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Dehumanizing bigots is bad, not because I want to be nice to them, but because they are human beings and they serve as a reminder that anyone is capable of evil ideation and action. Violent bigots are not fundamentally different beings from you. They are human beings, who have developed a reactionary and destructive belief system due to their circumstances combined with their biases. In a different timeline, that could've been you. Anyone can be radicalized. Nobody is immune to propaganda, not even the person reading this.

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Reiterating again, you cannot transition into being intersex.

Intersex isn’t a state of being, it’s not a gender, and it’s not it’s own third sex.

It’s a descriptor word that communicates that someone’s sex characteristics naturally developed in a way that is atypical for the binary “male or female”.

When someone says they’re “transitioning into being intersex��� it assumes that there is inherent anatomy of an intersex body that can be replicated, and that body’s specific type of anatomy is what makes someone intersex. Obviously, this is not how it works because intersex bodies can look and develop completely different from each other, and the way their anatomy currently looks is not what makes them intersex. It’s the fact that their sex characteristics naturally developed differently from the binary M/F model of sex.

To say that a perisex body can “become intersex” assumes that intersex bodies can become perisex, which would make intersex people who underwent genital mutilation and medical abuse “actually perisex” now. Once again, obviously not how it works.

Intersex refers to someone being naturally born with biological sex characteristics outside of the binary M/F model of sex (these characteristics may not be noticeable until puberty, but they’ve always been there). Trying to define it another way has horrific implications not matter what.

Intersex people are one of the most silenced and violently oppressed groups out there, so it is so crucial to listen to actually intersex people about these topics.

If your sex characteristics naturally developed atypical of the binary, you’re intersex. If they didn’t, you’re perisex. There is not way to change that because you can’t make your sex characteristics as a fetus naturally develop in a different way.

In case anyone needs a reminder…

Being transgender does not make you intersex.

Going through HRT does not make you intersex. Surgery cannot make you intersex.

Intersex people are born with atypical variations of physical, biological sex characteristics. That is what makes someone intersex.

Perisex trans people (especially on Reddit) have been recently insisting that just being transgender makes you intersex, and therefore able to speak over intersex people on issues that specifically affect us, especially when it comes to dangerous and offensive terminology. This is not true.

Also the idea that you can somehow “make yourself intersex” is untrue. You can make your body more androgynous through things like hormone treatment and surgery, but that does not make you intersex.

Falsely claiming intersex identity based on these things isn’t *always* malicious (though it is often done to speak over us) but it is always harmful.

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Why are people I follow sharing my abusive ex qp partner’s posts 😭

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Re-Design of Kandi, I wanted to make her design a bit more cohesive and complete color. 🦼

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Bunch of y'all probably need some validation so here it is - it's not fair that you have to deal with your chronic illness, disability, trauma, lack of accessibility, and other people acting weird about it all

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This Lion Pride Buddy needs a name! (Vote below)

This is the design for our intersex Buddy for the Lion Pride Buddies Project. They need a name!

Unsure of what the project is? Check out the pinned post!

What do you think this lion’s name should be? Iggy is a name that starts with I and the name Kidd is inspired by the Orchid flower, which is a symbol of intersex identity.

I like incorporating symbols relating to identities where I can in this project, so that’s why Kidd is on this list. However, most other Buddy names sound similar in some way to the concept they represent.

I prefer intersex people to answer, but you can answer even if you aren’t! You can also repost this instead to let more intersex people see this 💜

Want to see your identity as a Buddy design? Submit a request in the ask box or check the main website to see if it has been made already!

Sibling project: @disabilitybuddies

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We have always existed, and we always will.

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One of the most radical things you can do as a disabled person is live and be happy.

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I never did that, I’m really not sure where you’re getting that from.

EDIT: I realized you’re reading the comments on the r/intersex post and no one is calling you perisex, people are just reacting and responding to my original post (above) which was the first screenshot in the Reddit post. These comments are not directed at you at all, just discussion around my post (which is something I’m always happy to see the affected group creating around my posts).

In case anyone needs a reminder…

Being transgender does not make you intersex.

Going through HRT does not make you intersex. Surgery cannot make you intersex.

Intersex people are born with atypical variations of physical, biological sex characteristics. That is what makes someone intersex.

Perisex trans people (especially on Reddit) have been recently insisting that just being transgender makes you intersex, and therefore able to speak over intersex people on issues that specifically affect us, especially when it comes to dangerous and offensive terminology. This is not true.

Also the idea that you can somehow “make yourself intersex” is untrue. You can make your body more androgynous through things like hormone treatment and surgery, but that does not make you intersex.

Falsely claiming intersex identity based on these things isn’t *always* malicious (though it is often done to speak over us) but it is always harmful.

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If an intersex person faces outside intervention on their body, as we often do, does that person become perisex? Or “semi-perisex”? No, of course not. The opposite is also true.

If you’re perisex, you’re perisex. Perisex people can absolutely have overlapping experiences with intersex people, including coerced surgeries or outside forces interfering with their body’s natural state without their consent, but they are not intersex.

Circumcision happens every single day. People get cancer every single day. Trans people who are born perisex frequently get surgeries and go on HRT to change the expression of their sex characteristics. These people don’t become intersex or “semi-intersex” from these alterations, consensual or not. They are still 100% perisex. In the same way I didn’t become perisex or “semi-perisex” because the expression of my sex characteristics were changed by an outside force. I am still 100% intersex.

