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haven't seen the wicked movie yet but will concede it's an extremely astute way for ariana grande to come out as white blonde

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A quite insightful quote from Stormy Daniels.

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Well done 👍.

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one thing I really like about my relationship with my boyfriend is that we can express negative feelings about each other's actions without assigning blame or requiring apology. I mean like for morally neutral things like "it drives me crazy when you leave a wet towel on the floor instead of hanging it up"

cause now like instead of "oh I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to drive you crazy, I'm terrible and unsocialized" or "um well that's dumb, who cares" it's like

"it does? I didn't know that. how come?"

"because it will mildew and I keep tripping over it and I don't know whether you intend to reuse that towel or whether it needs to go in the wash"

"okay so usually if I intend to reuse it I hang it up, and if it needs to go in the wash I drop it on the floor. I guess because I thought I shouldn't put it in the hamper because it would get all the other dirty clothes wet and then THEY might mildew before we do the laundry."

"that's valid. what if we have a specific place to hang wet towels that need to be washed? how about this one hook here"

"perfect!"

no hurt feelings, nobody being made to feel shitty and sloppy on one hand or uptight and bitchy in the other hand. just, we're partners right? let's workshop this

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This Black History Month, reflect for a moment on the fact that George Washington Carver, famously "the inventor of peanut butter and more than 100 industrial uses for peanuts" wasn't, like, Doc Brown fucking around in his garage because he really liked peanuts but was specifically trying to introduce larger use of a nitrogen fixing legume into crop rotations against cotton monoculture which was destroying yields, livelihoods and the biosphere, and how most agribusiness farming now just destroys that topsoil on purpose and continues to grow a cotton monoculture (or soy or corn or whichever local monoculture is profitable) using petrochemical derived fertilizer, which is one element driving climate change

Daniel Hale Williams performed the first successful heart surgery. He also founded the first nonsegregated hospital in America because he was keenly aware of disparate health outcomes by race which is still a problem today.

WEB Dubois was a part of the delegations for the birth of the UN. His proposal to include in the charter that "the colonial system of government … is undemocratic, socially dangerous and a main cause of wars" was not adapted for the final draft. We might see inaction against colonial violence to this day as part of the failure of others to heed his warnings there.

I feel like so often when we look at Black History Month so much of it is driven by factoids but when taken as history in context its about a direct line from decades and centuries to what is happening right now.

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My pea and carrot and radish and beet seeds are in the ground. My broccoli and cabbage seeds are under grow lights. My asparagus bed still needs a lot of weeding, but I've made a good start.

The world is immense and terrible, but we must cultivate our garden.

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obsessed with the girl who says that if you lie on the floor long enough you will start to cry and shake because your body is 'releasing excess cortisol' like i just think you might be going through something girl

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it's so wild to me that you absolutely cannot force a hyperfixation to happen. like you'll watch the most perfectly tailor-made-for-you content that everyone says you'll love and feel absolutely nothing, and then the thing you watch on a whim to fill time will reach through the screen and put its damn fingers in your brain and start rearranging the neurons right in front of you and every single time you're like THIS??? THIS??????? and this happens like every 6-12 months forever

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Also, hats and parasols

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fun thing about herding and/or generally neurotic breeds: they are really good at following rules you have instituted, but they will also make their own Dog Rules they will follow stringently whether or not you like it

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Congratulations to everyone who decided to do the annual January Challenge this year: successfully getting through every single day of January.

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Healthiest thing I ever learned how to do

do you ever start writing a comment on the internet and then think “oh what the fuck am i going on about” and delete it

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okay I have decided I am embracing trad aunt culture. society has really lost its way on this one. childless ladies of a certain age are not meant to suffer the slings and arrows of earning our own living. we are meant to manage the household, pay the butcher's bills and the servants' wages, bother the cook about economizing on the grocery bill, amuse the children when our sister and brother-in-law are invited to dinner on the nanny's half-day out, read improving books aloud in the evenings when the family is at home, knit lace, and solve crimes. and possibly, subject to availability of fruit and sugar, teach the little nieces to make jelly. I cannot personally do the jelly part yet because I only have a nephew and if little boys enter the kitchen they experience an explosive decompression of masculinity and become chronic invalids, and I am also running into a problem regarding ready availability of affordable servants, but still I have high hopes for this return to traditional family values. who's with me

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little kids are so fucking funny man. had a kid that couldn’t be any older than like 8 or so come up to me today asking where our dinosaur books where, and when i tried to gently redirect them downstairs (where our kids section is) they very matter-of-fairly informed me that they’d already read every book down there and are ready to learn about the “secret, grown-up only dinosaurs” now

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i told one of the preschoolers i was going to take a nap when i got home and she asked me three times if i was joking and then afterwards just flat out refused to believe me

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rabbi akiva's story is so strangely inspiring to me honestly. went from illiterate to having spent over two decades studying torah and becoming an extremely influential and well-known scholar and sage, especially after being relatively late to the rabbinical studies comparatively speaking, considering he was 40.

moral of the story is it ain't over 'till you're dead i guess.