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Yeah yeah we all know your identity is dependent on gendered product consumption

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What is up with women still, in 2025, mistaking the beginning of their feminist awakening for a gender identity thing?

I heard someone say recently that she identifies as non-binary and has a “gender-fluid” fashion sense because she “wants to be pretty and desirable like a woman, but also to be respected like a man”. This woman was at least in her late 20s if not 30s.

Why is the first thing that occurs to these women that these thoughts indicate a non-standard gender identity? Rather than realizing that this is a feminist issue and their feelings are coming from the misogyny inherent in our culture?

I genuinely think there’s a pattern of women starting to wake up to the realities of sex-based oppression and then having that energy be redirected into the world of trans and non-binary identities. Even if it’s not deliberate, it sure feels insidious.

A lot of radfems dismiss this as the woman just being stupid and needing to pull her head out of her ass, but this whole thing is so much bigger than any one woman. There’s so much more to it.

The mindset of the dominant liberal culture right now combined with the lack of feminist education and silencing of feminist ideas makes it so women can’t understand their feelings in any other way but under the gender identity paradigm.

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where do people get the idea that we live in an extremely puritanical era. im genuinely asking bc everywhere i look i feel like porn has rotted everything

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I didn’t write this but it’s definitely something I would say so I’m going to defend it, especially since this has gotten such a negative response.

Imo anon didn’t say that no one should say KAM; she is just pointing out the effect that such rhetoric has on online discussion, especially for potentially sympathetic women.

A lot of the responses to this confession have centered around the idea that radical feminists are justified in saying KAM and therefore anon is out of place for getting annoyed over it. The responses bring up how much rape and murder men commit and how they terrorize us every day. To this reality KAM language is a response that can be justified, especially if one has personally experienced male abuse.

But anon isn’t speaking in terms of justification at all. She is just pointing out the effect of the KAM rhetoric. And no one has tried to argue against her actual point, that KAM alienates many women from radical feminism.

If you understand that saying KAM will turn away otherwise sympathetic women from radical feminism and still choose to say it, that is an informed choice you have made because you have decided that your personal venting and justification outweigh considerations about how radical feminism is viewed by outsiders.

However if you maintain that KAM should be said in radfem spaces and also that women who dislike or disagree with radical feminism as it appears online are unreasonable, you should understand that most people are uncomfortable with genocidal rhetoric in any form whatsoever, (even as a joke or a vent) regardless if you feel that you can personally justify your feelings.

This isn’t about being soft or nicer to men, but strategic in the way we appear to other women with the end goal of having them understand how far patriarchy is embedded in society and give them a will to change that.

I anticipate being accused of asking everyone to water-down our beliefs to please outsiders, and to this I will say that “kill all men” isn’t a belief at all, just a possible method towards women’s liberation. We should never compromise in our beliefs that women should be free from male oppression, but I can argue that some methods are more reasonable, ethical, and possible than others, and that the discussion of these methods should be done strategically.

I have loved and learned a lot from radical feminist theory, and I still do. But the KAM RadFems (and those with similar attitudes) push me away from the online sphere. So much aggression, so little communication...

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To all trans men reading my blog out of hate/boredom/existential despair/curiosity/etc: I love you, I hope you have a good week, idk anything about y’all but wherever you are in life, I wish you healing. Please don’t believe any myth that radfems hate you: we don’t. We want to protect you and other female humans more than anything in this world. You deserve to be happy and I hope one day you are.

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Constantly seeing liberals dunk on women for wanting female-only spaces because “a predator isn’t going to be stopped by whether something is legal or not” as if the crux of the issue isn’t whether it’s acceptable for a woman to defend herself against a possible predator by yelling “get the fuck out, you don’t belong here” when a male enters her space. Is the law on her side?

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The notion that straight people who approach sex unconventionally are comparable to gay people is predicated on a conception of gayness as sexual deviance. It’s homophobic.

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From the start of the new year, any Muslim caught wearing a burqa in Switzerland will face a fine of $1,144.

Switzerland is leading the way for the West.

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Oklahoma is attempting to pass a bill that would ban explicit romance novels. Authors, narrators, and sellers could all face fines of up to $100,000 and up to 10 years in jail for each instance.

If you live in OK, call your representative and tell them this bill should not be allowed to pass.

This is likely a test case. Republicans will try to pass it in OK and if it passes other states will likely try to pass similar laws.

In the meantime, get physical copies of books you like. Download those pdfs. Archive your AO3 stories and keep them on a physical hard drive. (Storing those files in the cloud could be problematic in the future as the company managing the cloud service can see what your files are)

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I don’t do it to change minds, (but I have a few times). There is a real utility in writing out your arguments and trying them out against an opponent. It encourages intellectual consistency and helps me think through my own positions and look for potential holes. Writing and speaking and thinking all activate different parts of the brain, and I frequently find myself thinking of new ideas and making new connections as I’m writing.

Even if no one changes their minds or even fights fair I’m all for essay typing and ruthless arguments.

Sorry but I don’t find it very inspiring that y’all will yap and divulge soooo much of your time writing arguments against people that literally do not care. You can stop with the essays. So people are just beyond help. They’ve seen the arguments, they just hate women.

