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if you want to actually start to end homelessness, you need to give homeless people unconditional homes, including when we use them to do drugs or sit around drinking. either housing is unconditional or it isn’t

someone sitting at home alone, an active alcoholic, squandering your charity, drinking all day is better situation than a street homeless alcoholic. someone using drugs in your charity house is better than them doing the same w no shelter

most of you would not like most street homeless people, I definitely don’t and didn’t when I was street homeless. for every one person who uses unconditional shelter to turn themselves around, someone else will do jack shit and very slowly, if ever, work through the issues that made them homeless, will maybe never be able to live independently. still better than street homelessness, still worth doing. ultimately either you believe that shelter should be universal or you don’t

homeless people actually can’t be rehabilitated if you want to end homelessness. we either affirm the right to shelter for the worst drunken, lying, filthy, cheating, self destructive homeless people that exist, genuinely irredeemable wankers, or we concede that shelter is not a right

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watching game shows as a snotty kid: this is a once in a lifetime opportunity! how could you walk away from 100k!?!

watching game shows as an adult: Jesus fucking christ the shit i could do with 1000 dollars right now

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*pirate woman on 1600s tinder voice* aye they call me The Peg......and not because of me fake leg 😏

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it's wild that some days I'll look in the mirror and think "oh shit I look kinda cute today" and then others I look like a fucking gremlin.

where is the switch in my brain that decides to look at the exact same body and think they're totally different people. and like, it doesn't do this to all bodies, just the one hosting the brain

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I'm feeling disconnected from the trans community sometimes and I think one of the major pet peeves causing that is performative femininity

I notice this most often with trans women but I think trans men fall victim to it as well. it's a tricky subject for me to talk about because it regards dysphoria, and dysphoria is this ugly amalgamation of negative thoughts that damage people, and I don't want to in any way invalidate peoples real struggles with dysphoria.

that being said, I see a lot of dysphoria that takes the form of some toxic beauty standard and treats it like "toxic beauty standard = feminine". one example I recently saw was dysphoria about painted nails. people experiencing dysphoria when their nails aren't painted. in my mind, it seems that this person believes that painted nails = femininity, and it automatically translates in my mind that unpainted nails = less feminine. painted nails are a beauty standard though! (disclaimer: I think it's perfectly fine to express yourself with painted nails, but I don't think it should be a gendered expression) it's so... male gazey. so much dysphoria is rooted in the male gaze.

I have a friend who has always been a bit airheaded, but it feels like this friend has gotten twice as airheady after they transitioned. why? is airheadedness an expression of femininity? that's so shitty! that just feels like a submission to the patriarchy and it rubs me the wrong way.

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I don't know if other trans people do this but I spend an unhealthy amount of brain space thinking about all the instances and experiences in my life so far that would've been different were I cis

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i spent an hour on this

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It is deeply, deeply beneficial to TERFs if the only characteristic of TERF ideology you will recognize as wrong, harmful, or problematic is "they hate trans women".

TERF ideology is an expansive network of extremely toxic ideas, and the more of them we accept and normalize, the easier it becomes for them to fly under the radar and recruit new TERFs. The closer they get to turning the tide against all trans people, trans women included.

Case in point: In 2014-2015, I fell headlong into radical feminism. I did not know it was called radical feminism at the time, but I also didn't know what was wrong with radical feminism in the first place. I didn't see a problem with it.

I was a year deep into this shit when people I had been following, listening to, and looking up to finally said they didn't think trans women were women. It was only then that I unfollowed those people, specifically; but I continued to follow other TERFs-who-didn't-say-they-were-TERFs. I continued ingesting and spreading their ideas- for years after.

If TERFs "only target trans women" and "only want trans women gone", if that's the one and only problem with their ideology and if that's the only way we'll define them, we will inevitably miss a vast majority of the quiet beliefs that support their much louder hatred of trans women.

As another example: the trans community stood relatively united when TERFs and conservatives targeted our right to use the correct restroom, citing the "dangers" of trans women sharing space with cis women. But when they began targeting Lost Little Girls and Confused Lesbians and trotting detransitioners out to raise a panic about trans men, virtually the only people speaking up about it were other transmascs. Now we see a rash of anti-trans healthcare bills being passed in the US, and they're hurting every single one of us.

When you refuse to call a TERF a TERF just because they didn't specifically say they hate trans women, when you refuse to think critically about a TERF belief just because it's not directly related to trans women, you are actively helping TERFs spread their influence and build credibility.