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Valera Lutfullina, Racing

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hyperfixation please stay with me long enough to complete the project. hyperfixation do not fade. hyperfixation finish what you started for the love of god

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so much of being an ok person is just 1) not panicking, 2) not taking things personally, and 3) not letting the vindictive gargoyle that lives in your head tell you what to do. this sucks because brains love doing those things

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Winter storm above the Little Rincon Mountains, J-Six Ranch, Cochise County, Arizona.

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— Megan Fernandes, “Do You Sell Dignity Here?” from I Do Everything I’m Told

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Merry 2000 Trained Rats, everybody

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there’s always a next book to read, a next show to see, a next concert to go to, another friend to meet, another treat to eat, there’s always more to discover or experience

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You do it to yourself, you do

And that's what really hurts

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Found at the cemetery the other day

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aminals

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Hard pill to swallow, maybe, but sometimes you are the problem. You may not have been initially, but people around you can only have so much endurance for understanding why you're "like that" and how you got to where you are now. Even if you were the one who was victimized, hurt, or abused to begin with, your behavior affects those around you. There's a point at which personal responsibility needs to kick in, or you will become toxic. You can become toxic even if you never become an abuser yourself. If other people are constantly having to help dig you out of the holes you made but you keep slapping their hands away, you cannot expect them to have an indefinite amount of patience and energy to keep trying. If you're not putting in the work to recover from what damaged you; if everyone else in your life is consistently the only one making a real effort to effect change for you--you're the problem.

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My foster dog’s adventures in motherhood