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I talk a bit about how people may feel devastated when they get their diagnosis, like there's no hope and how things can improve and you can have a quality of life.

But I want to talk about those who feel relieved after they get their diagnosis, even happy. And you are absolutely valid if you feel those things. There are a lot of reasons you may feel those things (feeling validated, understanding yourself more, etc), and regardless, you aren't wrong for being happy to get a diagnosis.

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and here is the thing. all psych wards are bad. every single one. I don’t think there is such a thing as a good psych ward—I’m willing to believe that there are some good people who work in psych wards, who have good intentions, and who might end up helping some people. but the psych ward as a whole? There are no good psych wards. The structure of a psych ward inherently prevents it from being good. Even if you personally think you had a good experience in a psych ward, most likely what that means is that the abusive practices weren’t used on you. But those things are still there. even if you weren’t put into solitary confinement, it is extremely likely that your psych ward still had a room for that. even if you weren’t drugged without your consent, it is very likely other people were being drugged without consent!! even if you weren’t strip searched, or tied to your bed, or starved…it is VERY likely that your psych ward has protocols for all these things and regularly does them to many people who come through the ward! And it is vital to think about how your race, class, and other identities affected your experience before making broad claims about things “never happening” in psych wards.

Psych wards are inherently violent, oppressive, and unethical based solely on the fact that they are a form of incarceration, but even beyond that? If a psych ward is committed to enforcing compliance and incarceration, it is going to have some of those abusive measures that I listed above, and that is going to be standard protocol. Even if there are good people working in a psych ward, their reach is going to be limited—the power of the institution means that they constantly have to weigh the decision to break the rules and help someone, or to follow violent protocols. Most clinicians and staff will choose not to lose their job and even if they find it personally distasteful, will still choose to enable these types of violence. Good people on the inside are not able to fundamentally change the reality of what psych wards are and what they can do.

I strongly believe that people who say they have good experiences are the outlier and also are likely to be white and rich. Even if people don’t think that their experience was abusive, a lot of people generally find it boring, unhelpful, and mediocre. And so, so many people are experiencing abuse in a daily fucking basis in these places. Even if there are individuals who manage to escape the worst of a psych ward, the fact that the psych ward has the power, structure, and protocol to do these things to anyone is a problem.

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I’m a multiple watching Moon Knight

One of the funniest lines I’ve seen so far I’ll think you’ll miss if you don’t know the context.

In episode two “summon the suit” towards minute forty when Steven is engaged in an enormous fight, being thrown into cars and swinging fists, a bystander says “I reckon he’s having a seizure!”

It’s funny for the obvious reasons- Steven is blatantly NOT having a seizure, and what’s going on is much bigger than what she as an outsider is seeing. However it’s also funny because historically, DID was commonly misdiagnosed as ‘epilepsy, but kinda weird?’

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“what’s it like having so many alters?”

terrible, they don’t shut up. next question

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Shoutout to systems who have been treated like compulsive liars and made to feel like bad people because of amnesia and identity alteration. You're cool and so are your 12 different opinions and preferences.

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Being blurry is funny because you are literally just some guy, which guy you ask? I don’t know! I’m just some guy

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Plurality things in Moon Knight that I liked

No distinct good side/evil side binary between system members; although the system members we see do somewhat fall into an aggressive vs meek stereotype.

attempts at communication between system members, system members begin to, with apparent effort, directly talk and communicate with one another internally.

attempts at cooperation; system members portrayed at least attempting to ask permission to use the body for things when possible.

attempts at mutual respect of property and life; one system member takes care of the belongings of the other while the other is in back.

different levels of awareness between system members. Steven struggles with dissociation and black outs, whereas Marc appears to have more awareness of their situation together.

refers to ‘the body’ and ‘using the body’.

Obviously this is just the first episode, and things could go badly from here, but at least for now I didn’t run into anything plurality related that I felt uncomfortable with or irritated by. As far as I’m concerned, it's off to a good start. I will be watching and updating my opinion as the show goes on, and am curious to know if anyone else has any thoughts.

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Anyways. If you’re using the word ‘insane’ as though it’s interchangeable with amoral, evil, unacceptable, perverse, irresponsible, abusive, or anything along those lines, that’s ableist. You’re being ableist.

