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A woman is any look and any personality in a female body

Not a feminine look and a feminine personality in any body

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“This caused controversy” is an incredible understatement.

O’Connor was ahead of her time and consistently spoke out on issues related to child abuse, human rights, anti-racism, organized religion, social injustice, mental illnesses, and women's rights. But in specifically calling out the Catholic Church for its systemic culture of covering up child sexual abuse and protecting abuser priests, her career was effectively derailed by the media.

She unflinchingly spoke truth to power.

“I don't do anything in order to cause trouble. It just so happens that what I do naturally causes trouble. I'm proud to be a troublemaker.” —Sinead O’Connor

Rest in Peace 🕊️

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You remember how a journalist unilaterally decided to give me a new name—Mrs. Husband's Surname—on learning that I was married, and how I asked him to stop because that was not my name. I will never forget the smoldering hostility from some Nigerian women in response to this. It is interesting that there was more hostility, in general, from women than from men, many of whom insisted on calling me what was not my name, as though to silence my voice.

I wondered about that, and thought that perhaps for many of them, my choice represented a challenge to their idea of what is the norm.

Even some friends made statements like "You are successful and so it is okay to keep your name." Which made me wonder: Why does a woman have to be successful at work in order to justify keeping her name?

The truth is that I have not kept my name because I am successful. Had I not had the good fortune to be published and widely read, I would still have kept my name. I have kept my name because it is my name. I have kept my name because I like my name.

There are people who say "Well, your name is also about patriarchy because it is your father's name." Indeed. But the point is simply this: Whether it came from my father or from the moon, it is the name that I have had since I was born, the name with which I traveled my life's milestones, the name I have answered to since that first day I went to kindergarten on a hazy morning and my teacher said, "Answer 'present' if you hear your name. Number one: “Adichie!”

-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or, A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

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Dora Russell has no great faith in the present parliamentary system. She perfectly understands women's reluctance to participate: 'Parliament,' she states unequivocally, ‘is a man's game. It's a substitute for civil war and duelling. It's based completely on the idea of conflict. You have to be party adversaries. There has to be opposition. If one party chooses one thing in its platform, the other party has to show it's different, it has to oppose it. Have you ever heard of anything so ridiculous?’ she asked me.

'Politicians will even toe the party political line when it goes against their own conscience. And they'll come out and tell you about it, as if it's understandable! Of course women can't see the sense of such a system, and that's why a lot of them stay out of it. Women like having consensus but the whole parliamentary system is arranged to prevent that' (1982).

I reminded her that many of the parliamentary bills which have related to women have often confounded party divisions and have been 'free' or 'conscience' votes (suffrage, abortion, etc.) 'Of course,' Dora Russell replied, 'men have got their own choices sorted out. They have been doing it a long time. They know all about work, and machines, money and markets, and there is a sort of dogma which dictates the way each party goes. But they haven't worked out any schemes on women's issues. They just lump them altogether as private, and you wouldn't be a very sensible person if you joined an organisation that thought your politics and priorities were just a matter of personal choices, a matter of conscience. And women are sensible people - that's why they can see there's no place for them in party politics' (1982).

-Dale Spender, There’s Always Been a Women’s Movement This Century

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Sometimes I wonder if while I'm doing the whole bookstore thing, if I shouldn't learn to bind books myself and just turn as much internet based stuff into physical books as I can. Not to sell or anything, but just to like preserve for longer.

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the fact that people expect a woman to suffer thru unwanted sex more often than they expect a man to suffer thru no sex says all you need to know about how society (mostly men, but women do it as well) sees women and their role in the relationship.

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personally i see separatism as akin to the right to hold a job, get a divorce, open a bank account, or own property. not all women do these things, but having the ability to do so is necessary because it means you have an alternative to relying on men, who have proven that they cannot be trusted to protect or provide for us. it’s just another form of female self-reliance. i don’t understand this apparent need to argue about it or pit lesbians and straight women against each other whatsoever

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i know i shouldn’t throw the word trauma around easily, but i think that girls fearing rape and forced pregnancy before they even turn into a teenager is actually traumatic, but society doesn’t discuss it much because 50% of the population experiences it. like we don’t really know how our minds have been affected by living in such a misogynistic world surrounded by people that we consider potential rapists, it must be bad, but it’s just so normalised, we act like it’s just another aspect of socialisation similar to girls being expected to like pink.

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Imagine these assholes destroying our hardwork

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Today, Ukraine became the first. The first country in the world against which an intercontinental ballistic missile was used.

let's goooo незламний народе first in everything amirite -----------------------------------

no one cares

I don't care what you say. This is the harsh truth. No one gives a fuck if our nation lives or dies.

To use intercontinental missile to strike Dnipro. That's gotta be the most ridiculously expensive temper tantrum ever.

UPDATE: putin said that russia attacked Ukraine with the "newest" medium-range ballistic missile "Oreshnik"

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Honestly why do so many american ""4B"" have to be calling it 4B when they clearly actually don't want to be doing that?

Just call it a boycott of men, or a women's relationship strike. Boycotters/people on strike usually go back once conditions improve, but 4B is a much more permanent solution AND WORLDVIEW. Clearly you don't actually want 4B, but you sense something is wrong. That's okay but it's not 4B. You can make something else.

Stop coopting language and then redefining it to mean whatever you want.

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Another film that I haven’t heard anyone talk about. Which is a shame, it’s a beautiful picture. Heartbreaking and surprising and understated and powerful and beautiful. Women Talking is definitely one I would recommend. It received the Oscar for Best Adapted Screenplay.

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Btw, privatization is stealing from *you.* You are the public in "publicly owned." Oligarchs are coming in to take the things we all share ownership of as Americans, like Medicare, Social Security, National Parks, PBS and scrapping them for parts they find profitable.

The right is planning to rob us and quite literally want us to thank them for the privilege by calling it "government efficiency."

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That recent research saying that not only were women hunters AS WELL as gatherers but also that women were BETTER hunters because we had less ego about it and worked in packs is honestly making me go back to thinking we're supposed to be a matriarchal society. I think there are more natural female born leaders than there are male ones, because the traits we associate with femininity are honestly more necessary for leadership than a lot of the masculine ones, especially right now. Flexibility, ability to consider multiple perspectives, nurturing, empathetic, warm, able to multitask? All leadership traits to me, and things our world needs more of right now

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"Women's body is a work of art":

your body is not a work of art, and guess what? it shouldn't be, the only thing your body should be is a body. it does not exist to look beautiful, it does not exist to impress others, or for men to muse at, it exists as a body, that's it.

it isn't supposed to be anything else, and you shouldn't want it to be anything else.

take care of it as a human body, not as something that's supposed to be beautiful, not as something that's supposed to be observed and looked at.

this is just another way to objectify females, that is now a simple compliment, and is viewed by everyone as a compliment, but it shouldn't be.

your body isn't some work of art, and it should never be considered one! and also, your body is not a seperate thing from you! look down, that's you.

you are not just a mind in a skin suit, you are your mind and your body, it is all you, so don't treat it as some seperate entity that has to look presentable for the male gaze, or really for anyone's gaze.

your body is your body, it is not anyone's work of art to enjoy, it is your body and your body is you.