fatlazybutterfly

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Ever have that food craving that starts in your bones? It kinda comes on suddenly, and the last coherent thought you have is “Uh oh” before your brain switches to hunting mode.

Every cell in your body is screaming to be stuffed, every limb moving you towards that pile of yumminess.

And then.

The eating is euphoric. You’re hypnotized, consuming with little thought. You can’t think, your brain is too busy swimming in your gooey, dopamine-fueled pleasure stew of feelings.

And then.

Your belly aches, and that pain, ooohhhh, that pain makes you so horny, but also, you’re tired. Your body is done, it’s happy, and it wants to shut down and nap. You try to pleasure yourself, but slowly drift away to sleep.

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Hear me out: Moulin Rouge remade as a feedist movie

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I love the feedist community here on Tumblr so much more than anywhere else.

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Much love to everyone broaching this topic with partners!

me, explaining feedism to my partner and showing him stuff that’s hot to me: ITS WEIRD I KNOW ITS WEIRD IM SORRY I LOVE YOU

him, perfectly calm: I appreciate how difficult this is for you and how you’re trusting me completely and being very vulnerable but really all you’ve shown me are pictures of hot fat guys and, hear me out, I don’t think it’s really that weird?

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I dunno. Feedist zine fair. Imagine a world that could be chill and hold that.

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But seriously though, all I really want is to have my big squishy jello gut with a t shirt that doesn’t fit past my belly button, my big bright butterfly wings on, at a bar with an amazing menu, surrounded by other gainers and assorted feedists, and thinking “I’m a bit too drunk but also the BBQ wings look amazing”

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Claiming you shouldn't be fat is one of the biggest lies they'll try to sell you

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The "I eat what I want and I don't care if it makes me fatter" to "I eat what I want and I like that it makes me fatter" pipeline

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i know society as a whole makes it really hard to believe, but there are countless people out there who will enthusiastically love your chubby/not thin/fat/*really* fat body. and I don’t mean chasers. I promise you do not have to be skinny to be loved/have sex/be in a relationship.

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Question for feedees and gainers.

As you move through your journey, as you start gaining significant amounts of weight, do you find yourself adopting a new identity of sorts?

Like, I am starting to think of my old self as someone else, like an old friend I don’t see anymore. I feel like I had to become a new person to truly fulfill this longing.

Can anyone relate?

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Heya! I wanted to ask you, you wouldn't happen to be aware of any articles/studies/research focusing on feedism, would you? Asking because a looooooooong time ago (like...8 years possibly?) I came by a blog ran by a researcher interested in kinks, and he had a lot of qualitative research focusing on different kinks, and one of them was feedism, and what struck me in that one was that several of the participants in the study reported that they experienced food scarcity as children or used to have strong body image issues / eating disorder tendencies.

Unfortunately, I cannot find the blog anymore. I don't expect you to have the specific one I'm talking about (which is actually really sad because it's literally foundational to my bachelor's thesis but alas I am fucked in that regard) but if you know of any other research that focuses on feedism or mentions it while focusing on many kinks at once, I'd appreciate any and all help.

Hi there! I don't have very many, as much as I enjoy reading academic research, I tend to be less interested in research on kinks, specifically why people have them, because it pathologizes deviant sexuality that is actually normal and healthy. Similar to studies that try to get to the bottom of WHY people are homosexual (they just are!) Most of the research I've come across about feedism treats it like a disorder, or worse, a form of domestic abuse.

However, I have been collecting pieces of media about feedism because I want to start keeping an archive! So here's a handful of resources that I'm interested in reading (eventually), which might help you in your search:

Feederism: Eating, Weight Gain, and Sexual Pleasure (2015)

Handbook of the New Sexuality Studies || Feederism: a new sexual pleasure and subculture (2007)

Help Me Get Fat! Feederism as Communal Deviance on the Internet (2013)

Future Directions for Feederism (2015)

Feederism: An Exaggeration of a Normative Mate Selection Preference (2012)

Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Politics of Stigma (2014) - This one seems really cool, I read an excerpt from it about the history of Girth & Mirth!

Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure, and the Pursuit of Happiness (2023) - I am halfway through this book and it's about the social politics of kink culture, and I love it! The author is a feedist (I don't think she actually identifies with the label, but she mentions that her kink is big bellies and overindulgence, so that's pretty cool).

@cheeseburgersinparadise recently did a project on feedism and included quite a few sources too.

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This will be my morning mantra.

I do not give a flying fuck about what the general public thinks about the feedism community, the general public cannot even grasp fat acceptance

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if you could give only one piece of for beginner feedees, what would it be?

I’m assuming you want one piece of advice! Here’s my response:

You have to be okay with being fat on your own.

I think some feedees get caught up in the fantasy of having a partner that is a feeder that will stay with them forever and never leave them. While that is the case for quite a few people, you still have to keep your relationships grounded in reality. People break up, people die, people move on and grow apart. A feeder is not bound to you just because they helped make you fat. A feedist relationship is still a relationship. That’s why, if you decide to enter a feedist relationship, you need to seriously consider what will happen if your relationship doesnt work out. Will you be okay with being significantly fatter without a partner in the picture? Will you be okay existing as a fat person without the validation of a partner reassuring you how attractive you are? Will your mental health remain stable?