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So someone in the DID tag is asking about split and I’d just like to weigh in again as someone with clinically diagnosed DID: It’s awful. It’s absolutely horrible. It was deeply personally harmful to myself and many other people I know. It made it tangibly more unsafe for us to exist in the western world.

My psych professor literally used the trailer as the example when talking about bad representation of mental illness in media.

M Night Shyamalan has a long history of being deeply ableist and getting away with it, but split takes the cake. That movie should have ended his career, and probably Macavoy’s and Joy Taylor’s as well.

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What we're not gonna do once Moon Knight comes out is:

1.) Treat DID like a big, scary boogeyman mental illness. Don't even with the ableist shit. Mental illness doesn't make people violent. Those with mental illness are more likely to be victims than perpetrators.

2.) On that note, we won't refer to Marc as a 'psycho' which I so often see people launch at those with DID.

3.) We will not treat Marc or his Alters as little 'uwu babies'. He's a grown ass man and treating him like that is infantilizing and upsetting. Also, we won't treat Jake as an 'Evil Alter.' Those don't exist and are the product of bad representation in media. Alters come about as a means to protect the host.

Basically, just respect a mentally ill character.

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there needs to be a law stopping people from talking about mentally unstable characters until they've had their first hallucination of bugs crawling underneath their skin

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What we're not gonna do once Moon Knight comes out is:

1.) Treat DID like a big, scary boogeyman mental illness. Don't even with the ableist shit. Mental illness doesn't make people violent. Those with mental illness are more likely to be victims than perpetrators.

2.) On that note, we won't refer to Marc as a 'psycho' which I so often see people launch at those with DID.

3.) We will not treat Marc or his Alters as little 'uwu babies'. He's a grown ass man and treating him like that is infantilizing and upsetting. Also, we won't treat Jake as an 'Evil Alter.' Those don't exist and are the product of bad representation in media. Alters come about as a means to protect the host.

Basically, just respect a mentally ill character.

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I honestly just can’t relate to the experiences of those with less stigmatized mental illnesses, and I find it insulting when they try to speak for me.

If you can search up help on your disorder without coming across articles on how to deal with/spot/avoid People Like You, if you feel safe around therapists, if your disorder isn’t immediately associated with serial killers or abusers then you cannot understand my relationship with mental illness. You don’t get to tell me or anyone else in my position how to cope, or talk about our disorders, or advocate for ourselves. You don’t get to tell us that we are “romanticizing” or “glorifying” our disorders, you don’t get to tell us we’re anti-recovery, you don’t get to tell us that our experiences are wrong. You don’t get to tell us how our disorders should or should not impact our lives/behaviors. You don’t know what stigma is, you have absolutely no right to speak over us.

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we are not born to die!! what are you talking about!! do you think a book begins just to finish? do you think a song opens with a beautiful chord just for it to end? you don’t read the book to finish it, you read the book to eat up the excitement and the emotions it evokes!! to learn and to digest and to fall in love and be heartbroken!! you listen to the song to dance and dance and sing your throat raw!!! to cry and smile and swell with the harmonies!! yes, we are born with the inevitable fate of death, we are mortal after all, but that is merely the finale of the play!! the final act, the closing of the curtains - we are not born to take a bow and exit stage left!! we are born to love and be joyous and yell and move and learn and cry and feelfeelfeel!!!  we are not born to die, silly, we’re born to live!!!

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man....pete davidson is really just trying to live his life and all i see are articles like "why do the ladies love pete davidson?" or click bait articles with kate beckinsale throwing in her 2 cents why women might like pete and honestly i feel really bad for him...its like he's the butt of the "how did HE get HER" jokes and like he's prob a nice chill person who deserves a lil more respect i feel like the dudes been kinda tossed around as a joke the past few years when he's been so open with his mental health and how the media can really fuck him up

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"Don't use your autism / disability / mental illness as an excuse" is supposed to refer to people who use their condition as a shield for abusive behavior. It's not a sentence you say in response to every single thing a disabled, autistic, or mentally ill person does that is annoying or inconveniencing to you.