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Stop consuming excessive amount of media.

TV, social media, podcasts, YouTube, etc are meant to be consumed periodically for pleasure or entertainment. These platforms have been proven to decrease productivity and increase anxiety, depression, and self hate.

Protect your mind and energy.

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Amal Clooney

the perfect embodiment of feminine & masculine energy.

Feminine in her mannerisms and how she presents herself but rightfully masculine in her career, Amal Clooney is a beautiful representation of what it means to balance your feminine and masculine energy.

who is she?

Amal Clooney, now 44 years old, is an international lawyer, human rights activist, mother, and wife to the famous George Clooney. When she’s not representing powerful clients before international courts, she is advising political governments and individuals on legal issues. She is a brilliant woman known for her high profile cases, accomplishments, husband, and fashion. She is described as “a brilliant legal mind” and “knows her brief inside out”. Her accolades make her the ideal role model and inspiration for young women.

her background

Amal is a Lebanese-British lawyer and activist specializing in international law and human rights. She was raised in England by her educated father and entrepreneurial mother. Following high school, she studied at Oxford University and graduated with her bachelor’s before attending New York University of Law where she got her Master of Law degree. 

influenced by strong women

Amal is a product of her environment. As mentioned, she was raised by an entrepreneurial mother. Her mother, Baria Alamuddin, is an award winning journalist. Baria has interviewed some of the most notable and prominent figures in the world. Amal’s mother and grandmother both are strong supporters of women empowerment and education which you can see in Amal’s philanthropic work. Another example of being influenced by strong women is when she worked in the office of Sonia Sotomayor, the first woman of color and Latina to serve on the supreme court. She even had the pleasure of working with the judge for the United States Court of Appeals and a NYU Law faculty member. It’s obvious that Amal was fortunate enough to have examples of strong and powerful women not only in her home but in the workplace.

personality

I admire Amal for her intelligence, wit, and ability to keep most of her personal life private. Not much is said about her private life, but colleagues have mentioned that Amal has a ‘commanding presence”. This is obvious when watching her interviews — her energy fills the room. She never overshares or says more than necessary, but when she does speak it’s worth listening to. As you probably guessed, she is an intelligent woman. Fluent in English, French and Arabic. Her cleverness and well articulated speeches immediately captivates those around her.

love life

One person who was captivated by her mind is her husband George Clooney. In the world of law, she was already a celebrity but became one in the literal sense when she became involved with the well known bachelor, George Clooney. George had a long history of dating gorgeous, famous women but never settled down. He even publicly said he would never get married... this was until he met Amal in July of 2013, in Lake Como Italy.

Similar to Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, the two met through a mutual friend. This is why your connections, network, and personal brand matters — those can open more doors for you than a dating app can. While most women would fall at the feet of George, Amal didn’t. In fact, he chased her for months before they became serious. He claims he fell for her because of intelligence and personality, but I assume the chase also had a huge impact. Amal is highly intelligent and understands seduction. She knows if she were like every other woman, she would get treated like every other woman. Instead, she stayed committed to her career and mission while making time for him when she could.

In 2014, the two love birds became engaged only after a year of dating. The Clooney’s were married in Sept of 2014 by no other than the former mayor of Rome. Their beautiful multi-million dollar wedding was in Venice, Italy and was one to remember. After they said “I do”, the couple moved to a multimillion-dollar estate built on a small island in London before having their twins in 2017. Together the couple committed to philanthropic work for women’s and human’s rights. It’s rumored that they’ve donated over $22M to a variety of charities. In 2016, her and George Clooney founded Clooney Foundation for Justice. She has partnered with several other charities, such as Aurora Humanitarian Initiative, and has her own scholarship program to send young girls to college.

awards & achievements

I would love to end this off not talking about Amal’s love life but the amazing things she’s accomplished. Her list of her achievements and awards are way too long to cover so I’ll mention the few I thought were most notable. Amal was awarded the most fascinating person in 2014, the World Economic Forum’s 2016 Young Global Leader, and Time magazine’s Woman of the Year in 2022. Her fight for human rights has made her a noble activist, leader, and role model. She uses her celebrity status to shed light on political issues that may have otherwise been thrown under the rug.

Amal has shown us that you can be a feminine family woman while being successful at your career. Her brilliant mind has captivated the red carpet, magazines, and one of Hollywood’s best actors. Amal is an inspiring mother, wife, and activists. Her poise, style, and grace are just a few elements to her feminine charm. Her healthy balance of masculine energy is portrayed in her ability to relentlessly peruse her career, fight for meaningful causes, and excel in a highly competitive field.