Should people who face non consensual (or consensual but they just regret it) changes to the way their sex characteristics are expressed be welcome into some intersex discussions and groups? Yes, of course. We can learn from each other, offer support, and fight to change the system together.

As I tried to express in the initial post, though, trying to re-define what intersex means is inherently harmful, even if it’s not malicious. I know that you’re creating a new term, but it still has the word “intersex” in it. There is no way a perisex person can become intersex in any capacity, and even if you’re not trying to say that the people who fall under this new term are “actually intersex”, this term is already harmful just starting with the fact that it still lumps them under the “intersex” label in some capacity.

Should there be a term for perisex people who have intersex-adjacent experiences? I don’t know, I don’t think it’s inherently bad to have *a* term (just not one that asserts they are somehow intersex in any way), but eventually you could make an argument to lump basically every single perisex person ever under that new label. There are few pros compared to the cons.

Once again, perisex people who have experiences similar to us should be able to find solidarity and support with us, as well as with each other, but this does not mean there has to be a specific term for that and we should definitely not start labeling perisex people as being intersex in some way. Intersex is a biological descriptor for a person who has atypical sex characteristics at birth. Nothing else. Attempting to stretch and coerce this term into including people it doesn’t already include is harmful to intersex people, a minority that is already rarely recognized or heard.

In case anyone needs a reminder…

Being transgender does not make you intersex.

Going through HRT does not make you intersex. Surgery cannot make you intersex.

Intersex people are born with atypical variations of physical, biological sex characteristics. That is what makes someone intersex.

Perisex trans people (especially on Reddit) have been recently insisting that just being transgender makes you intersex, and therefore able to speak over intersex people on issues that specifically affect us, especially when it comes to dangerous and offensive terminology. This is not true.

Also the idea that you can somehow “make yourself intersex” is untrue. You can make your body more androgynous through things like hormone treatment and surgery, but that does not make you intersex.

Falsely claiming intersex identity based on these things isn’t *always* malicious (though it is often done to speak over us) but it is always harmful.

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“a little Cherokee in me”

I've been struggling to express this critique of both blood quantum and those people who love to claim supposed Cherokee heritage as a fun little fact they only bring up when they think it’ll make them look more interesting. It ended up manifesting as this self portrait. I've been doing what I can to embrace my culture, learn our language, practice our arts, and engage in our community, which is what it means to be Cherokee. Not some supposed ancestor that you know nothing about.

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I want to make some pins for people who carry comfort items, especially plushies!

I need ideas!

Please let me know what other sayings you’d like on pin buttons about comfort items!

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I’m assuming you think white people identifying as black is also okay and I would be “overstepping” for criticizing it? It’s the same logic.

If you don’t get think that’s okay, then explain why. I guarantee that most of those reasons will be applicable to the idea of a perisex person wanting to identify as intersex.

I have heard the “let people say they want to be intersex” argument so many times from perisex people who usually don’t ever talk about intersex people or the horrific amount of violence against us outside of speaking over us like this. You’re not changing anyone’s mind by saying this.

To say that I and the people and organizations who shared this post, including the largest intersex advocacy organization out there (InterACT) “sound like TERFs” just because we are making comments on our own oppression… I mean, come on.

It’s not the first time people have said stuff like this to us when we speak out and it won’t be the last. It’s just a way to make us feel bad and stay quiet about the mutilation and oppression we face, even if the people saying it don’t recognize the harmfulness of the rhetoric they’re regurgitating is. I hope that the person I am responding to was acting in good faith and doesn’t realize the weight of what they’re saying. People aren’t well educated on intersex issues (including some intersex people) so I understand, and everyone can take initiative to learn and become an ally.

In case anyone needs a reminder…

Being transgender does not make you intersex.

Going through HRT does not make you intersex. Surgery cannot make you intersex.

Intersex people are born with atypical variations of physical, biological sex characteristics. That is what makes someone intersex.

Perisex trans people (especially on Reddit) have been recently insisting that just being transgender makes you intersex, and therefore able to speak over intersex people on issues that specifically affect us, especially when it comes to dangerous and offensive terminology. This is not true.

Also the idea that you can somehow “make yourself intersex” is untrue. You can make your body more androgynous through things like hormone treatment and surgery, but that does not make you intersex.

Falsely claiming intersex identity based on these things isn’t *always* malicious (though it is often done to speak over us) but it is always harmful.

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I want to make some pins for people who carry comfort items, especially plushies!

I need ideas!

Please let me know what other sayings you’d like on pin buttons about comfort items!

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Something that so many people miss when talking about Wicked, specifically when it comes to Nessarose’s character, is that Nessarose represents people who haven’t accepted or possibly haven’t realized that their marginalized identity doesn’t need to be fixed, it’s society that needs to be fixed.

People who can’t accept this often lash out at people like Elphaba, who have accepted themselves and abandoned trying to gain favor with the people who hate them. They do the same to people who are not marginalized- whether out of jealousy, out of fear of being further ostracized, or just anger and frustration of being different and never being good enough for the system you’re trying so hard to be a part of.

The two sisters represent opposing paths that people who are labeled “different” can take, and what those paths lead to.

Nessa wants to be “fixed”. She wants to fit in and be a part of the society that subjugates her. She wants her disability to go away and is deeply insecure about her life as a disabled person. These negative feelings towards her disability and desire to be as normal as possible- to remove what makes her marginalized- is what leads to her spiral into a tyrant and her eventual downfall. She does get to become the governor and gains some position of power in the system that hates her, but it leads to her personal ruin. It’s something that those of us who have taken Elphaba’s path see all the time, unfortunately.