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Liking being fat is not bad.

Liking fat people is not bad.

Eating however, whatever and whenever you like is not bad. And nor is helping, admiring or encouraging that behaviour.

Feeders, feedees, encouragers and fat admirers are NOT. BAD. PEOPLE. and should not be made to feel as such.

Tumblr demonising the kink and the community behind it is a joke.

This community is and can be a sanctuary for an otherwise marginalised section of society, a place where fat people and those who love them can be unapologetically themselves, and be revered and celebrated for it. And practice their kink (or just embrace being fat) in a safe place, free of judgement.

It’s a disgrace what has been done, it’s blatant fatphobia, plain and simple.

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I'm too exhausted and sad to write my own post about this right now, but. ever since tumblr decided to crack down on the feedism community specifically (making feedism kink content reportable under "eating disorder content"), I've been seeing it wreak havoc on the feedist creators in my community. I urge you to care about this. everyone is in distress. folks are getting shadowbanned left and right. patreon banned feedist content under the guise of promoting eating disorders last year, and more platforms are following suit. we hardly had any spaces to begin with, and there aren't any spaces left. I've noticed an uptick in harassment. more people have sent messages targeting me because I've been open about being a feedist. it's a mess. but I'm not going to stop. nothing will silence me from defending my community. if this somehow culminates in my blog being terminated, you can find me at substack.com/@fatliberation. I've decided to merge my kink blog with my fat liberation blog there because I'm done splitting my identity in two. I will no longer pander to folks who don't accept that part of me. it's what made me a fat liberationist in the first place. tumblr is coming for feedists now, but who's to stop people from reporting every fat person who posts about their body or food? where do they draw the line between us and you? pay attention. we're fighting the same fight.

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So I guess my sex fetish is an eating disorder now, huh?

Been seeing a lot of these posts going around about the feedism censorship, so I thought I'd make my own so as not to derail other people's discussions, but here are my own thoughts on the very good points I feel are being made by my fellow members of the community.

That feedism often goes hand in hand with fat acceptance and fat liberation, unlearning fatphobia including internalized fatphobia, and RECOVERING from eating disorders and not just the restrictive ones. For a lot of people, feedism has been a gateway to repairing our relationship with our bodies and food, so to have it become a censorable offense on par with promoting anorexia is a huge smack in the face. I mean, it would be one thing to go 'we've flagged this as mature because you're posing for pictures in your underpants', which, I would still disagree with because there are posters of models wearing underpants in every shopping mall you've ever walked into and that's not a problem even if people do bring their whole families there, so like...huge double-standard. But we're not getting flagged for being sexy, are we? We're being condemned for being '''dangerous'''. But I'm just preaching to the choir right now, aren't I?

I'm seeing a lot of rebuttal against the common misconceptions that outsiders have against this kink, such as 'not all feeders are abusive manipulators' and 'not all feedees are manipulated victims,' and while I do see the importance of meeting outsiders on a middle-ground, I worry that this sort of rhetoric, or at least, phrasing it like that, tends to throw certain feedists under the bus? To the feedists that want to engage exclusively with the soft and healing brand of feedism, I see and salute you. But I think that framing it as "not all feedists are bad" creates a divide and implies a certain degree of "well, I'm not like *those* feedists"--and like...we still understand the concept of roleplay, right? We get that saying "I'm not like the bad ones" just invites other people to demand that we prove it, right? Those videos where the feedee 'doesn't want it' and then the feeder shoves more cake into their mouth anyway--we get that those are actors, right? We get that just because other kinksters practice kink in a way that we might think is scary does NOT automatically imply an absence of consent, right? Oh, but what am I thinking. The censorship isn't about sex or consent, it's about '''''health''''.

Which brings me to my next point, and this one is JUST for the civvies: health is not the price we owe society anyway. Life shouldn't be a vending machine that you have to drop health coins into until human decency falls out. And what exactly is anyone hoping to accomplish by ragging on someone else's kink because 'ooooh, what if you hurt your health?' Are they really trying to save anyone? Or are they just trying to wrap themselves up in the false security blanket of 'well, if I work out and *eat clean* then nothing bad can possibly happen to ME, here, I'll prove it, if you follow my advice then nothing bad will happen to YOU, either! This is why I'm smarter than you and this is why I deserve the social leverage I've been granted by a set of arbitrary beauty standards carefully crafted to benefit capitalism!' Newsflash, honey bunches: bad things can happen to anyone. Tomorrow any one of us could wake up and get hit by a shark or eaten by a bus or what have you.

