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“He’s the kind of boy who hoards the stars in his mouth to give you a taste of heaven,even if it scorches his tongue.”

— The Divine Creator Series @floralbruisesx

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Hay tiempo para todo, menos para perderlo.

Benjamín Griss

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“;Someone said something to me today that bothered me. In fact, I’ve heard it so many times throughout my life I cannot even count: “Long distance relationships never work.” That is a massive pile of bull sh*t. Let me clarify, I am not stating long distance relationships can’t end. I am not saying distance has not ended relationships before. I am just tired of people saying that they can’t ever work. That they are destined to fail from the start. Every relationship has obstacles. And long distance is an obstacle. A difficult one no doubt, but one that can be overcome with communication and devotion. If you care about someone, you never want to let them go(at least for me) and that is the same during long distance. Yeah, of course, you miss them and distance is challenging. It’s work. It isn’t easy. But your care and love for the other person can override that. My parents dated for 6 years long distance and talked over the phone, visited each other, the whole nine yards before getting married. On top of that, this was before we lived in a technological age where you can LITERALLY speak directly to someone’s face through a screen if you want. In my opinion, there are three reasons why long distance relationships fail. 1. Infidelity/Need for Physical Intimacy- A major reason long distance relationships fail is due to someone’s need for a physical/sexual connection. This is very common. Many times when long distance relationships start, people do not understand the actual strain of not having a sex life or the aspect of not being able to physically be with the other person. This leads to people meeting someone new who fills that physical void and sexual need. My love language is physical touch so this is one thing I VERY much understand. Buuuuuuuuut that does not mean I can’t pull off a long distance relationship. The answer to this problem is knowing when you can physically be in their presence next. Plan a week/weekend where you go and stay with them. This can restart your fire and help re-affirm why you are doing this. It also gives you something for both of you to look forward to. Now, many people enjoy sex. It is normal and healthy to have a frequent sex life, but it is hard to have a sex when you are miles apart. If you have some sexual urges, talk to your partner about it. Be open and don’t be afraid to say something to your partner. Let them know it is something you are missing and hopefully, your partner will work with you to try to solve this problem. Technology is your friend: phone sex, snapchat, facetime, etc. There are so many ways you can keep a sex life fresh and strong even with distance between you. 2. Fear/Anxiety- This is usually the reason some long distance relationships end within the first month. In this situation, one person in the relationship is afraid it won’t work out down the road or that they won’t be strong enough to last until they can be together again. It is a rash decision solely based in fear and insecurity. This is not really a problem that can be fixed. It is something that the person needs to sort out themselves. There may be nothing wrong with the relationship at all. Everything could be going great! But the fear that the couple won’t be able to make it work even though the skies are clear, is just anxiety and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Some people cannot get rid of the devil on their back whispering in their ear that it will never work. (And people saying, “Long distance never works.” does not help these people FYI.) Key to avoiding this is making sure to communicate with your partner. Let them know how much you care about them. You can schedule time to talk every day so you stay connected. You can text throughout the day. You can facetime and plan movie dates together, Do things you would do if you were actually in the same place. Remind yourself and your partner that this is not permanent, you will be together eventually. 3. Uncertainty/Denial- Finally, uncertainty and denial. This one is short and simple. You were not meant to be. You simply are not right for each other. Denying that you both are not happy will just make you resent each other in the end and ruin any chance you may have at a friendship. I know realizing you are not meant to be with each other is hard to accept, but sometimes that is how life works and there will be someone out there more suited for you. (And they may be just a few minutes away.) Now, I may seem like someone who is happily in a long distance relationship who has never experienced heartbreak ever; That I have been in a beautiful, perfect relationship since high school and I “am just cut out for long distance.” But I have been in long distance relationships that have succeeded and long distance relationships that have failed. And my reason for sharing this is not to tell you to jump into a long distance relationship. Distance adds obstacles to a relationship that many never anticipate dealing with. It is a big hurdle, but you just have to be prepared to jump over it when you need to. I am tired of being told it cannot be done. Love can travel any distance and I firmly believe that.””

— therookiewordsmith

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I guess heartbreak really does hurt this bad, huh? I’ve never ached this much before :(

She had her heart broken for the first time by the only person she could associate with falling in love at the time. She cried for so long that day, thinking she would never feel okay again. She was distraught beyond imagine as many people have been before her over people they thought the world of too. Her hands were shaking and there were so many more emotions than a girl should have to handle on a Tuesday afternoon. But no one really understands that, her pain. Not really. Something important was gone now, many somethings were gone now. No more late night talks. No more impromptu hugs from behind. No more flirtatious smiles. No more “I’m going to marry you someday”s. No more being in love. No more love of her life.

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“What’s the matter? Afraid of a little thunder?”

“I’m not overly fond of what follows”.

-Avengers.