X, @luxuryandbrown | You might like: Meghan Markle: Femininity Breakdown

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the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.

date yourself. get to know yourself. spend quality time with yourself. fall in love with yourself unconditionally.

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Main Character Energy

what is it and how to exude it

Main character energy (MCE) is often confused with being narcissistic or selfish. But it’s simply the idea of putting yourself first. It’s a term, commonly referenced by women, used to describe focusing on what YOU want in life and going for it — regardless of how it may affect others. How could anyone assume something as positive and inspiring as this selfish? Well it’s because society is used to women playing the supporting role not the main character — literally & in mainstream media.

Whats a supporting character?

Being a supporting character in your own life looks like you always saying yes to obligations you truly don’t want to attend. It’s you going after careers someone else has chosen for you. It’s you taking on hobbies to please others. It’s you consistently putting your needs and desires on the shelf to accommodate other people. This may seem like a beautiful, selfless trait but it’s actually one of the worst things you can do to yourself. This behavior is lowering your self esteem and self confidence and shows the people around you that they can walk all over you.

The hard truth

In this life, no one will put you first except YOU. No one will make your happiness a priority. No one will go to great lengths to make your dream life a reality, except you. This isn’t because no one else cares about you, but because they have their own lives to focus on. It’s why Main Character Energy, shouldn’t just be a trend but a way of living. You have to treat yourself like the main character in your life because no one else is fully capable of doing that for you, except you. You can be a main character and still care for your loved ones. You can be a main character and still be compassionate. You can be a main character and still support those around you.

How to exude main character energy

Being a main character in your life means you put yourself first. It’s only saying yes to things that energetically serve you. It’s only surrounding yourself around people that have the best intentions for you. Its considering your emotional and mental well being. It’s keeping your goals and priorities at the top of your mind. Its eating foods that nourish you. It’s limiting the toxic drinks & foods you consume. It’s taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally & physically above all else.

Side affects of main character energy

When you’re the main character, your self esteem and self confidence increases drastically. You stop viewing yourself as just another girl, but as THE girl. You put yourself on a pedestal and think so highly of yourself that those around you have no choice but to do the same. When you have a high regard for yourself, you tend to attract people in your life that feel the same way about you. Exude that main character energy, apologetically. ✨

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create an aura of mystery.

the less you share, the more alluring you appear.

See: Master the Art of Mystery

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become the women you admire.

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Romantizing Your Life

what the fuck does that really mean & how to do it

‘romanticizing your life’ has become a popular term used on platforms like TikTok and Instagram, but let’s talk about what that really means and why it may be one of the most useful tips you get from social media.

To romanticize your life means to idealize the small moments in your life such as the routine or mundane things you do daily. 

Why is this important? In a social media era, comparison is at an all time high. People go through life hating their homes, cars, and jobs simply because they assume that everyone is living better than them. Social media has created this illusion that the majority of people are living extravagant lives, meanwhile yours is just average. Believing this illusion brings an unnecessary amount of anxiety and decreases your self esteem overtime.

The truth is, social media is a highlight reel. People only post their best moments so of course their life appears perfect. There has even been evidence of people renting cars and homes to pretend like it’s theirs. We’ve even seen popular influencers caught for lying, stealing and scamming to portray a lifestyle that isn’t real. This is why we shouldn’t idolize anyone or anything on social media — it’s all an illusion.

By focusing on yourself and romanticizing your life, you avoid the constant comparison of your surroundings to those posted on social media. You begin to make the simple moments in your life special, as it should be. Here are some examples of romanticizing your days:

taking pleasure in making your morning coffee

enjoying the process of doing laundry

noticing the calmness you feel as you clean your home

finding moments of joy in your work commute

Life isn’t about those vacations you take once in a while or parties you attend a couple times a year. It’s about enjoying it everyday, regardless of what you have or do not have. It’s who you spend most of your time with and how you chose to feel about every second. That is what matters mosts to your mental and emotional health.

No one’s life is perfect, but their feed is. The more you obsess over someone else’s curated content, the more you’ll resent your own life. If you want to attract more into your life, then be grateful for what you already have. Show the universe, God, or whatever higher source you believe in that you’re open to receiving more by showing love for what you have. This becomes easy to do when you romanticize the life you have now.

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Georgina Gio

read: previous post about her

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Admire yourself. Put yourself on a pedestal. Hang up your best pictures. Make moodboards to include you in it. Idolize you. You are your own dream girl.

