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1) You should assume good faith (good intentions, the most flattering interpretation of their speech) when taking with people, 2) it is normal to do so unless you have a serious, ongoing reason as to not do so, and 3) if you do not regularly approach people, especially strangers, in good faith during discussions, then that is a sign of something wildly unhealthy within your psyche.

4) You do have options to change how you think, 5) it will require work to train your brain to approach people sincerely and 6) you may have to stop hanging out in spaces that are toxic or destructive.

But, 7) by tempering your mind, 8) taking accountability for how your words harm others and 9) not hanging out in places that give you an addicting, self-righteous, sense of anger, 10) you can move towards having meaningful, adult, conversations, honestly and openly with others, 11) in such a way where social safety and kindness allows you to be intellectually curious, exploratory, and to grow.

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People who don't speak government might not realize it, but this? This is as close as the President can get to saying "Fucking FINALLY, rot in piss". This is "I've hated him my entire career, I've done my best to undo the damage he did, he hung around far too long and never stopped being obnoxiously wrong, and I guess I'm kinda sorry for his family but I'm glad he's finally dead".

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Can all the tumblr homosexuals agree to stop buying chick fil a. It's so depressing that across the board lgbt people and supporters are indifferent to chick fil a and feel fine buying it. Can we at least stigmatize it here

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Learn to articulate how you're feeling without accusing anyone of having bad intentions. You can say "I'm afraid of being alone" without saying "you're just going to leave me like everyone else." You can say "I need some reassurance" without saying "you probably don't love me anymore." You can say "I'm afraid I've hurt your feelings and I'd like to talk it through" without saying "you don't even like me anymore." You can say "I want to spend more time with you" without saying "you've gotten tired of me." You can say "I feel misunderstood" without saying "you always judge me." Try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Have a conversation focused on finding solutions instead of escalating the conflict.

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Today on clownery from my fraternity: I started “pavlov training” this guy from my frat as a joke but now it’s actually working

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Democrats are further right than fucking Reagan on this

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It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!

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Are they distancing themselves from manhood to he perceived as "one of the good ones" or are they backed into a corner by gender essentialism and repackaged terf rhetoric, regardless of whether they're a nonbinary or binary man

are trans men "degendering themselves to take advantage of their agab" or are they not acting like emotionally shutdown distant cis men. are they acting like women or are they acting like themselves. are they distancing themselves from manhood to be perceived as "one of the good ones" or are they nonbinary. are they "maintaining male dominance in queer spaces" or are they asking to say something. you are ascribing a lot of malicious intent and conspiracy to a group of people connected by one singular thing.

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What people don’t get is that my manhood and my transness are inherently intertwined. If someone is harassing me for being trans, they’re harassing me for being a trans man. If I’m demonized and excluded for being a man, I’m demonized and excluded for being a trans man. If I wasn’t trans then I wouldn’t be a man, and if I wasn’t a man then I wouldn’t be trans. You cannot ever fully separate them.

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This mentality also depends on entitlement to know people's agab and genitals, and laregely ignores intersex status and life experiences.

I know we've talked about all the ways, "I hate all men EXCEPT trans men", is generally painting us not reeaallllyyy men which is fucked up, but it's also a nerve wracking position to find yourself in. Yes, I am incredibly hostile to people very much like you, but you're my exception. Who knows what will cause me to take that Exception card away from you, and when. Are you really not the enemy? Are you? Are you? Haha just checking no pressure do as I say.

In some ways, I can really understand wanting men who are safer and more understanding but like, this is scary to be on the other end of. It's controlling and you have power over me. I'm literally transgender.

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One day, you'll be singing your favourite songs at the top your lungs as you swing around your house to its beat. One day you'll look back at the battle you are fighting today and think about how you overcame them all. One day you'll be at peace with yourself. Please hang on until you see that day.

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“Hung on my bedroom wall is the quote attributed to Joan of Arc: “I am not afraid. I was born to do this.” However my life unfolds, goes my thinking, is how I am meant to live it; however my life unspools itself, I was created to bear it.”

— Esmé Weijun Wang, The Collected Schizophrenias  

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There’s one thing I always think of when I hear “how could you let it get so bad?” and similar phrases. It’s in the comments of every video of matted hair or a dirty kitchen.

I think the appropriate response is “what would have to happen to you for you to let it get that bad?” And when you think about that question, and the horrifying answers that come with it, you almost certainly have more sympathy for the person you were being judgemental to.

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the way cishet people talk about sex is so fucking depressing. anal sex is kinky. oral is foreplay. i think if you told them sex doesn’t have to involve genitals at all they’d explode

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