Thunderstorm over the Kimberley, Western Australia. Video by Geoff Green. More interesting posts here: @sixpenceee

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I don’t understand this, but it sounds beautiful.

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The idea that you’re never alone even in death makes me happy.

But god dammit if my friends show up for a freaking psych eval while I’m dead, I’ll haunt their stupid asses.

a comic about someone who gets a visit from the reaper a bit sooner than expected, but has someone whos been waiting for them 

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Dealing with a Break Up

1. Cry as much as you want to and need to. Don’t try to repress or to bury the feelings.

2. Listen to breakup music as research shows it is therapeutic and helps you to recover. Also, it lowers your heart rate, reduces pain and helps to relieve any feelings of stress.

3. Allow yourself to feel completely numb for a while. It’s going to happen – so go with the flow. Also, don’t be afraid to be real with your friends and tell them “I feel empty and dead inside”. Know in time that will change; it’s a temporary thing.

4. Talk about it with your friends – they will help to bolster you. You need all the people and support you can muster. Also, it’s likely that the break up will dominate your thinking so keep on talking till you start to feel you’re freer.

5. Set a limit for your grief. That doesn’t mean you have to feel better by then – but eventually you’ll want to think about your future life again. You have your whole life to live so don’t get stuck in the pain.

6. Review the relationship and why it ended. Were the reasons cited by your partner really fair? Was he or she just blaming you, or running away? Were you truly happy? Was it really a good match?

7. If you think it’s worth it, then try and reconcile. But only do that once as it usually doesn’t work … and you’re simply dragging out the disappointment and the pain.

8. Stop sitting and waiting for the phone to ring. Try and fill your life with other people and new things.

9. Don’t stalk your ex on tumblr or facebook. Block them if you need to … but get them out your mind.

10. Reminisce about the bad times – and be glad that they are gone. It’s time to build a future that’s much better than that.

11. Go outside and get some exercise. Research clearly indicates that exercise can change how you feel, and help you put life in perspective. It’s worth the extra effort as you’ll reap the benefits.

12. Be nice to yourself – you need to give yourself a break. Just because some other person has dropped you from their life, it doesn’t mean you’re worthless or you’ll never find true love. Appreciate your strengths, and really love who you are, and think about the fun times you have had with others friends. You deserve to be happy and loved for who you are.

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8 hr smoked Brisket Burnt Ends

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here’s the thing. i‘m not here to talk about love to you. i‘m not here to tell you about some fairy tale ending where the girl in the novels gets the guy she’s been dreaming of since… 2009? i’m not going to tell you about sacrifice or compromise or any of the ices, if that’s even a thing. i’m here to talk to you about heart ache, heart break. because i can’t tell you about a love that leaves you aching for ages or elated for eternity. but i can tell you the sound of a heart hitting the floor of a soul, the feeling of a million pieces of red flying towards your lungs making it hard to breathe. i can tell you tales of a loveless girl. okay, well, not loveless but at least a hopeless romantic who hasn’t been on the receiving end of that epic kind of love. i can tell you that when they say its better to have loved and lost than not have loved at all, they are pretty damn on point. but i can’t talk to you about love. because love is supposed to be some kind of happy. and if i can’t talk to you about happy, i’ll at least try to explain to you why. (but that’s a whole other piece). -diva.s

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i can do happy. i can do sunshines just as well as rainy days. but i can do storms and hurricanes better than anything. i'm the queen of storms and hurricanes. and now, i'm going to do sunshine. because that's all that's left for me to do. sunshines and happy. -diva.s

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yes, hearts can actually break. yes, your heart is a muscle. but don't mend it with medicines that the doctors give you for broken bones. mend it with the hope that tomorrow the heart strings will find someone worth your while to attach themselves to. mend it with the help of the people, inanimate objects and of course, food that will always be there. mend it with the words that broke it. -diva.s

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❤️❤️❤️

let’s waste time chasing cars around our heads

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Hahahah😂😂

The gender neutral term for “sugar daddy” is glucose guardian

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some nights, i still dream of the fortresses we made for ourselves, the same ones that i consciously try not to think of for the fear that I'll run back into the arms that never wanted me in the first place. yes, i still dream of us, the us that never was. i probably always will. because somehow, you were my cliché, my movie scene, the favourite line from my favourite novel, the favourite line from my favourite song. but don't mistake this for a plea for your return because the truth is, you were and probably always will be, toxic for me. and though it's taken years to believe again that love exists, i won't let you take that away. -diva.s

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i wish i had the courage, you know? to be me without wishing to be her. i wish i could look in her direction and not fall to pieces. i wish that the superiority complexes that they associate me with were remotely true. i wish you had broken the 13 year old’s heart instead of her self esteem. why? because hearts are reparable, super glue and strings will pull the pieces of red back together. but confidence, it isn’t. -diva.s