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hiddenpyscho-blog · 8 years ago

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Osomatsu-san Birthday Gift Exchange 2017

((Hey everyone!! For those who weren’t here last year, I held a gift exchange for the ask blogs in this fandom on May 24th(their official birthday). I wanna do it again this year, but I’m changing up the rules a bit!

Last year I organized what was along the lines of a white elephant gift exchange. I essentially was trying to replicate the kind of gift exchange done in the Christmas episode.

That made things more complicated than I thought they would be, so this year I’m gonna make the gift exchange a Secret Santa. Osomatsu-san ask blogs have until May 11th to reblog this post if they want to participate. (Likes don’t count!)

This year, I also want non-matsu/non-girlymatsu ask blogs to be able to participate, even if it’s not technically their birthday. I tried to find a reason to make sense of why the Matsus would give someone else a gift on their own birthday, and unfortunately, I couldn’t think of one. So what this means is that non-matsus will be able to participate; however, they will only be giving gifts and not receiving. Because of this, some Matsu ask blogs might get lucky and end up getting a gift from a Matsu blog as well as a side character blog. RP blogs may also join in on the gift exchange, but their gift should still be a drawing or picture they made of some sort.

After May 11th, I will randomly generate a blog for each blog to give a gift to. I will tell you which blog you will get through the IM chat. Once you know which blog you will be gifting to, you will have until May 24th to draw their character a gift. On May 24th, you will submit the gift to their in-box.

Keep in mind that this gift exchange should be in-character. You’re not drawing anything too fancy for the mun. Your gift is for the character and does not necessarily have to be a piece of art.

So, for example, if I’m told that my character will be a Secret Santa for a @jyushimatsurepliez, my character, as Ichimatsu, might give him a baseball bat. In doing so, I would draw a picture of the baseball bat I want Ichi to give him, and then I would put it in his submit box on the 24th.

Here are the rules one more time:

You must be an Osomatsu-san ask/rp blog to participate

Non-matsu/non-girlymatsu blogs may also participate, but they will only be giving and not receiving

You must reblog this post in order to participate. Likes don’t count.

You have until May 11th to reblog this post.

The gift you give should be some kind of visual you made. (Don’t just type “*gives you a baseball bat*” or send the blog a picture of a baseball bat you found online. Draw a picture of a baseball bat)

The gift should be to the character, from your character. This is not a mun gift exchange.

Make sure that your submit box is open!! If your submit box is not open by May 11th, then I cannot guarantee that you will be included in the gift exchange!!

I trust that blogs will be sensitive to other blogs in their subject material. Make sure that your gift is something that the other blog will be comfortable receiving. This one is sort of a given.

Lastly, PLEASE make sure in advance that you will be able to send your gift on the 24th. If you aren’t able to, then someone won’t get a gift and that’s pretty sad. Don’t be the Secret Santa who never shows up.

If you have any questions about the gift exchange, please message me about it. And overall, I hope that this will be fun!))

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hiddenpyscho-blog · 8 years ago

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How to tell the police you were raped, and what to expect. MATERPOST.

Okay. So with my post asking if y’all wanted this, a few of you said it’d help you, so even 1-2 people needing it is worth it to me.

This is going to be very long, and when you do it, it’ll be scary. But in the end you WILL heal.

So to start off. Ask yourself this:

1. Do you want the person to get jail time?

If your answer is yes, then that makes things easier. You can proceed onto the next question.

If your answer is no, then I need to make you aware of something. I will not lie to you alright? They will push for jail time whether you want it or not. unless you’re over 18 (see next question) they will be pushing for jail time and you have no real say in the matter. I know it’s scary, and I know it can be upsetting. But they did a crime and the law needs to punish them for it. Think about it in this sense, Do you want them to hurt somebody else? Jail is likely the place for them, as they did do a crime.

2. How old are you?

Are you over 18? great! that makes things much easier. You will have complete control. You decide if you want to press charges or if you rather just leave it.

