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how about we just set that on the back burner, mmkay? 

please

the 2020s are also going to be called the “roaring 20s” but this time its because everyone will always be in a fursuit the whole time

the rawring twenties ^w^

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ok so this whole convo ^^^ is crazy

the comments?! crazy!

I wish I had popcorn... 

I would like to say yes, there are many problems with every single fandom. Why? because humans suck and humans form fandoms. moving on. However, I don’t think it is wise to clump entire fandoms into good or bad, you don’t know every single person’s story, heck maybe they just like the thing and want to talk about it/post about it. 

what is not ok tho, is the specific issues stated in the comments, such as transphobia, aphobia, pornographic materials regarding minors, etc.

If we start blindly pulling the plug on everything, then there is a problem. Be critical, which does not equal negative and mean. To critique means to evaluate, use your brain, and think your own answers/views. 

fandoms we are now oppressing: hamilton, south park, yuri on ice, any heathen who ships kpop idols

previously oppressed fandoms we are now supporting because life is already hard enough for them: naruto

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#Best way to start a movie #Poe Dameron trolling the villains

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This man is still handsome as ever! His birthday was last month and he’s officially 1 year old

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Time to undo some damaging beliefs your abusers tried to ingrain into your psyche:

1. It is impossible to read anybody’s mind. If someone is upset, it is up TO THEM to tell you so you can help. Anyone who expects you to know exactly when they’re upset and what will make them feel better at that time is being unrealistic. 

2. You didn’t deserve it. Even if you think you did something morally reprehensible, two wrongs don’t make a right. 

3. If you don’t do something for somebody else, that does NOT mean you don’t care about them, etc. You can prioritize your own needs before anybody else’s. You weren’t born to be a slave whose only purpose is to fill everybody else’s needs. They shouldn’t expect you to fill their needs anyway. That is a PERSONAL responsibility. 

4. If your abuser(s) have an addiction/alcohol/drug problem, it is NOT your responsibility to fix them, and you can’t anyway. The only way rehab or treatment for an addiction will truly succeed is if the person addicted ADMITS they have a problem, and themselves makes the conscious decision to commit to quitting. You can’t really force someone to quit. 

5. Your abuser(s) have NO RIGHT to tell you how to look, act, what to say, etc. They have no right to control your demeanor, sense of style, social habits, etc. No one does. That is something not found in a healthy relationship.

6. You can leave or cut off a relationship with ANYBODY if you think it is hurting you. It doesn’t matter how much they did for you, how long you’ve been together, etc. It is your life, and you are only responsible for taking care of yourself and doing what makes you happy (as long as you are not hurting anybody else in the process). Healthy relationships are where both parties are happy and want to help each other improve as people.  

7. You are valuable. Not because of what skills/qualities you think/don’t think you have, but because YOU ARE HUMAN. Every single human being on this planet is inherently worth treating with respect, kindness, and dignity. You are no exception. 

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SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE SURVIVORS

YOU are amazing. You are awesome.

Guess what? you made through another day, heck yeah!!!!

GO TEAM RECOVERY!

the quote is from the author of winnie the pooh, A. A. Milne

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In case anyone is having a bad night:

Here is the fudgiest brownie in a mug recipe I’ve found

Here are some fun sites

Here is a master post of Adventure Time episodes and comics

Here is a master post of movies including Disney and Studio Ghibli

Here is a master post of other master posts to TV shows and movies

*tucks you in with fuzzy blanket* *pats your head*

You’ll be okay, friend <3

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I was wondering if anyone knew what this is

So sometimes I get “triggered” except it’s not a panic attack. Sometimes I sort of revert back to my state and reactions from when I was being abused. Like if someone is in a bad mood/yells at me, I tend to lower my eyes, practice perfect submission (or as perfect as I got), become hyperaware of my every move and their every move, and stay quiet and, again, be highly submissive. I’ve heard people say that being triggered is reverting back to your emotional state at the time of the trauma (usually causing panic attacks) so this might just be me getting triggered?

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Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

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Honestly, people need to take their heads out of their asses and stop making everything about them.

When I say “I don’t like being touched” which, by the way, is very difficult to do when I’m having a panic attack due to a PTSD-supported phobia, it means I don’t like being touched, not I don’t like you. It doesn’t mean “I find you disgusting” it means “I have a legitimate phobia of being touched, please don’t subject me to flashbacks.”

When I say “I don’t like sharing clothing” it doesn’t mean I think you’re gross, it means I don’t like sharing clothing with anyone, ever, because I was conditioned to think that I’m disgusting for doing that.

When I say “I need to be alone” it’s because I need to be alone, not because I need to be away from you specifically.

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Reblog. This could really help someone out.

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Hey another thing about interacting with minors When I was a kid on the internet in chatrooms and message boards, adults for some reason who either knew I was a kid or knew NOTHING about me would vent to me about their personal drama and tragedies and struggles and it was FAAAAAR too fucking much for me to handle emotionally.

I was like thirteen losing sleep and panicking and practically getting a goddamn ulcer over 38-year-old Martha’s child custody battle or 28-year-old Gus getting cheated on. Honestly, try not to even do this shit to fellow adults unless you’re dearly close friends and know for sure it’s okay. Please respect that other people aren’t obligated to carry your worries on top of their own.

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when parents do something undeniably cruel, evil and abusive to their kid: oh they didn't mean anything bad by it! they only had the best intentions! they're good people, they wouldn't do this on purpose! maybe they were provoked by something else, they deserve a second chance and forgiveness and for their side of the story to be heard!!

when a child makes a mistake: D E M O N!!! Deserves to be punished!! Needs to know their place!!! Monster! This kind of behaviour is NOT acceptable! We will not allow them to forget this ever! This is why we need to keep them in check and control them constantly!!!

now try replacing these reactions, and see how much more sense it makes.

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I love my backpack very much

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Addicts need help not hate. Feed them don’t fear them. Giving hearts, not greedy ones. The road to recovery, not the pit of despair. Care not crap. hope not harm. Honestly, the alliteration could continue for many miles, but really I had to broach this subject somehow. have a heart

Hey guess what addicts are human too and they deserve shelter, food, water, and healthcare just as much as anyone else whether or not they’re trying to “kick” addiction.

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girls in movies: ripping people to shreds with their teeth. traveling in swarms, protecting ancient rivers filled with treasure and danger

girls irl: swimming peacefully, might nibble you if you’re a bastard

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