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Call now to recieve help with the inability to make phone calls!

Fill out this forum to receive assistance with your difficulty filling out forms

Come on down to our center thats two hours away so we can give assistance with your inability to walk or drive

There's help out there! You're just not trying hard enough!

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Quick poll for fellow disabled, chronically ill, or very sick in some way

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disabled people aren't "strong" for not using mobility aids when they need them. lots of people are/would be a lot stronger with the help of mobility aids, that is the reason they exist. using mobility aids doesn't make you weak, it's quite literally the opposite

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just a reminder that if an accessibility aid would help your quality of life, then you can use it.

this goes for everything from wheelchairs and noise cancelling headphones to fidget spinners and acupuncture rings. You don’t need a diagnosis to start accommodating yourself. Especially on the mobility side. Trust me when I say that the only people who want those are people who need them. you aren’t taking resources from others you are using them as intended. you don’t need anyone’s permission to make your own life easier.

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it’s also fucked up that fat people literally fear going to the doctor for anything because they know the first thing out of their dr’s mouth no matter what their ailment is, is gonna be “lose weight lol” broken leg? lose weight. rash? lose weight. whooping cough? lose weight binch!!!!! like we get it. but can you just write my prescription you bitch so i can go eat a salad and not call you again until im about to die of the plague????

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My chronically ill ass getting way too excited about notifications from this mf

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Doctor, suggesting a replacement because it looks like insurance won’t cover seeing them “I referred many patients to XYZ and never heard from them again.”

Me, stunned “I don’t think that’s the endorsement you think it is. You know how many awful fairy tales have the line ‘and they were never heard from again’ in them, right?”

Doctor, trying not to lose Professional Voice and failing “Ha hahaha *cough* I didn’t mean it like that. You have such a great sense of humor! Ha ha ha ha.”

Me, patiently “Did you ever see or hear from any of these people after referring them? As opposed to other places? A “Thank You” or a request for files or need for a consult or asking you to fill in while the new one is on vacation or anything at all?”

Doctor “No. Wait, let me think. No.”

Me “Is that normal?”

Doctor “No.”

Me “Can you see my concern?”

Doctor, sounding quiet “Yes, I’m sure they’re fine, but now that you asked, I’ll check my records for other care providers.”

Me “Fairy tales are cautionary tales. I’m concerned for the patients you referred to this other Doctor. Their chances seem grim.”

Doctor, not laughing “I understand.”

Me “If you can’t find anyone you’ve referred, you might want to check nearby ditches.”

Doctor makes choking noise “I want to laugh at that, but you’ve got me worried.”

Me “Yeah, well.”

(Silence)

Doctor “I’m going to check on a few people I referred to them.”

Me “Yep.”

— two weeks later —

Doctor “I won’t be referring anyone to that provider again.”

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Use the mobility aid. Pay no heed to that terrible voice in your head dear. Your lovely self does not deserve this, does not deserve be to be told they do not have the right to make their life easier. Just because you do not always need a mobility aid, or because your disability is not as severe as others does not mean you should not use it. If a mobility aid assists you then you are who it was made for. All I want you to worry about dear is how you can help yourself. I am so proud of you, those who fake claim you or dismiss your disabilities are ableists. They will claim to be disability advocates however it is entirely clear all they do to our communities is harm. They do not speak for the disabled community. We stand behind you, you do not deserve such mistreatment.

What you do deserve is to take care of yourself. You deserve the the independence a mobility aid gives, the stability and the confidence. You do not deserve to rot away, you do not desrve to ache in pain, nor do you deserve to stumble and fall.

You have a right to mobility aids and disability support. I love you so much, I know I do not know many of you but I can assure now that you’ve got a friend on your side who has a lot of experience in cursing ableists.

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I would dearly love for more people to be capable of differentiating between public risk and personal risk.

Examples: drinking is a personal risk. Drinking and driving is a public risk. Going scuba diving is a personal risk. Running a scuba shop with faulty equipment is a public risk. Riding a bicycle without a helmet is a personal risk. Not maintaining public transport safety standards is a public risk. Foraging for mushrooms is a personal risk. Advertising a mushroom identification app that uses shoddy AI is a public risk. Elective surgery is a personal risk. Not wearing a mask in a doctor's waiting room when you are sick with a contagious illness is a public risk.

I could go on just about forever here. But it's a really important distinction and it drives me nuts when they get conflated, and it's so common.

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*doctor voice* hmmmm…..have you tried this revolutionary method called painmaxxxing? it is where you do not bother me and adjust to being in agony all the time and we do nothing to resolve the root cause or treat the symptoms. you don’t wish to try painmaxxxing? you’re being non-compliant with the treatment plan I have just provided you?

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Ok so my kid had an ear infection, right? As kids often do.

The doctor scraped out a bit of earwax to have a better look inside.

I was sent a bill for $200 PER EAR for this 5 second procedure which I did not give permission for them to do.

That was key- they did not ASK me if they could do this "procedure". And, as I OWN a medical practice (it's me. The medical practice is me, sitting in my house on video calls) I knew to call them when this bill came in to be like "You did not obtain informed consent for this procedure, and it was not en emergency procedure. You had full ability to gain my consent and didn't. I'm not paying."

And the massive hospital who owned the bill said "yuh-huh you do have to pay."

And I said "I own a practice. I know these laws. I do not owe you money for this."

And they conducted an "internal review" and SURPRISE! Decided I totally owed them money and they had never done anything wrong ever.

And so I called my state's Attorney General office, and explained the situation because, as I mentioned, I know the law. The AG got in touch within a couple days to say they were taking the case and would send the massive hospital conglomerate a knock it off, guys letter.

Lo and Behold, today I have a letter where said hospital graciously has agreed to forfeit the payment.

"How not to get screwed over by companies" should be part of civics class.

Know your rights and know who to call when they're infringed on. This whole process cost me $0 and honestly less effort than I would have expected.

May this knowledge find its way to someone else who can use it.

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