When I was a teenager, it took ONE argument about bodily autonomy to get me on board with abortion. It took ONE argument about sexist stereotypes to get me on the gender critical side. People either get it or they don’t. Stop wasting your breath. You’re not gonna sweet talk a misogynist into thinking women are people. Make your posts, block, and move on.

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Hello how are you?

Im kinda new to radfem and super interested in joining this movement but I have a few questions ...

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I know that rad don't change themselves in ways that are considered "attractive" (to the male eye) this includes shaving, wearing heels, makeup etc. However I am an artist. I paint and draw and it brings me joy and helps me claim down ( I have bad anxiety) . I am entering a science field and have less and less time to draw and destress. Putting time aside very morning to draw on my face with bright eyeshadow or wing liner or colorful lipstick brings me that same joy. Does that make me less of a radfem? I do my makeup in a way that most men do not find attractive and while I do get complements for my apearance its always from women and I do my makeup for me and the girlies only.

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Also is it less radfem to use a sperm donor for having children? Bc 4b movement means you don't have a man's children. So does it still count if you become pregnant with a donor sample and raise the child on your own ?

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I know that radfem is a women led movement by women for women. Does this mean that men who believe in this movement and its principles are never allowed to join radfem? And why not?

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Why do so many radfem think men are evil at their core? Like ik that men benefit from the patriarchy and uphold it but I do not personally think little boys come out the womb as full blown sexists. I think it is taught to them from a young age but then again, that's just me. Does this make me less of a radfem and why is this considered such a hot take ?

To clarify, I am a woman, I was born with a vagina, and I am genuinely asking like I'm dead serious and I'm willing to learn

tysm in advance I look forward to your response :)

Hi! Thanks for reaching out. I don’t consider myself a representative of radical feminism by any means, and many other radfems disagree with my takes sometimes so bear that in mind when reading my answers.

I’m glad you’re interested in radical feminism! However as it happens on tumblr and other spaces online this is less of a movement and more of a circle where we take turns shouting at each other. I encourage you to find irl feminist activists groups, even some that you disagree with on some things and work together for a specific cause.

Now for your questions!

For the first one regarding makeup, I’ll invite you to do an experiment. Go without it for a day, and see how you feel. Do you feel naked or not put together enough? Or does it not change a thing? If you were a man, would you also use this as a method to destress, or is this just a rationalization you use? I don’t live in your head and I’m not going to tell you what to do, but please consider these questions. Read The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf :).

I will say for certain that supporting the makeup industry is not a feminist action.

For the 4B sperm donor question, I would learn towards saying no, but I don’t know the technicalities. I’m a lesbian so I don’t think I can call myself 4B since I’m not making any extra sacrifices, so I haven’t gone too deep into the rules. There are some radfems who believe there is no feminist way to produce children, but to be honest I haven’t read too much theory about that or thought in that direction.

One cool thing is that making gametes from stem cells is going to be possible soon, which means that two women can make a biological child of both of them. If we all agree to make only girls we could have a male free world! Of course that probably won’t happen but a girl can dream. For me that would be more along the lines of 4B since no male is involved at all, but again I’m not too familiar with the nitty-gritty rules of the 4B movement.

For your third question: Men can’t be radfems, but they can be allies. I’ve actually had a few men private dm me about what they can do for the movement. I’m not sure if they were looking for praise or what, but I usually tell them to tell their buddies to stop watching porn and to escort at abortion clinics. It is very important that radical feminism centers women and our voices and analysis. Even if a man is well meaning, he has been socialized as a man and has male privilege and we want to keep our spaces free of those things.

Your fourth question is a source of great contention on Radblr. As for why many radfems think men are inherently evil, their main argument usually is that patriarchy is worldwide and almost 100% of men are misogynist and that it wouldn’t be that way if men weren’t inherently bad.

My view? Power corrupts. Men have physical and societal power. This combined with cultural inertia gives us what we have today. I think that human behavior is incredibly malleable, for better or for worse.

Don’t worry too much about whether or not you can call yourself a “true radfem”. Do what you think is right and continue asking questions and learning as much as you can. If you think that you mostly align with other radical feminists, I would consider you a radfem. Just like if someone has mostly libfem opinions but a few radfem opinions I would consider them a libfem. I think that all-or-nothing thinking in this regard gets in the way of progress. But that’s just me.

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I'm sorry but this is exactly one of the reasons leftists won't fucking unite because they woobify themselves instead of trying to take action.

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That’s pretty debatable over many geographic regions, but yes, things did really suck for classical women. I’m just speaking about the symbolism of the image itself, not really about the wider historical context.

And this has been done metaphorically to millions of women over human history.

I wonder what her face looked like.

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Yeah for sure Christianity was used in so many different ways during that time period, which lends me to believe that it is the character of the people themselves and not the religion that is owed praise. One of the reasons that slave owners used to justify keeping Black people as slaves was a paternalistic idea that they had to protect them and make sure that they became Christian for the sake of their own souls. The same justification was used in the forcible assimilation of Native Americans and the removal of cultural identity. I think that Christianity does have some positive aspects, but it’s used so often for harm that we can never be critical enough of how certain beliefs and practices affect other people.

And this has been done metaphorically to millions of women over human history.

I wonder what her face looked like.