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the world is a better place with trans men and transmasc people in it

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It’s actually really important to be able to entertain an idea without accepting it.

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"you don't have to transition to be trans": overdone, dull, runs cover for taking away medical care from those who need it

"you don't have to be trans to transition": exciting, poignant, radical perspective on the right to bodily autonomy

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oh while i'm here, i watched arcane and spent the entirety of season 1 being jayce's number 1 hater (for no good reason he really did nothing to deserve my ire besides be boring (to me) and hetero (-presenting at the time sdkjghdskjg)

only for s2 to come in and piledrive me into the concrete out of nowhere with the jayvik, and now i have to stan smh

unironically jayvik was the spiritual opposite experience of sheith and i am here for that

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so annoyed whenever i see a youtube video longer than 10 minutes about an extreme horror/splatterpunk book and hoping i'll get someone who's actually willing to engage with the material to talk about the themes and symbolism and stuff, and they feel the need to punctuate every third sentence with some kind of disgusted noise or a "ugh, why is this in here" "why would you write this" "who thinks of this".

even worse when they cap it with a vague comment that clearly indicates they think whoever wrote it must be a grotesque and awful person IRL because clearly only an actual depraved person could ever even conceive of writing disgusting subject matter.

like it's actually so annoying to me because like, you didn't have to read or talk about this book. you and I both already know, by virtue of knowing what extreme horror and especially splatterpunk tend to be, that this book will probably have some disgusting shit in it, so the constant reaffirming that you think the gross shit being written about is gross just always comes off to me like, "i'm continuing to remind you that i think this is gross because i need you to know i am a Good and Normal person and i Do Not Approve of These Things".

it's just annoying. i wanna know about the book and your thoughts on why the disgusting thing is being written. it's gross but it's still a scene in a story, and that doesn't mean there's always a Thematic Symbolic reason why the scene exists (the genre always has scenes and sometimes stories that solely exist to be disgusting and transgressive for the sake of it), but i'm so much more interested in you trying to piece that reason together over you just telling me what happens and going "gross" before moving on.

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It is inherently fun and sexy to say statements that swap the traditional genders of pronouns and terms mid-statement, such as: "I'm going to make him my wife" "She's my boyfriend" "Who says a guy can't be a pretty princess?" "That girl's the coolest dude I've ever met" "She's a madman who has to be stopped" "It's not his fault he's a material girl" Gender is a set of watercolors and the prettiest shades come from mixing the paints together.

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walks up to the slushie machine with an XL big gulp cup and fills it with the man-go flavor, right next to the girl-uava

testosterone should be sold by the gallon for cheap at every costco. a buck fifty. like the hot dog

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The best piece of advice I ever got was not meant as advice, but as an edict. If I was going to threaten people as a joke, it had to be so far out of proportion with what happened that it would be obvious I was joking. This changed how I expressed frustration with others. It then changed how I expressed frustration with myself.

Not “I’m going to hit you” but “I am going to buy a tuna sub from the gas station and hide it under the seat of your car”

Not “I’m going to kill myself” but “I am going to walk into the desert and let the scarabs take me”

The other side then happened. When I mess something up, instead of saying it’s bad and perpetuating negative thoughts, swing hard the other way.

Not “this art is terrible” but “this shall be framed and mounted on the wall in my museum exhibition as testament to the suffering I had to overcome”

Have been doing this since high school. It was my drama teacher who asked me to please stop scaring the actors. The other half of the edict was that I had to say it in a polite tone, and end it with either please or thank you.

Life changing. 10/10 Mr Muëller. Highly reccomend.

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This video made me cry and I highly, highly recommend. Beautiful.

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also, sorry to keep rambling about transfems (my friend is having a hard time with dysphoria and it’s been on my mind) but I’ve seen posts about trans women being the recipients of male socialization bouncing around other sites and I think that’s a really disingenuous way of talking about it. if trans women want to have a conversation about the effects of being socialized BY men while perceived as male, that’s their conversation to have. but at least if it were me, I think I’d have a very different experience being socialized by men as a cis boy than as a girl who accidentally infiltrated the boy club and is in active danger if she’s ever found out. I think it would affect me a lot differently actually

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casually omitting the fact that the men and straight people you are being asked to care about are trans because you know it will make you sound like an asshole if you outright say "i don't care about trans men or straight trans people"

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thought of leelah alcorn and I am overcome with grief once again

our trans kids deserve so much better than they're given

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trans men are allowed to paint their nails.

trans men are allowed to wear dresses or skirts, or any intrinsically feminine clothing.

trans men are allowed to wear makeup.

trans men are allowed to embrace their more "feminine side".

it does not make us any less of a man.

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Punk is about love <3

Photograph of me and my boyfriend at 2022 pride taken by photographer Arnis Balcus

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reblog for something t4t to happen to you this summer.