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Embracing Your [Unique] Features

I see plastic surgery, adjustments, and fillers on beautiful women on a daily basis. From minor adjustments to full face changes. I’ll be the first to admit that I am NOT against plastic surgery or fillers. You should do what makes you happy. However, you shouldn’t get these life changing procedures solely to look like someone else.

For decades, main stream media has portrayed a certain look for women to strive for. For years, it was the “blond haired, blue eyed-white girl”. Now it’s the “dark long haired, full lip-bombshell”. It’s sad because the media has led gorgeous girls to believe they have to look like someone else to be considered attractive.

This post is to show you the benefits of embracing your unique attributes. Often, what these girls forget is that the women we deem ‘beautiful, sexy, or confident’ actually don’t fit the beauty standard.

The women that society puts on a pedestal have notably embraced their unique features and had an easier time branding themselves because they looked unique instead of a walking clone.

Skin tone

Dita Von Teese has never been shy when it comes to embracing her extremely pale skin tone. She has admitted that her style and persona doesn’t fit the normal beauty standards. She could’ve easily spray tanned like most celebrities do to get a darker complexion but instead she embraced the fair skin she has. Now, whenever you see Dita in a photo, magazine, or video there’s no second guessing - you know that’s her because of her unique aesthetic.

She even brings attention to her fair skin by adding dark lipstick and hair. Her beauty doesn’t come from looking like anyone else but herself.

Hair

When it comes to having their own hairstyles that suits them, Beyonce and Ariana Grande nail it. Beyoncé has switched up her hair numerous times but the color and styles still scream “Beyonce”. The honey brown tone and curls are what I think of when I imagine Beyonce’s face. Imagine if Beyonce decided to be ‘on trend’ and get a lace front wig & baby hairs like everyone else has. Instead, she drops “Lemonade” and brings cornrows back in style! She is aware of the colors, curl patterns and styles that work for HER. Don’t worry about what style is cool at that moment. Instead, figure out what looks good on YOU. Wear hairstyles that you actually like and that suit you best, not what someone else has.

Style

The icon herself - Ms Rihanna Fenty. I do not have to explain because we all know Rih is known for her avant garde style and iconic looks. She is the queen of “NEVER playing it safe” when it comes to fashion. I understand that Rihanna has a team of people who’s job is to ensure she’s best dressed. However, that doesn’t deny the fact that her style is original and unconventional. Rihanna doesn’t look to see what everyone else is wearing or what the trendy items are, she creates the trends.

I know that we all can’t be Rihannah’s, but you can be that girl in your own city, town or neighborhood that’s known for having her unique style and fashion. You will never get credit or noticed for looking like everyone else, but you will get credit for having a style that is your own.

Personality

Lastly but mostly importantly, your personality. Meeting someone who has their own opinions and not the opinions of what they see on social media. I miss meeting people that had their own unique personality and vibe. Your weird, hilarious, loud, or odd personality is what makes you unique and memorable. People will easily forget you if you’re just like everyone else.

A lot of these blogs try to tell you the “proper” or “right” way of thinking, behaving, and speaking. The truth is, you’ll get far putting on an act but people will eventually see right through you, or worse - get bored with you.

Cardi B is where she is today not because of her talent, but because of her out of the box personality. She’s loud, obnoxious, and says whatever the fuck comes to mind. People love that about her because they are too afraid to do that themselves.

Issa Rae’s quirky and awkward personality is what makes her a cultural favorite. She isn’t afraid to be herself, in fact she embraces it. While everyone is trying to be a bad bitch or hot girl she is just being Issa. She is so well liked in the community not just for talent and shows, but for her awkward & funny personality.

To reiterate, I have no problem with plastic surgery, enhancements or even changing behaviors about yourself. I just want you to consider why you’re doing it. If you truly believe you need to make these changes in order to excel in life or feel better, then do it.

But, if you think these changes will make you appear as someone else then you should reconsider. Everyone has something that is different and unique about themselves which help them stand out. Use those unique attributes to your advantage.

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Caresha

the urban it girl

Yung Miami, also known as Caresha, is a popular urban it girl. Known for being 1/2 of the city girls, her Miami accent, and humor. Caresha first came on the scene with JT, the other half of the City Girls. The duo took off when they were featured on Drake’s hit song “In My Feelings”.

Fans immediately began to identify JT as the better rapper, yet Yung Miami was still a crowd favorite. Her lingo and style were unforgettable. Fans admired her, not because of music, but for her sensuality, charm, and personality.

Sex Appeal

There is no denying Caresha’s beauty. However, good looks isn’t all she has. She has a sexy, sensual aura around her. This could be because of her unquestionable confidence in herself and sexuality. If you listen to her lyrics and thoughts on sexuality, she’s very open about it and uses sex to leverage power rather than love. Sexual energy is attractive to all genders, making people drawn to her.

