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HAPPY FOUR YEARS ON INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY!!

The day became official in 2021, so 2025 marks 4 years!!

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HAPPY ASEXUAL DAY!! (I’m sorry the image is wonky I’ll fix it if I can)

- April 6th 2025

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Hello to all Australians seeing the post! It is currently the 28th of March 2025, and the election has been announced for May 3rd!

If you are eligible to vote, make sure to check if you’re enrolled to vote and ensure that you’ll be able to vote!

This is a very important election so we’ve all got to do our bits!

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my main takeaway from that post is that the "asexuals should be put in meat grinders" crowd didn't actually go away they just got quieter

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fyi, if anyone has ever been interested in donating to doctors without borders, they are tripling the value of any donation received until may 15 (up to $500k)

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every post about a woman accused of abuse: if a man did this he'd be crucified

every post about a man accused of abuse: look guys, this is a really nuanced conversation and we can't forget the part right wing media plays in these discussions

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So JKR is anti asexual now to

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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it’s also fucked up that fat people literally fear going to the doctor for anything because they know the first thing out of their dr’s mouth no matter what their ailment is, is gonna be “lose weight lol” broken leg? lose weight. rash? lose weight. whooping cough? lose weight binch!!!!! like we get it. but can you just write my prescription you bitch so i can go eat a salad and not call you again until im about to die of the plague????

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“In just three short months, the Trump administration has created an atmosphere where foreigners, immigrants, and even US citizens have to watch what they say and do, particularly when it comes to criticizing and protesting the government or its political allies, but also simply in the kind of language they use. Overheated political rhetoric against corporate malfeasance can get you surveilled by the FBI or visited by the police, while tech censorship is going as strong as ever. And some are so intimidated that self-censorship on a variety of topics is rampant.”

— Trump Promised Free Speech Defense

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moment of unspeakable beauty today when one of my coworkers called another coworker "judas" for not splitting a can of white monster with her, and i got to watch the guy who sits next to me open a new google tab, type in "jeudis," and say quietly to himself "french thursday...?"

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nothing scarier than being a fan of a fic and then becoming mutuals with the author. like hi shakespeare. big fan of your fake dating au

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Eric getting flashbacks of Charles like he’s an old lover in Apocalypse I know that’s right

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i hate these gay people so bad because wdym y’all already acting like after meeting a few days ago? 🤨 not even a few days more like two MAX

i need to shake them around violently why have they done this to me