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I was walking behind a woman for five minutes and she got catcalled three times.

I usually walk everywhere with my headphones on, but I had them in my bag and I was reading a book on my phone instead (I do that when the foot traffic is light).  A young Latina was coming down the street as I was coming up the avenue, and when she got to the corner a few paces ahead of me, she turned to walk in the direction I was going.  We were traveling at the same speed, but since she was like ten paces ahead and it’s bright outside in the middle of the day, I didn’t feel the need to fall back or slow down to give her more space. At night, I try not to walk too close behind women just so they don’t feel like I’m any sort of threat.

We got to a corner and this dude standing outside of the bodega was like, “Slow down mama where you goin? You don’t have to work today, you can stop and speak.”

She didn’t break her stride. “I’m going to the gym.”  The Walk sign was on, so I didn’t break mine either.  

A block later, a young guy was coming toward us on the sidewalk riding his bike.

“What’s good shorty?”

She didn’t respond.

“Well you was lookin, you can say something, stuck up bitch.”

We kept walking.

In the middle of the next block, an older man was walking toward us and he put on a friendly smile and said, “Smile young lady, it’s a beautiful day.”

I don’t know if she smiled, but we kept walking. She went into the gym and I kept on toward where I was going thinking about how that was just five minutes of her day.  How many other blocks of five minutes are just like that?  

Only one of them was truly aggressive. The other two guys seemed nice enough and it felt more like a pleasant compliment. It felt like the kind of thing a guy says who argues with women online about catcalling. “We’re not all bad guys. We can’t even compliment women? We can’t even say something nice?”

No.  You really can’t.  I was annoyed in that five minutes and I just happened to be walking behind her with no headphones on.  Can you imagine those five minutes over and over every day of your life?  Nobody wants to be spoken to by strangers day in and day out forever regardless of what they’re saying.  

So no.  You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers.  So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.

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"Come when you're killed"

About this phrase

I don't know if I translated it right but

When women come to the police because of the threats and stalking and beating we are told that nothing can be done just yet

That the police will do anything only when there's a murder and a dead body

Only after that

Only after that they can arrest the aggressor

It only got worse after the decriminalization of domestic violence

2019, Russia

Come when you're killed

So, there's a nightmarish situation in my country.

It's about an organization "Saw" that aims to track down LGBT activists and kill them no less.

Recently one of the activists was found murdered and mutilated. Her name is Elena Grigorieva and before her death she received many threats. Our police did nothing about it and now this woman is dead.

We don't know whether her death is a work of the organization or not though, but there's always a chance.

One of the Russian feminists is translating the information about what happened in English. She wants people in other countries to know about it.

If anybody can help with spreading this information please contact me. I'm going to post the translation when it's done but I have only few followers so I'm afraid nobody will see it.

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Come when you're killed

So, there's a nightmarish situation in my country.

It's about an organization "Saw" that aims to track down LGBT activists and kill them no less.

Recently one of the activists was found murdered and mutilated. Her name is Elena Grigorieva and before her death she received many threats. Our police did nothing about it and now this woman is dead.

We don't know whether her death is a work of the organization or not though, but there's always a chance.

One of the Russian feminists is translating the information about what happened in English. She wants people in other countries to know about it.

If anybody can help with spreading this information please contact me. I'm going to post the translation when it's done but I have only few followers so I'm afraid nobody will see it.

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At the troll court

An illustration for one of my favorite (and surprisingly kind) Sweden tales “Changelings”

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Men who refrain from misogynistic comments until a woman does something rude or immoral or mean are in fact regular old misogynists! Actually, a lot of the time those men’s passion arises primarily not from condemnation of her actions, but from EXCITEMENT at getting to express their misogyny in an “acceptable” format. Well guess what asshole, anyone with a brain can see through your bullshit, and I personally hate you.

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Perfume bottle consisting of eight enameled glass bottles as orange segments, set in painted ceramic holder. (ca. 1925)

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Today’s redditships tweet is a doozy. This guy isn’t just a shitty boyfriend, he sounds like he just has a total lack of empathy and people skills if he thinks this was a good idea.

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I don't get why radical feminists are always whinging about how 'painful' or 'traumatic' child birth is. Like yeah it's painful, but that's the only way new humans are born. Childbirth is the only way for the species/humanity/society to develop and move forward. And women have been doing it for thousands and thousands of years. Like sorry, but it's necessary. What do you suggest instead?

i…..haven’t seen any radfems complaining about this? childbirth is obviously necessary for the continuation of human life

i think maybe you’re seeing feminists explain that its unreasonable to deny a woman an abortion because she should just give birth and then give the baby up for adoption, because childbirth IS medically traumatic and will put that woman in tens of thousands of dollars of debt. it’s sexist to insist that women tear themselves apart giving birth to children they don’t want, the pain of childbirth itself isn’t the issue and there’s not much that can be done about that, obviously

i dont understand this ask at all tbh it seems like you’re misrepresenting an argument on purpose and im not even sure which one it is

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french evening wrap (via the met museum) and blouse and jacket combo (nationality unknown), c. 1900

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"Иногда наступают минуты, когда видишь, что жизнь прошла. Вроде и тридцати ещё нет - а жизнь кончена. Не кончена, но пропала зря... и ничего уже не будет."

Спасибо Pathologic 2 за Лару Равель, которая лично для меня из раздражающей в оригинале картонки превратилась в персонажку, которую любишь как родную♥️♥️♥️

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"women shave for themselves!" *only shaves legs when and where men will see*

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They were like “some ppl do use it as birth control Russian women have eight abortions a lifetime on average because Russian men commonly refuse condom use” as if those women should feel bad lol and I’m like thank god they had access to those eight abortions instead of being the mother to eight + unwanted children at the hands of misogynists who refuse to practice caring safe sex! Like if ever there was an anecdote about how abortion is a necessary good not an evil

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all those gifs on porn blogs of women slowly putting a popsicle or banana in their mouth because guys go ‘wow it’s like benis hehe’ makes me not want to suck on a popsicle in public. how many of these people are secretly jacking off when I lick a popsicle?

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