Charm

Caresha has an urban charm and finesse to her. When you watch her videos or interviews, you can’t help but laugh, smile, or feel like you know her. She has a funny way of making her audience feel like they can relate to her, even if they do not behave the same way or come from where she does. She has a home girl, friendly vibe that makes it easy to fall in love with.

A lot of celebrities make the mistake of losing touch with their fan base once they grow a larger audience. They do this by distancing themselves from the public. Not Caresha… she goes on IG live, appears at events, and even created her new podcast — Caresha Please. Her down to earth charisma makes her a likable public figure.

Authenticity

Caresha is herself and there’s no denying that. Her slang, accent and hilarious comments are what people love about her. You can call her “ghetto” or “loud” but you can’t call her fake. Her Miami roots are what make her stand out amongst other women fighting for black culture’s attention. In a world of clones and copy cats, it’s always refreshing to see someone being themselves unapologetically. Like Cardi B, Caresha has learned how to monetize her unique personality.

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Alexa Demie

why we love her

Her Character

Truth is, we love Maddy. Maddy Perez, the infamous character that Alexa Demie is known for, is our favorite popular girl. She’s confident, fierce, and a little bitchy. She’s the modern day, nicer version of Regina George that this generation desperately needed. She embodies everything that most women want on the surface: good looks, confidence, and popularity. Alexa played this role to perfection and brought fans to their knees with her facial expressions and natural charm.

Because this is the first time most of us have seen Alexa Demie on screen, it’s all we know about her. The public has yet to separate Alexa Demi from her character. To our defense, it’s only because we do not know much about her outside Euphoria. Due to our lack of knowledge about who Alexa Demi really is, we’ve fallen in love with the idea of her and Maddy combined.

Mystery

There is so much mystery surrounding Alexa Demie. Her age, love life, and who she was prior to Euphoria. She had a small acting and music career, was involved in fashion, and owned a celebrity sunglass company prior to her role as Maddy. But none of that gave her the same attention she has gained from the show. People have always loved mysteries. In a world where you know everything about everyone, it’s cool to see a celebrity that we don’t know much about. This makes her alluring and magnetic. It feels like we’re discovering new clues about Alexa whenever a old picture resurfaces or when we learn something new about her past.

I think Alexa is well aware of her mystic and uses it to her advantage. She does limited press and interviews. We have no idea what she’s working on until it launches. We never see her spotted by paparazzi. And she’s not one to share personal details or what she’s doing on Instagram stories. This type of privacy makes people drawn to her even more. Check out my posts on how to be more mysterious.

Visual Aesthetic

Alexa Demi is an artist before anything. Her visuals and projects that she releases have a lot of creativity and it shows. She doesn’t post random pictures or collaborates with every brand just for a paycheck. Everything she releases to the public has a tailored visual plan to it. She has mastered her old Hollywood, hispanic aesthetic. Her strategic visuals allows people to view her in the lens she’s created.

Visuals are everything when you want to appeal to a mass of people. People care more about visuals than words. Alexa Demi is smart because she ONLY post visuals that align with her peritcular aesthetic. We do not see her in public often or off guard so the image she provides us, is all we have of her.

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Master the Art of Mystery [digitally]

Being mysterious in an era of over sharing has become increasingly difficult. If you have no social media, this may come off as weird or like you’re hiding something. If you have social media but share too much, you lack mystery. The key is to find the right balance.

Being mysterious online isn’t for everyone. You should ask why you want to appear mysterious. If you’re trying to build a large following, online community or personal brand, then this may not be for you. But if you want to add an element of mystery or you’re naturally mysterious and want to master this online, then keep reading:

1. Limit how often you show your face

Your face and expressions tell a lot about who you are. Keep your followers wondering by limiting how often you reveal yourself. This does not mean you should never show your face. However, every photo should not showcase you. Even once you do show your face, limit your expressions by having a “blank” look (see Kylie Jenner or Marlene Dietrich for examples). This will add to your mysterious aura.

2. Do not tag locations or people

Where do you live? What restaurant is that? That’s a secret you’ll never tell *gossip girl voice*. Being at beautiful places, events, and locations but never revealing where you are will drive your audience crazy. It shows that you are not impressed by the beautiful or cool places you attend because you don’t even bother to share where it is.

3. Limited to no captions

Always say less than necessary. In other words, know when to shut tf up. Save the catchy song lyrics to the influencers. Say one-line quotes, metaphors, or nothing at all. This leaves your audience guessing.

