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A visit to Louisbourg for National Acadian Day!

Had the pleasure of hearing Mr. Duo with Marcel Lefort and Roger Boudreau. This Cape Breton based duo played traditional folk songs and Acadian hits. Roger Boudreau and Marcel Lefort are originally from Chéticamp, Cape Breton and began their musical journey with the group « The Phantoms » in Cheticamp.

Also! Turkeys! And a photo with the Dugas house, home of an Acadian family that relocated eight times during the Deportations.

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Genuine ask can anyone teach me/tutor me in Acadian French/Chiac/Brayon dm me

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has anyone made a mi’kmaw miku yet

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Cajun tag on tumblr is like

80% food/recipes

10% gambit

5% my own stupid ass posts

5% miku

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My take on the incest kink discourse: being insulated from the genetic and psychological horrors of actual incest that are epidemic in poor rural, indigenous, and creole communities makes it all fun and tantalizing. A sweet taboo and not a factor in terrible health outcomes, generational trauma, dogshit insurance, and recursive geographical isolation. Never met anyone with an incest kink who wasn’t at least upper middle and safely far away from NDNs and “white trash.”

The uptick in essentialism we’ve seen specifically wrt kink is a travesty. Everything is informed by society, culture, and personal experience. Nothing is innate because to be innate is to be in a vacuum, and we live in the real world. Does that mean that not all kinks are heckin valid? You decide, I just urge you to think critically and be reflective instead of defensive.

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Hot take of the week: Extreme moral relativism and turning your nose up at the notion of morality not based around like. Specific vengence is the product of privilege I have never heard the shit you people spew from anyone who grew up within 10 miles of the poverty line. When your parents’ money insulates you from ever having to face the consequences of your actions you come to believe that consequences at all are a myth which creates this extremely bizarre morality that’s extremely flippant and performative about everything except for like. Enjoying Woody Allen movies or Mishima novels and insisting on your own moral purity for having allegedly never been bigoted or ideologically impure or otherwise in need of an internal change ever.

Real people are messy, real people fuck up and have to deal with it and live and learn from their mistakes. In the collegiate bubble where everything’s already bought and paid for and you never want for shit nothing matters

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This is extremely niche for anyone who’s not in the naesh but listening to Blink 155/155 Pod every week from when I was 13 to 18 permanently destroyed my brain. My internal monologue is Josiah Hughes determining whether everything I encounter is tight, sick, disgusting, groty, cool, etc and talking about MGK and singing Birthday Pony

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Let’s play every Acadian and Creole‘s favorite game: who’s your mama and what’s your last name, the game in which we determine if we are related or not

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Ed Chigliak is like a tumblr mutual to me…

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Post a while back about masculinity attracted the wrong people. A lot of you mfs just hate women. Idk what to tell you but I am a “radfem” I think Dworkin, hooks, MacKinnon, Stoltenberg, Willis were cooking a good 85% of the time.

I broadly disagree with and indeed despise Firestone, Atkinson, Greer, Bindel, and even a lot of my beloved Adrienne Rich’s essays but if you just outright refuse to engage with any radical feminist theory in earnest and instead just write off anything and everything critical of patriarchy and its manifestations in everyday life as “misandrist”, “sex negative”, etc that’s a you problem and you should probably do some reflecting on it.

I stand by that post and the ultimate message of it which is that men do deserve the benefit of the doubt and we need to work on educating them compassionately but also. A lot of you just like an excuse to be blatantly antifeminist and have a get out of jail free card for critical thinking but just dolled up with woke-ish language.

Reflections on Masculinity

Recently I learned of a younger friend of mine dating the brother of my closest friend. It's been a habit since my teenage years to pull the new partner (almost always boyfriend) of my friends (almost always women) aside and give them the old "one wrong move and you're dead. Hurt her and I hurt you worse." It's a pattern of overprotective behavior I developed because in middle and high school I was always the only AMAB and the only outwardly "masculine" person in my friend group which was almost exclusively dreadfully misandrist AFABs. It's a behavior that was positively reinforced in me and that helped grant me acceptance in that group of the only other openly queer people in my class. Growing up in rural Maine, that small bit of safety in numbers meant a lot.

It's a behavior that I'm now ashamed of. Extremely ashamed of. I was granted acceptance as an AMAB queer person only through being performatively crueler and nastier and more genuinely awful to every man who crossed my path than anyone else. It was rude and hurtful to the men (not all of whom were bad people) and infantilizing towards my friends and disrespectful of their autonomy. The positive reinforcement helped but it was rooted in a fear of my own body and the sort of gender roles we ought to be railing against.

Why should I seek to make one person feel safer by making another feel unsafe? Why should the safety of a person require the undermining of their own autonomy? Is that not just the same patriarchal cop mentality we rail against? I still feel very protective of my friends but there is a substantial difference between walking with someone at night or walking them home or to their car and threatening another human being.

I myself often feel unsafe and unwelcome in "queer" and predominantly AFAB spaces as I myself am AMAB and tend to present fairly masc. I am misgendered constantly, given dirty looks, called a "man" derogatorily-- on occasion even by my own partner. On this very page I get asks trying to tell me off or tell me I'm secretly a trans woman for calling myself a lesbian with regards to the art and experiences I relate to most and the communities I find myself in irl.

I talk a big game in my personal life about empathy and understanding towards men and AMABs and helping them break free of toxic masculinity. I talk a big game about mentorship for younger queer people and how a lot of us have forsaken the people who need our guidance most. I've failed to live it for the cis men and AMAB enbies in my life. It's time to confront our own bioessentialism; our own cop mentalities; our own failures.

I start today by pulling the boy aside not to threaten him but to explain to him that I care a lot about the person he's now dating, give him my number, and tell him that if he's ever worried or in doubt or needs relationship advice he can call or text me any time. All we can do is be better and try to do right by each other.

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Some churches around Harpswell and Phippsburg, Maine

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Acadian as in fuck empire

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My three girlfriends.

And yes, they smoke weed.

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Need to collect a stick n poke from each of my artist friends… Need to be made canvas to display the brilliance of those I love…

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The great gay love of your life is waiting for you…. in beautiful RURAL MAINE™️

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what can i do to convince you all to watch northern exposure this is getting embarrassing