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Almost alll ND people grew up with abusers that smacked us down when we were confident.  The rest of the world is usually the opposite.

Hey everyone.   So I was just having a thought about how I have a huge fear of confidence.  Mostly because my controlling parents always smacked it down, as it made me easier to control.  

They were fortunatly the only super controlling people I ran into.  But if you’re ND you def ran into some controlling people at some point.  

Over time, this classical conditioning, will inevtiably teach you that being confident is bad and should be avoided.  That’s the point.  

However, interestingly enough, if we look at the rest of the world.  Quite the opposite is often true.  

Now, of course there’s a time and a place where being confident will draw attacks.  But, is it always?  

My experience has been that when I approach things confidently, they tend to go much better.  

So yeah.  Just something to think about.  

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I'd get anti-gravity boots in that case.

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If this isn’t me, I’m not sure who it is

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A friendly reminder that there was a study done that found that literally everyone gets more depressed when the days are shorter. 

So if you find yourself slipping up/getting worse/not able to do things you were before don’t freak out, it might just be the time of year. 

Also, a friendly reminder to take your vitamin d.  If you’re somewhere with shorter days you need to be getting it supplemented.  It’s added to milk most places, but if you don’t drink milk go get some d3 from the store.  D2 is good too, but most people seem to think d3 is better. 

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Someone on the Aspergers subreddit was talking about how they got diagnosed at eight, so they were old enough to remember it well. 

They talked about how before the diagnosis they’d often have meltdowns.  But, after the diagnosis, and subsequent treatment, they never did.  Instead, they were super anxious about everything.  They internalized and suppressed everything.  They talked about how they were trained to by the treatment.  How they were taught specifically to manage other people’s emotions, and the only way to do that was to repress who they were. 

I don’t really have anything to add.  But reading that made a lot click into place in terms of my understanding of myself, and realizing that yes, pretty much all my problems were in fact caused by how I was treated.  And of course doing things to manage other people’s feelings. 

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Rebloging again because it’s important.

Autism & Victimization

Somewhere I read that a symptom of autism/ ASD is a tendency to feel victimized. Feel. And I couldn’t get that out of my head because there is a difference between saying that and saying “a tendency to be” victimized. Saying “feel” carries the implication that the victimization is in one’s head. 

There’s probably a reason people with ASD feel victimized:

1. Autistic children are more likely to be bullied. 

2. Autistic children are more likely to be abused.

3. Autistic children are more likely to experience sexual abuse and the abuse is less likely to be recognized because symptoms of being abused are often misinterpreted as “normal” autistic behavior. 

4. Autistics are more likely to be sexually assaulted because they are often taught compliance from a young age in therapies like ABA.

[Edit with more links on this topic]: Info On Autism & Sexual Assault Personal Essay On Why Autistics Are Vulnerable ABA Teaches Compliance Not Consent

5. Autistics are more likely to be unemployed.

6. Employers discriminate against autism, autistics are more likely to be bullied by their coworkers, and many autistics lose their jobs because of it.

7. Schools find loopholes to discriminate against autistic children. 

8. Autistiscs have a higher risk of experiencing police brutality. 

9. Autistics are being murdered by their own caregivers, and the murderer is often given a lighter sentence because the victim was viewed as a burden.

10. Autistics suffer because they are not given effective medical care.

So, there’s the problem. Not that autistics have a tendency to “feel” victimized.

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The worst is probably when old people are like “well, I’m probably going to die soon.”  How do you even respond to that lol.  

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I feel personally attacked lol. 

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The stuff going on right now effects us too.  Now is the time to act in what ways we can.

Not just on the main issue either.  We’re in a major time of change right now.  Any change is more possible right now then at most other times in history. 

So, if you can, educate yourself, toss a little cash to worth organizations, call, email, or write your reps, and connect with like minded people. Talking with friends and family might be one of the most important things as they’ll actually listen to you. 

Keep in mind though that we’re all capable of different things and burning yourself out ain’t helping no one.  Least of all yourself lol.  So do what you can, but don’t expect everything from yourself.  

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Anxiety

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Anxiety

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There's a lot going on right now. This is something that deeply effects our community as well, and we should take the opportunity to ride the swelling tide.

Keeping in mind of course that what everyone can do is different, and doing so much you become non functional is not helping anyone.

Some simple things you might be able to do is call, email, or write to your rep. Doesn't have to be fancy, as long as it gets your point across.

Ten dollar donations can go a long way as well. Do a little due diligence, but there's lots of lists out there if you search the hashtags or google.

Informing yourself and calling out bs that friends and family bring up can go a long way as well.

Things will change if we make them.