Anyway, thanks for tuning in. Feel free to add on if I've missed anything or you have something else to say, but there will be NO sex-negativity or ridiculous health-elitism on my post, capisce?

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it's awesome to want to be fatter and get off on it btw. it's awesome to be a pervert about it.

people are perverted as hell about muscular and skinny bodies in public and it's barely considered taboo. straight-sized people pursue their body type explicitly to be seen as sexy, get laid, to feel good in their skin. even by means that are considered risky to your health -- weight loss meds like oz*mpic, diets and fasting, steroids, to name just a few -- if it's in the pursuit of normalized "skinniness" it's within bounds regardless of stated intent. all these methods and reasons are casually accepted without question in our society because they fall into a certain mold.

but as soon as you decide for yourself what's sexy and it falls outside a norm, as soon as you choose to proudly gain weight because you enjoy it, the double standard becomes apparent. suddenly, it's taboo.

reactionaries will justify their disgust reaction by any means, pretending to care about your health all of the sudden as if you don't have the agency to make calculated risks like every other person on this planet. it's dehumanizing and polices the bodies of others.

the decision to include feedism within the definition of "disordered eating" is not only ignorant, it's spineless, hypocritical, unfair, and it's rooted in vile prejudices that don't align with the projected message of this site. if staff have any integrity they'll change it back, though I don't believe they will.

forgive me if this is a bit meandering and i've reblogged quite a few posts about this already, but i had to put in my thoughts. gaining and feedism will never be contained by one website or space. as someone who grew up in neglect and isolation being queer in a right-wing household, it may have saved my life to know there were others out there like me and many at that.

oh and let me make sure i say as well -- health is not a determination of someone's worth or morality

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getting fatter will fix you actually. you should get fatter. eat more and get fatter. softer. gaining weight is good. gaining weight feels good. it looks good, too. especially on you. you look so happy when you eat something delicious, have some more! think about how you really feel when your belly is full, how your body feels, the satisfaction. relax into the couch and feel your softness. get fatter. you deserve this 💕

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I went away for a couple of weeks and this is what I come back to?? Has anyone made a discord or something with a similar vibe just in case?

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The way I love and admire fat people isn’t lesser because there is a sexual element. I’m so tired of this insidious, puritanical nonsense invading every section of my life. There’s nothing wrong with liking sex. There’s nothing wrong with liking things other than straight, missionary sex in a sexual way. Having atypical preferences says nothing about the quality of a human being. You don’t have to fit into the narrow-minded, vanilla mold in order to have value. No amount of (consensual) sexual fuckery can ever separate you from your humanity. The inhuman thing is acting like it does.

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The water makes my belly hair show up so well on camera but I'm still hairier in real life

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god some people are fucking incapable of framing fatness as anything but something to avoid even as it makes them horny holy fucking shit just fuck the fatboy or be the fatboy it's not that complicated.

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when you grow older you'll become fatter. never kill yourself

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One thing about feeders on here is that they just love to be armchair doctors and spread fatphobic health misinformation uncritically like it's fact

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My kink is blocking thin feeders that write massive self congratulatory posts with the most basic health info as if every fat person in this community is an idiot like gee whiz mister humans should drink water?!? You don’t fucking say 🙄

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shoutout to weirdo autistic kids who stuffed pillows under their shirts to pretend to be fat and didn't fully understand why they did that

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I don't have "that dog in me", I have a pig in me. A gluttonous fucking hog that desires buffets, snackies and being edged while getting stuffed.

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your belly is amazing and all but I also want to know what is your favourite food, your favourite animal, your hobbies and get to know you as a person

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I love my belly being shown appreciation not just in a “whoa,it’s so fucking hot I’m gonna get off to it” kinda way,but also in a “uses their hands as drumsticks and my belly as a percussion because it’s cute & entertaining and makes us both giggle”or *soft caresses/loving rub,kiss,or gentle pat* kind way. If that makes any sense at all,lmao!