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If you're becoming a daddy dom, here are a few tips for your DD/lg relationship

I’m writing this post because I know there are a lot of new daddies. I am a little and I have been in DD/lg relationships before. But my current daddy is a newbie to the whole dynamic. So this post is just a few things that you can do for your little!

1. Hold her hand while crossing the street, watching a scary movie or…just because.

2. Leave loving notes all over the place to surprise and delight your littles’ heart.

3. Brush her hair, help her bathe (bubble baths preferably), treat her stuffed animals like living creatures and talk with them.

4. Know all her stuffies’ names.

5. Punish misbehavior with time outs, spankings and occasionally make her write out an apology or things like “I won’t sneak a cookie before dinner” (50 times is good).

6. Take her to fun places that appeal to her inner little. Places like the zoo, a kids movie, build-a-bear, the swings at the park, an aquarium, or of course, the Disney store.

7. Reward good behavior with treats and kind words of encouragement.

8. Never lose your temper just because you are having a “bad day”.

9. Know all of her favorite foods, allergies, and all of her favorite things; whether it be color, hair bows, dress, or stuffies.

10. Bedtime routines. If you’re going to do something, make sure (if circumstances allow) that you do it everyday without fail. If you stop doing something you always did before, it makes the little feel as though they’ve done something wrong to lose that treat. Examples: brushing her hair, reading her a story, or just tucking her in at night.

11. A good Daddy Dom does not make idle threats. If you threaten a consequence for a certain behavior you are looking to change, and do not carry through, not only will the little not learn to break the habit, but they will take your threats with a grain of salt. Also, it may make the little feel unimportant if a consequence is not followed through with.

12. Always spend time reassuring your little of your love after a consequence. They need this assurance, and the knowledge that you still love and care for them. Aftercare is incredibly important. After all…this relationship is built upon trust.

13. Send your little a text message (or many) throughout the day if you must be apart. It warms their little heart!

14. Surprise her with a new stuffie from time to time. Maybe if they are down or are sick. Flowers and a stuffie is sure to brighten her/his day.

15. Watch a Disney movie of her choosing with her. And it doesn’t hurt to know her favorite one…and all the songs from it. Mine is Tarzan or Wreck it Ralph… in fact… they’re all my favourite.

16. All boo-boos, whether scratches, bruises and scrapes need to be looked after by her Daddy. Nothing makes a little feel safer and totally cared for than having a feel-better kiss, or their Daddy getting them a cool band-aid (Hello Kitty works well). Be sure to lavish them with lots of TLC!

17. If your little makes you something: no matter how big or small, you should always make them feel like their creation is cherished. Hang it up, save a pic on your phone so they see you like it and plan to look back at it…anything at all. Nothing is sadder than a pretty picture, colored with love and care, that is left sitting and collecting dust, and then forgotten.

18. If your little is in a playful, youthful mood (and you are not), do not roll your eyes, get mad or yell. Simply and calmly tell them that Daddy is not feeling playful right now. Everyone can’t be fun and playful all the time. Littles understand that…even if upset about it at times. So tell them, and that way no one’s feelings get hurt, or feels like they did something wrong.

19. Aid the age play dynamic. Do such things as carrying, lifting, and reaching high places for your little. It helps them feel as though they are seen as vulnerable and protected. Also, asking things like, “Are you sure you don’t need Daddy’s help putting that straw in the juice box?”, or “Maybe I should do that, it’s a big job, too big for you.” It keeps the little feeling happy and loved.

20. Ask your little to sit on your lap from time to time. It’s an instant smile and a blush trigger. Other things also work like tying their shoes, brushing their hair or buckling their seatbelt.

These are all simple and spontaneous things that you can do to make your little beam with pride from the attention given to them.

Have a magical, sparkly day! From - Daddy’s Princess.

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Introducing New Adult Noir: Sugar, Sugar Publishings' First and Foremost Literary Movement

Today, I will be discussing one of Sugar, Sugar Productions and Sugar, Sugar Publishings foremost literary movements which our mission has sought to center our creative endeavors around. One of my first forays into what I’d like to call, “New Adult Noir,” began with a spoken word poem which I delivered at the Manhattan Neighborhood Network in 2018. Perhaps it goes a little further back, as I’ve published poems and blog articles relating to the struggles of growing up with familial alcoholism, abuse, and the other challenges I’ve faced in my lived experience. There was something profound in which I was trying to tap into with that spoken word performance about embracing the unknown, difficulties in interpersonal relationships, and coming-of-age. But, knowing pop culture and its seeming hesitations toward dark thematic elements, it felt a little taboo to express the experiences and ideas I’d had come to understand as a part of my own lived experience. Let me also say, I am not a writer. I detest sitting in front of a blank canva: both wide-ruled and digital, and having to find the words to express what I feel is a truth worth sharing. I am and have always been a visual medium artist.

Most recently, with my love and passion for moving images, I’ve decided to explore the works of past literary legends, who seemingly have a penance for the dark and gloomy aspects of the human experience as well. As a prime example, I’ll focus on the works of Alfred Hitchcock.

