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There's something really special about lil nas x being like "subtext? No. Old town road is literally about riding horses. If I was going to write a song about riding dick, like. Trust me. You'd know" and then he did

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Instead of using “gaslight” for the millionth time to refer to someone you’ve never even met, instead consider if “lie” or possibly “propaganda” would work better.

“Gaslight/gaslighting” is a term for a specific form of psychological abuse where a number of tactics are used to make the victim end up questioning their perceptions and sanity. Lying to the victim constantly about every day events is one of these tactics, but the point of gaslighting isn’t simply base deception. It’s part of a greater series of actions designed to wear down the victim’s belief that they can trust their memory and senses, thus giving greater power over that person to the abuser.

Someone who simply told a lie without that framework was not gaslighting. They were lying. Remember that word, lying? Before it suddenly became popular to slap “gaslighting” onto every damn thing that’s what people used.

A politician telling a lie isn’t gaslighting you. They’re lying. A campaign of political lies designed to convince a nation of people of something false is propaganda.

Someone saying something you disagree with isn’t gaslighting.

Please stop using language that victims of a certain form of abuse have to describe our experiences for every damn thing from “politician continued to say false things” to “Brenda said something I didn’t like”. It’s exhausting.

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Cat purrs loudly whenever she snuggles her kittens. (via kristipaintsorlando)

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come on sis...

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The Crown writers after the Meghan/Harry interview with Oprah

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It’s now safe and warm with some hazelnuts

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parks and rec but it's just memes (pt. 2)

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I care way too much and I just get hurt I’m so tired

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i don’t believe in the moral panic re: horror and i think most horror writers are generally normal people. but there’s definitely something wrong with stephen king

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imagine if you got ready to assault an enemy base and walked into this guy

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I actually hate being sappy like I’ll say “I missed you today” then immediately drag them to diffuse the situation

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You can only rb this today

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do you hate kendall jenner or is it your internalised misogyny making you hate a thin, beautiful model for no reason other than the fact she's a model?

i hate kendall jenner

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Fuck love except for whatever my favorite sitcom couples have going on

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Shut the door behind you, Mother. We’re discussing matters of state in here.