Are you under 18? alright, that’s okay! It will make things a bit more hectic, but in the end, you’ll be okay. Since you’re under 18, you will not get a choice in whether charges are pressed. As I said above, they WILL press for jail time.

3. How long ago did the assault happen?

did it happen a year ago? five years ago? ten years? or yesterday? is it ongoing?

if it happened years ago, then you do not have to worry about this and can move onto the next question.

If the rape has happened within 3-5 days of you reading this/when you plan to report it. There is a high likelyhood that you will need to have a Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kit (SAECK, also known as a ‘rape kit’) done to you. There is a lot of stigma and misinformation about what a ‘rape kit’ actually involves. It can be extremely scary, and extremely violating,but in the end, it will help. In some cases, even as a minor, you can refuse to have one done if you wish. It can wield a lot of evidence for a trial, but at times it does not. Do not worry. If there is no evidence via a rape kit,they can still be convicted. To give you an idea of what happens when you get a rape kit, heres a small portion of an article you can find here

“"There’s a lot of myths about there, myths about prostitutes coming in to get free medical care, but this is a very invasive 2-4 hour plus exam,“ says Kim Hurst, director of the Sexual Assault Forensic Examiner program in Detroit. “We’re doing pubic hair pulls or combs, we’re doing swabs of the outside of the genitalia… and then we’re doing a speculum exam [which is internal] and taking swabs that way, and if there was an anal assault we’re doing swabs there. And then we use a colposcope [a specialized medical camera] to take pictures of genital injury.“The exam is usually performed in a hospital before the kit of evidence is turned over to the police for their investigation. The DNA from the kit and potential rapist is entered into CODIS, a national FBI database that helps law enforcement track serial offenders across the country.”

There is also some questions some people want to know the answer too before getting one, you can find a long list of questions answered on an official forensics website here but if you don’t want to read them all, I will put the ones I feel are the most important below:

“ Three days after a sexual assault has occurred, what is the likelihood of finding the DNA of the perpetrator?

The likelihood of finding the DNA of a sexual assault perpetrator three days after an assault varies and can depend on a number of circumstances. In Massachusetts, survivors can have evidence collected at a hospital within 5 days (120 hours) of an assault. A medical provider at the hospital will use a sexual assault evidence collection kit (SAECK), often called a “rape kit,” to conduct an exam and collect any evidence. After the exam is completed, the kit will be sent to the Crime Lab. The presence of biological evidence, such as blood, semen or saliva, depends on a number of factors, including whether or not the survivor showered or changed her/his clothing before the exam, the type of assault, and the amount of time since the assault occurred. It is important to know that not all kits yield DNA evidence and that the absence of DNA does not mean that no crime occurred. DNA evidence may not be found if:The perpetrator did not leave any DNA behind.Too much time passed before the evidence was collected.The evidence was improperly stored or handled.”

“How can evidence be collected from someone whose breasts and vagina were touched while the person was unconscious if there was no penile penetration?

It is still possible for evidence, including the survivor’s account of the assault, to be collected using a sexual assault evidence collection kit (SAECK) even if there was no penile penetration during the assault. The doctor or nurse will determine which steps of the SAECK to complete (such as vaginal swabs) based on the survivor’s story. When determining what steps to complete, the nurse or doctor will also take into account that the survivor was unconscious during the assault and may not recall the entire assault.”

“Can a sexual assault case be prosecuted even if DNA evidence is not found?

While only the District Attorney’s office can definitively say whether or not the perpetrator will be prosecuted, once an assault is reported to the police, DNA is just one piece of evidence in a larger investigation. When determining whether or not to prosecute a case, the District Attorney’s office will also consider the survivor’s account of the assault along with any other evidence that may corroborate this account (for example, physical materials that link the two parties at the crime scene, such as carpet fibers or grass stains, or a Toxicology Kit, if one was completed). It is important to note that not all kits yield DNA evidence, and the absence of DNA does not mean that no crime occurred.”