Prior to reading some of the realist literary authors noted above, I was growing close to Hitchcock, whose work, to me, reflects the questionable privileges of the upper class and their relationship to crime. My first Hitchcockian exposure was to his mid-1950s hit television series, “Alfred Hitchcock Presents,” which are shorter vignettes to his larger bodies of work. As a young woman who loved shows of a similar vein (think: Twilight Zone) , his teams’ method of communicating observably dark subject matter in a palpable and odd, friendly manner resonated with me. I’ve gone on to watch films like, “To Catch a Thief,” “Psycho,” and “Rebecca” amongst others and truly believe in his moniker of “the Master of Suspense”. Other films that resonated with me, and covers these themes of class and crime, include, “Chinatown,” and “Network,” which are quite timeless.

My current literary work seeks to study class and crime, but from a perspective that feels truly rooted in the present-day. Drawing on inspiration from, “Heathers,” I seek to explore what I like to call, “New Adult Noir.” New Adult Noir leans into the obscure New Adult genre, focusing on the 18-34 year old demographic and their coming of age experience. Borrowing from Film Noir, New Adult Noir focuses on experiences that are pushed to the fringes of literature, for one reason or another, but is a real experience for many in that age group. 

“Chasing Chesca,” was another body of work I had begun to craft around the Summer of 2023. That tale focused on a pair of buddies who shared a romantic interest in a Mafia princess (the daughter of a Mafia boss/family). It was an out of the blue literary theme for me, but something that sparked interest. Franchesca Rantonelli’s character was based on a collection of real people who came before her. In conducting research for the work, I had learned of Sam Giancana’s daughter, Antoinette “Annette” Giacana, whose book, “Mafia Princess,” was adapted into a film starring Tony Curtis and Susan Lucci. The film and book pulled me into the world of a daughter whose troubled life had been devoid of love and a true meaningful connection with an otherwise here-but-there kind of father. Her life story was a stark contrast to that of Karen Gravano, daughter of Sammy the Bull, and of Mob Wives fame. Gravano had a seemingly glitzy lifestyle and was surrounded by well known Mob men like John Gotti who attended her Sweet Sixteen. Old news footage showed the young Karen showered with gifts and riding in luxury cars, all while espousing this mysterious alternative life that the common person would never quite grasp. On the other hand, Annette Giancana’s story focused more on the emotional turmoil that had gone on while her notorious Mob boss of a father tended to his double life. Feeling deeply connected to my own experience with growing up in a working class (non-crime affiliated) family, I had wondered what the coming-of-age experience must be like for young women growing up in crime families like the Giancana’s and Gravano’s. “Chasing Chesca” was the result of that inquiry, and while still in development (but out in the world) it still attempts to scratch at some of the unspoken social norms for young women involved with the Mafia and their attempts at living a normal life, having interests in boys, wanting to explore their femininity, and having a small fraction of the world at the palm of their hands.

New Adult Noir doesn’t shy away from what classical literature and postmodern literary contributions tackle. Yes, these are young people, who may or may not be in school. These are young people who crime culture is not, “anti-social behavior,” but a way of life and a way to make ends meet. A 2025 title, “The Longest Ride,” centers on Arden Roman, a young man who had served time in a juvenile detention center and is a part of a motorclub based in Alhambra, AZ. Roman spends his days in a “managerial role” within the motorclubs’ prostitution ring on the outskirts of town. His ex-girlfriend was a sex worker at the brothel he oversees, but has since moved back East to live with family. Roman’s reality is a life of crime, but also a source of income and emotional support. Keith, the motorclubs’ president, is like a father-figure to Roman, but hands Roman over the role of overseer in the drug operation that the motorclub also oversees. This narrative can be made comparable to the FX series, “Sons of Anarchy,” but focuses on the inner world of a young man who is searching for meaning while experiencing love in the context of his reality. It isn’t pretty. It’s nothing like what John Hughes has documented in his 80s filmography. 

New Adult Noir doesn’t seek to glorify crime culture or romanticizes it. It’s an observation of the lived experiences of its characters. Tatiana Kilimanjaro, a character in our upcoming, “Heist” publishing, is an example of a young woman whose mission it is to guide readers through an underworld criminal enterprise as she attempts to recoup stolen goods for wealthy families. Her function isn’t a life surrendered to crime culture, but whose paid work it is to solve crimes by clandestine means. These characters, and their families, are still trying to make ends meet, but they are relegated to these harsh normalities that stray away from the average day-to-day.

What I hope to achieve with my exploration of New Adult Noir is to connect readers with characters they’ll love, or hate, who live an alternative life and whose goal is similar to their own. Whether that be finding true love, like in “Chasing Chesca,” or finding meaning, like in, “The Longest Ride,” or in exploring their own identities like in a developing screenplay we’ve crafted titled,”Damaged Goods.” We embrace criticism of our literary movement as we understand the troubling nature of the material, but we also embrace vulnerability, Realism, and the questions of what class in contemporary society looks like for the aging youth.