4. Be interesting

Guys, you can do all this and more but still lack mystery. Why? Because you’re not interesting. A mysterious person with nothing going on for themselves is just a boring, ordinary person that doesn’t post often. No one will care or even be curious to know more about you if you don’t give them a reason to.

Travel abroad often but never post where you work and they will wonder how you afford it. Appear with celebs at exclusive parties but never reveal how you know them and they will be curious about your background. Go to luxurious restaurants and events but never post details and they will want to know more about you.

The reason we are so drawn to mysterious people is not just because they reveal little about themselves, but it’s because they spark an interest in us and we cannot understand what it is. You have to appeal interesting, first, while revealing very little about yourself.

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HOW TO:

ATTRACT ATTENTION

This one is for my girls that want to be seen and stand out. If you want to build a personal brand or reputation that has all eyes on you, listen up:

1. THE look

You have to have THE look, not just a look. Many believe you have to look like the ideal beauty standard but it’s actually the opposite. The ideal beauty standard is simply a trend and changes every decade. Within this decade, majority of women will go to great lengths to appeal to that standard. But if you want to attract attention, you will go the opposite route. The women that have massed attention have always looked different or like themselves, not everyone else.

Think about Instagram - majority of the girls look the same, which is why you get bored of them. But the Rihanna’s, Kardashians, Nene Leakes, Zendeyas and Ashley Grahams of the world actually hone in on their features that set them apart. Their uniqueness attracts more attention because it’s rare. See: How to Embrace Your Unique Features

Kim Kardashian came on the scene when skinny, blonde white girls were the thing to be, but she stood out because of her curves, dark hair, and sex appeal. Ashley Graham is a full, plus size model that went against the idea that a beautiful model must be skinny, tall and a size 2.

It’s not about looking like the masses, but emphasizing what makes you look different from them.

2. Entertain

To get attention, you must learn to entertain your audience or they will grow old with you. Every woman that has gained mass attention has learned this art (yes, it’s an art). Attention spans are lower than its ever been due to short content. You must learn what your audience wants to see and hear, then appeal to that.

The reason the Kardashians have built a billion dollar empire has nothing to do with talent, but their ability to keep people entertained. The reason Ari has every popular media blog in a chokehold is her ability to keep their audiences entertained. Master this art and attention is yours.

3. Keep them in suspense

If they know what you’ll do next, they will grow tired of you. Keep your audience in suspense by changing directions, trying new things, and keeping your brand fresh.

The same ol story gets boring. Have you ever wondered what happened to the popular it girls like Lira Galor (IG model) or even Snooki (Jersey Shore)? These women are still around, but they are no longer garnishing the attention they once had because the public got bored of them. Understandably, these women may have WANTED to lay low and go out of the spotlight.

But what makes Beyonce the icon for decades is her ability to change it up. She could lay low for years, and come back with a new persona. She gave us Sasha Fierce, Mrs.Carter, and Lemonade. All different eras of her.

Kim Kardashian gave us playboy bunny era, vogue, beauty icon, and now lawyer. She never stops reinventing herself.

This exciting idea that you never know who she will be next keeps her audience on their toes, wanting more. You can do this by reinventing your brand once your audience grows bored of you or knows what to expect.

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Chelsea Lazkani

Prior to ever gracing our TV screens, Chelsea Lazkani - a British Nigerian, was an (unofficial) influencer. The beautiful photos of her, her family and husband would always go viral. You can literally feel her elegance and grace through the pictures.

That aura she has is what makes her appear so glamorous and interesting. It’s an it girl factor. She just has it, and always will.

Regardless of what you think of her on the show, Selling Sunset. She is a beautiful, opulent, glamourous woman. (Keep in the mind - the show is meant to be dramatic and over the top).

Nonetheless, I’m glad to see her on TV. She is using her husbands reputation and wealthy connections to not only get into real estate but sell ultra-luxury homes and build a brand for herself.

Due to the interest people have always had about her and her lifestyle, I can definitely see her and her family having their own show in the near future.

Have you guys watched the show yet? What are your thoughts?

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Spoiled Wifey

I’ve always loved Georgina Rodriguez. She is so beautiful yet mysterious. Georgina is the long time girlfriend of Cristiano Ronaldo, one THE most famous fútbol players and richest athletes in the world!

Prior to being his long time girlfriend, she worked at Gucci, in Madrid, where she met Cristano. They have two children together but she mothers all of his children like they are her own.

People have never known too much about her life prior to being with Cristiano. Now, she has a show on Netflix that gives a little more insight to her personal brand and lifestyle. I’m excited to watch! ❤️

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