As you can see, a rape kit does involve internals swabbing and other things. Finally, ask

4 “Am I ready to do this?”

if the answer is yes, then heres what I recommend and the gist of what may happen. This is all assuming you are under the age of 18, and as I am from Canada, I can’t garentee this is what’ll happen to you, but it gives you a good idea.

First off, Tell somebody you trust that is an adult and an authority figure. I recommend teachers or counselors. As sometimes parents can be cruel and refuse to listen. I recommend teachers the most as they are legally required to report it to the police.

You can expect that police will come and will talk to you. Do not lie to them. Lying will only make things harder in the long run.

You WILL need to tell them details you may not be exactly comfortable with. It is hard. There is no “and then they…yaknow”. you need to SPECIFICALLY say exactly what happened. Heres a conversation I remember when I had to give my official report, to give you an idea. I’m okay with sharing this now, but at the time, it felt much too personal to say. M is me and C is the ‘crown’, short for the crown attorney.

C: “So after he bent you over the bed what did he do?” M: “well he.. um.. yaknow…” C: “No, I don’t know. Please explain” M: “Well he uh.. “ I proceed to go quiet and fidget as C waits patiently “He pushed the dildo into me” C: “into where??” M: “Into my butt. And it hurt a lot… I told him to stop and pulled away” C: “Then what?”

so on and so fourth. As you can see, I had to explain in great detail what he did, how he did it, where he did it etc. I used the good old ‘Who What Where Why When’ to tell them what happened, it helped me, so perhaps it’ll help you.

After you talk to them, if the person lives with you: you will likely be put in a safe house. This is sometimes a friends house, a hotel with a police officer, etc. You may need to stay there for 1-4 days, so bring essentials with you the day you plan to tell. Including your phone, computer, any comfort items etc.

if they do not live with you, you may be able to return home. If you are under 18, your parents will be notified. This is unavoidable. It is upsetting, but needs to be done. If you feel your parents will be angry or if they are physically/emotionally abusive to you. This is the time to tell the police. They will likely take extra steps to ensure you’re safety during this time.

Now is where things more or less depend on circumstances. for example, they may make you go to a forensics lab and get a drug test if you suspect you were drugged, they will likely put a restraining order against the person so they can not go near you until everythings said and done. They may take months or years to get through everything. Court will eventually and you may need to testify against them, It can be scary, but your testimony will help significantly.

Here are some things to remember when testifying:

Refer to the judge very respectfully. sir, ma’am, ‘your honor’ etc

Try not to swear.

Everything you say WILL be recorded. Keep that in mind

Cellphones are not allowed in court. I was lucky and put my notes on my phone so they allowed it, but they may not all do that.

If you’re like me and tend to forget when scared. Write down what you want to say. It will make you look organized and keep you together.

Do not be afraid to cry during it. Just make sure you do not get hysterical, as they may tell you not to testify due to it being too stressful.

Try to speak as clearly as possible.

If you have mental disorders such as anxiety, ADHD, including things like a stutter, specify that before your testimony. I personally explained I have severe anxiety and that It causes me to stutter and talk fast, so to just tell me gently to slow down if I go to fast.

Thats all I can think of for now. Just as extra, here are some resources for rape survivors:

TheSurvivorsTrust

RAINN

AfterSilence

AssaultCare (Canada Specific)

Rape crisis (Female centered)

Healthyplace.org

WAVAW (Women Against Violence Against Women. Women Centered and Canada Specific)

Specifically for male survivors:

Rape Crisis (Male portion)

After Silence (Male Portion)

Pandys

SurvivorsUK (UK specific)

Specifically for LGBT Survivors

Pandys (LGBT portion)

HRC.org

LGBT.ie

Other

List of helplines all around the world

Imalive.org (for if you have a crisis/are scared/want more help)

Very cheap, online therapy (5$ a day)

I hope this has helped some of you. If you’d like any more help, support, or have any more questions, do not hesitate to message me♥ Stay safe, and remember. It is NOT your fault

If any of you could reblog this to show other survivors, that would be greatly appreciated

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