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It’s almost like there is a word for that… (hint: it’s not “trans-ish”)

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Ellie the Ehlers Danlos Syndrome Buddy (Zebra) Plushie Concept Art

I’m so excited to share Ellie the EDS Buddy’s official plush concept art! As soon as I get most of the plush designs ready, the kickstarter that will allow you to purchase your very own Buddy plush will be posted! I have so many Buddies that represent so many different medical conditions (and LGBTQ identities, for the Pride Buddies Project)! Ellie was the first to be made because she’s very close to my heart 💜 - @foxleotie

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This person replied to a comment I left on a r/catadvice post from 99 days ago and then started spam messaging me the following:

I just thought someone else should see this lol

Dude really crashed out and needed to be intersexist because I shared studies about weed being bad for cats month ago 😭

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Adding to this:

The biggest thing that gets me is whenever I post about the most basic intersex topics literally anywhere, I am met with people who try to “mansplain” intersex topics back at me with the most uneducated language ever, or they get angry at me for even bringing intersex people up!

When I made a post pointing out that college students not knowing what “intersex” means is a problem, all of the comments were negative and/or misinformed. Statements of mine saying that all biology classes that cover the human body and all sex education should include lessons about intersex people are met with vitriol.

You’re not even allowed to talk about being intersex online without people jumping on you and insisting that either intersex people don’t exist or don’t matter, or that being intersex is actually something different than it is (such as a gender identity).

People also just refuse to be educated on these topics whenever you try to correct them. It’s just frustrating and exhausting to be told by perisex people that our voices don’t matter any time we try to say anything about ourselves, especially because of just how violently oppressed we are as a group.

Saw a post a bit ago that was like "Is it just me or is like every intersex blogger really angry all the time, who pissed in your cereal bro?"

Wow I fucking wonder why we're pissed off. Really. No idea. I wonder if it has to do with having to deal with

Being systematically mutilated legally

If you weren't mutilated, almost nobody has a body like yours

You can't research how your sex organs & hormones function without seeing baby surgery gore and reports of how everybody like you was "fixed"

Having the US president declare us nonexistent

Being told we're freaks all our life and we need fixing

Have a long history of being killed at birth

Slurs for you literally fucking everywhere including in a scientific context and if you point it out people call you dramatic

More slurs for you if you ever dare to try to look at adult material

Any and all fiction that is listed as intersex is all stereotypes and obvious fetish material for perisex people - There is almost no representation.

Whenever you hear about people like you they're referred to as having a sex disorder, never being intersex

People who support the entire framework of your excising and mutilation go in your comments to concern troll about how they don't actually support that

Having almost no research done into our oppression — so there is a lack of statistics about systemic intersex assault/rape/murder — people use this to tell you it isn't happening (despite nearly every intersex person you've met has reported being victimized in some way)

Strangers online think they are entitled to your full medical history

A significant number of people online think you are a porn trope and are shocked to find out tou exist in real life

Your gender identity is erased and ignored because it doesn't make sense to perisex people

You are reduced to a discourse topic

Being considered "rare" (because we are actively being suppressed with violence) — people use that "rarity" to say you don't matter

People thinking its acceptable to sexually harass you and ask you about your genitals just because they find out you're intersex

Getting told that you're exaggerating when you say your group has been the victim of a successful extermination campaign — & that is why we are so invisible

Everyone ignores all of this ^ and tells you that someone else has it worse than you so you should shut up if you ever decide to speak up.

Wow. I wonder.

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I really don't think a lot of abled and low support needs disabled people realize how many of us rely on the kindness of others to stay alive. Imagine if your entire survival and existence was pinned to being likeable enough.

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It’s that time of year again: Please please please stop saying Easter originated from Ostara. This is literally anti-Semitic propaganda that I’m begging people not to continue spreading 😭

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I am so excited to share The Buddies Project (Disability Buddies and Pride Buddies) with the world!

The Buddies project consists of two individual sister projects, Disability Buddies and Lion Pride Buddies.

As you can see on the logo above, I make these cute animal character designs to represent medical conditions (Disability Buddies) or LGBT identities (Pride Buddies). Along with a desire to make education and representation more accessible to people with chronic conditions and LGBTQIA+ individuals, these characters are at the heart of the project.

The logo includes Ellie, the Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Buddy, and Gabe, the Gay Pride Buddy. The belong images include examples of a character from each project: Freya the Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) Buddy and Toby the Transgender Buddy.

