emotions

The only things anyone can see and judge me on are my actions

There’s no such thing as a thought crime

thank u

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But what makes the Haitian revolution more alright compared to the other 18th century political violence - ‘white’ queer so called history nerd on the internet says

So you admit it then, you are anti black, anti brown and antisemitic? < as those social structures as biphobia, transphobia and aphobia need each other to uphold one another.

The 18th century was long and revolutionary to say the least. Most of this blog has depicted white elitism, romanticizing the 18th Century. I apologize for that and certainly do not want to depict this era as a fantasy land because it certainly wasn't for the enslaved and indigenous populations. The realities for Africans and Indigenous were brutal and death was more often than not, chosen over slavery.

For those in the back, slavery is not better than death.

It is a responsibility of this blog and myself as an aspiring historian, and a descendent of 17th century European immigration and colonization in America to give the facts about what really went on in the midst of erasure and fascism we are currently experiencing.

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A shaman watches TV inside the Tos Deer ( nine skies) association in the Siberian town of Kyzyl, Republic of Tuva, Russia. Photographed by A. Abbas.

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i bring a sort of "it doesnt matter if youre into porn or not, getting elitist and mad at people for being horny aligns you with the agenda of the alt right" vibe to the conversation that some ppl dont like

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I love the internet i got into an arguement with this 28 year old white person and they put a satanic hex on me when they were losing. This surpasses all other twitter beef

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French Mistresses with Dr.s Christine and Tracy Adams

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Sugar babies are no better than whores, and there’s nothing wrong with being a whore.

An Open Letter to Sugar Babies

I started my experiences in sex work with sugaring, so I say this with the full knowledge of what it’s like and how sugar babies tend to view it: you need to accept that sugaring is a form of sex work. Let me talk to you about why.

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"Having worked in a hotel both as a hospitality worker and as a hooker, I feel as though I'm in a particularly good place to discuss interactions between the two. Sex workers will often spend time in bars, restaurants and particularly hotels with our clients in ways that may make our profession obvious. Once we're spotted, hotel workers have to decide whether they're going to do anything about it."

A breakdown of the training that hotel workers get to spot sex trafficking, why it harms sex workers and fails to help victims of paid sexual abuse in equal measure, and what hotel workers should do instead.

After seeing so many people react to this post I made about leaving sex workers alone when you spot them in hospitality environments, I thought I'd provide a more comprehensive look into the supposed red flags and the reasons it's a bad idea to report those you suspect are being trafficked (not least because you're probably wrong)!

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Once again, we reach the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers (IDEVASW, December 17th) with more sex workers killed in the last year than we can name or count.

To process my grief this year, I wrote this piece for Tryst.

"Regardless of the real magnitude of the murder rate of sex workers and queer people, we can be sure that any group who are considered deviant will be killed or pushed to kill ourselves for our differences. Our deaths are not always at the end of a weapon or fists, but more often systems, and we know who to blame. On this year’s International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers, I will be thinking of those who were subjected to forms of violence that are not so easily recognized and I urge others to do the same."

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Fundamentally, doing sex work is not something inherently degrading which must be balanced out by an empowering sum of money. It is a neutral act.

An article about "rate shaming", the practice is degrading sex workers for how much they charge. We must dismantle this idea that how much sex workers charge is correlated with our self-worth!

We see how ludicrous rate shaming is as a practice the most keenly by considering sex workers with flexible rates. I’ve upcharged wealthy clients hundreds of pounds for an hour and taken advantage of their deep pockets, only to show up to my brothel shift the next day and take a 15-minute quickie booking where I only earn £25 after the brothel manager’s cut. Did my value as a person, or even as a provider of sexual services, drop overnight? No. The only thing that changed was how much I could charge based on the clients available to me.

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So, You Have Feelings for a Sex Worker?

Before you confess to your romantic interest in a sex worker, you should think about whether you could actually handle dating one of us. There are issues like jealousy, stigma, and even potential legal consequences to consider.

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"Very little breaks taboos like shamelessly talking about selling sexual services. It’s the reason that many people work in secrecy and isolation. When we’re put in the position of having to lie to those close to us because of whorephobia, it can be such a huge relief to talk to other sex workers that it all comes spilling out at once as soon as we find them."

My latest article for Tryst on radical honesty among sex workers, what causes it, and what we can learn from it!

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An article I wrote on the gendered language people use about sex work, versus the reality and the impact of assuming all sex workers are women!

"We make broad generalizations all the time in daily speech, so what’s the harm in assuming the workers are women when talking about a female-dominated profession? When we generalize about a topic, we rely on the listener to understand that there are exceptions. Unfortunately most people are not very educated about sex work and are unlikely to have a working knowledge of the number of queer men and non-binary people involved in it, so generalizations about gender are taken as fact. Cis male sex workers become equivalent to a freakshow act to gawk at and transmasculine ones might as well be unicorns."

People on Tumblr frequently use she/her to refer to sex workers as a group or comment on posts I've made using the word women interchangeably with the phrase "sex workers", despite the fact that I am gender-neutral in the way I discuss sex work broadly and specifically talk about women when that's part of a point being made. It can be super tiring and correcting people all the time would be exhausting.

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I see this on every post on IGM (intersex genital mutilation);

"Omg how is this not the easiest lawsuit ever!"

"That sounds SO illegal!! That's a violation of a person's autonomy! "

"Sue that hospital into the ground!"

"This is medical malpractice!"

That's just the thing. It's not medical malpractice. At least not legally. Intersex people are mutilated under full support of the law in most parts of the world. It isn't just rogue bigoted doctors mutilating intersex patients. It is written into the standard practices and protocols of the larger medical establishment.

Intersex medical abuse is not just systemic it is systematic.

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i think some of you dont like narratives or stories or characters i think you just like fanfiction tropes

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The ECP (English Collective of Prostitutes) have been collecting signatures for their open letter to the Home Secretary, signed by over 80 organisations, demanding the abolition of “prostitute’s cautions” and an end to the criminalisation of sex work!⁣ They handed in this letter on June 2nd and these pictures are from those who came along!

The ECP's post about this on Instagram!