Unfortunately, no matter how hot you think it is, there are real life social/health/political/familial/daily consequences to voluntarily becoming obese and/or gaining significant amounts of weight. You need to be prepared to face those consequences with or without someone at your side.

If you feel unprepared you either need to do some serious self reflection and research, or keep your feedist fantasies as strictly fantasy only.

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Were there points in your gaining journey where you were unsure about trying to get a lot bigger on purpose?

Yeah for sure, I find that’s the case for a lot of us just considering the world we live in. There’s no shame in having doubts about continuing to gain weight. Also, I’ve always been fat even before I was conscious of being into this. I was never a thin person who chose to become fat. There’s nothing wrong with that of course. I was someone who grew up fat and my theory is I sorta developed this kink as a bit of a protective mental survival response. And it’s just fucking hot of course. But within the context I knew i grew up in it was a perfect storm for why I’d be into this stuff as soon as I found it on the internet 😂

Basically all that to say, I have absolutely had times in my life while into feedism where I took gaining breaks. Also there have been times where I felt so shit in the cruel world we live in that I would attempt to lose some weight. None of this changes my truth as a feedist. I know that now. I used to have a lot of guilt about it but ya know fam, having a therapist that uses a fat liberation lens is one of the fucking best things to ever happen to me. Progressssssss lol

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Another two opinions I think should coexist:

1. Weight gain, eating and getting fat can be all about self-love and healing from a fatphobic world

2. Having a "Ruin me" fetish doesn't make you a bad feedee or a bad person. It's okay to choose to explore dark parts of this kink as a means of opting out of the standards of a society that Just Isn't There Yet. And just because you want to be dommed/humiliated/degraded in the context of a sexual scene does not mean you lack autonomy IRL, and does not make it okay for anyone to abuse you.

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PART 1 of @pokefan-fa 's huuge feederism commission!

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Lol idk if this will actually help anybody but seeing so many people I used to talk to be deactivated kinda makes me a lil sad, and as someone who used to like come in & out of this kink cuz I had feelings of shame or guilt or whatever maybe this will help those who are kinda going thru it rn

🧁 liking a fat belly isn’t a wrong thing and wanting to fatten it isn’t either (there’s a reason why there’s preg kinks like seeing a round belly is erogenous and hot)

🧁the act of being full IS pleasurable like why else is gluttony a sin (anything fun usually is lol)

🧁wanting to feed someone to gain is caring ya it can be flirty but as long consent and boundaries are in place ur good

🧁there ARE some annoying and fucking weird people in the community you DONT HAVE TO LIKE everyone here, it’s ok to objectively not like certain members of this community don’t let them ruin the whole kink for you, and don’t bully people that’s douche-y

🧁this world makes it fucking impossible to enjoy being fat, so that’s why YOU need to create the world you wanna see. Clean up ur fyp, follow plus size baddies, block and filter triggering vids to see positive uplifting fat bodies in everyday settings being celebrated!

🧁find people who actually don’t give a fuck about your size, spending time with insecure people will drain you more than you think

🧁sometimes you gotta shroom it out and figure out why ur fatphobic sometimes and it’s needed inner work to not suck forever

🧁you don’t have to stuff ur self or think about stuffing people 24/7 this kink don’t gotta be your whole personality you can still be you

🧁if you feel like your partner will judge you for this kink breakup with them, cuz why u tryna get boo’d up or a parent with someone who don’t accept you like TF don’t disrespect urself like that

🧁you can still live a normal life when your a feedee (idk why that was like a main thing that held me back for the longest)

🧁no one knows your a feedee or feedee unless you tell them and guess the fuck what being confident about what ur into IS HOT

🧁yes feedism can get expensive but like so is life so honestly order the extra side you’ll be fine

🧁if ur a feedee and seeing alot of messages from overbearing fat admirers can make you feel weird or a type of way blocking is amazing, and turning off your messages also charge people for private pics and vid’s (GET UR COIN)

🧁listen if you feel like your “friends” will stop being friends with you because your a feedee they prolly weren’t your friends anyways (I told like 3 or 4 and NO ONE CARES)

🧁I guarantee you unbuttoning in public or having 🐷 moments seems daunting if pretty privilege is in your favour I assure you NO ONE CARES

🧁feedism I’m ngl I feel like we all have a shared collective trauma of financial insecurity, perfectionism, workaholicism, depression from a young age, and feeling much older than we are and honestly most kinks are formed out of trauma WE ARE A COMMUNITY FOR A REASON LOL

🧁fuck if BDSM is hot imagine when you combine this and feedism

🧁the belly is a pleasure zone ur not weird for liking bellies think about it we have mukbangs, over eating at thanksgiving, munchie culture, food baby’s etc. like our whole world is kinky asf

🧁stepping out of ur self judgement and just fully embracing every aspect of your self with acceptance is a new level of self love unlocked and like a golden feeling you owe it to yourself to feel like that once in your life ✨

🧁 life is short have a cupcake