This project is still in early stages, but I’m uploading character designs to different social media platforms (check the bottom of the post) and we have a Discord server where you can help me design characters for your medical condition or identity that will be made into plushies and pin buttons, as well as provide visuals for our educational pamphlets and other material. Here is a pin button I have made already!

The Buddies Project already has partnerships with a local clinic and Pride organization, as well as a reservation for an information booth at my next local Pride Festival, but I hope to make this a global effort once I get farther along in the project and have money to make merchandise (plushies, pins, stickers, etc.) and more educational material (infographics, printed pamphlets, posters, informational booths, etc.)

⭐️ Please come along for the ride! Reblogs appreciated! ⭐️

Website

Discord Server

Disability Buddies Tumblr

Lion Pride Buddies Tumblr

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Pin of the day: I Run Better Than The Government

⭐️ Buy here ⭐️

Reblog to support a disabled & intersex-owned shop that donates 10% of all profits to a Palestinian family! ♿️

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having chronic pain is like sometimes i’m dissociating from every feeling in my body because i have to ignore my limbs to cope and sometimes im so hyperaware that i can tell the exact amount of degrees my shoulder is hyperextended

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"Intersex people are also impacted by anti-trans legislation, but too often we are the unmentioned casualties. We are constantly caught in the crossfire of culture wars or used as the “gotcha” moment in arguments to uplift others’ humanity, even as the painful discrimination our community faces—and the authentic beauty of our presence—remains hidden in plain sight. Long a vital element in the case for someone else’s truth, we are also tasked with defending our own. Intersex people are human beings too and deserve dignified lives beyond just proving bigotry wrong. We don’t exist to prove a point; we exist because we do."

Alicia Roth Weigel, "Trump’s ‘Biological Truth’ Executive Order is Not Based in Biology or Truth"

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Dehumanizing bigots is bad, not because I want to be nice to them, but because they are human beings and they serve as a reminder that anyone is capable of evil ideation and action. Violent bigots are not fundamentally different beings from you. They are human beings, who have developed a reactionary and destructive belief system due to their circumstances combined with their biases. In a different timeline, that could've been you. Anyone can be radicalized. Nobody is immune to propaganda, not even the person reading this.

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Reiterating again, you cannot transition into being intersex.

Intersex isn’t a state of being, it’s not a gender, and it’s not it’s own third sex.

It’s a descriptor word that communicates that someone’s sex characteristics naturally developed in a way that is atypical for the binary “male or female”.

When someone says they’re “transitioning into being intersex” it assumes that there is inherent anatomy of an intersex body that can be replicated, and that body’s specific type of anatomy is what makes someone intersex. Obviously, this is not how it works because intersex bodies can look and develop completely different from each other, and the way their anatomy currently looks is not what makes them intersex. It’s the fact that their sex characteristics naturally developed differently from the binary M/F model of sex.

To say that a perisex body can “become intersex” assumes that intersex bodies can become perisex, which would make intersex people who underwent genital mutilation and medical abuse “actually perisex” now. Once again, obviously not how it works.

Intersex refers to someone being naturally born with biological sex characteristics outside of the binary M/F model of sex (these characteristics may not be noticeable until puberty, but they’ve always been there). Trying to define it another way has horrific implications not matter what.

Intersex people are one of the most silenced and violently oppressed groups out there, so it is so crucial to listen to actually intersex people about these topics.

If your sex characteristics naturally developed atypical of the binary, you’re intersex. If they didn’t, you’re perisex. There is not way to change that because you can’t make your sex characteristics as a fetus naturally develop in a different way.

In case anyone needs a reminder…

Being transgender does not make you intersex.

Going through HRT does not make you intersex. Surgery cannot make you intersex.

Intersex people are born with atypical variations of physical, biological sex characteristics. That is what makes someone intersex.

Perisex trans people (especially on Reddit) have been recently insisting that just being transgender makes you intersex, and therefore able to speak over intersex people on issues that specifically affect us, especially when it comes to dangerous and offensive terminology. This is not true.

Also the idea that you can somehow “make yourself intersex” is untrue. You can make your body more androgynous through things like hormone treatment and surgery, but that does not make you intersex.

Falsely claiming intersex identity based on these things isn’t *always* malicious (though it is often done to speak over us) but it is always harmful.

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Why are people I follow sharing my abusive ex qp partner’s posts 😭

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Re-Design of Kandi, I wanted to make her design a bit more cohesive and complete color. 🦼

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Bunch of y'all probably need some validation so here it is - it's not fair that you have to deal with your chronic illness, disability, trauma, lack of accessibility, and other people acting weird about it all

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