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Smut should be allowed in romances if its gay fiction. I'm sorry that's how it should be.

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It's easy to cater to a younger audience than adults. Teenagers are impressionable and are still in the bubble of self-centeredness where they want to feel important and valued which makes a great target for first person POV. They are also open to try out a variety of genres before they develop a taste for certain themes.

Taking ACOTAR as an example, it's mostly the young teenagers (or so I have noticed) who don't recognise the problematic dynamics or the ethical/moral ambiguity of some concepts in the series. They are in a stage where most of them feel misunderstood and not in control of their lives. Being in Feyre's shoes and be pampered and coddled by everyone even when she is wrong gives them a sense of validation and acceptance. That's why most of the YA books uses first person POV because it allows the audience engage with it better. Similarly, the relationship with Rhysand is overtly sexualised that abusive/manipulative undertones are completely overlooked.

But the older audience don't have the time or energy to invest in something that doesn't intrigue them, especially when it clashes with their personal values. When I was a teenager, I used to read anything and everything to build my palate. It helped me understand about my preferences better. Now, I will completely ignore anything that doesn't fit these criteria because I don't have to pretend to like it for anybody.

Writing for an adult audience is difficult because they are picky. Creating characters or plots that they can relate to or enjoy is hard. Rarely these books get traction or appreciation which makes it a bad investment for the authors and the publishing companies. It requires a lot of work than going off of just some vague aesthetics or themes. And fanfics follow mainstream, so the writers imitate what they see.

I need more stories and fanfiction where the MC is an adult. Really don't like the way we've shifted to every single MC has to be barely 19 years old paired with these men who are at least twenty years older than them. Why did we go backwards.

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geto is like 80% of gojo's impulse control, whereas sukuna is -100% of gojo's impulse control

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remembering this girl in college who was known to steal but i always gave my money to her for safekeeping and her dormmates would lose their shit. one day one of them asked me about it and i said, 'well she can't steal from the money she was entrusted with in public. everyone will know she's the thief' and they all stared at me like i had grown two heads. now that i think about it, she must have hated me so much.

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took a nap for 20 mins and dreamt a full horror movie from start to finish. now i got this vague itch to write it but don't remember anything other than that it scared me awake.

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took a nap for 20 mins and dreamt a full horror movie from start to finish. now i got this vague itch to write it but don't remember anything other than that it scared me awake.

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stiles stilinski is my spirit animal

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can anyone who’s also in love with tamlin please reblog this with the things you love about him? I’ve seen too much negative merch recently and it’s depressing me

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Things I hate about ACOTAR #lostcount

Why aren't there any illnesses in the fae lands? They all have healing abilities but their medical capabilities suck since they don't have remedy for menstrual cramps and high risk pregnancies and some disabilities like Lucien's eye and Illyrian wing clipping (but can fix Cassian's shredded ones though). What kind of illnesses do you think their world will have?

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Me: I don’t have any obsessions

Also me:

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It's the other way around, actually, and this is quite a controversial take. Given how Feyre and Nesta are treated by their mates and it's still normalised and idolised, the pairings have nothing to do with respect for these women. The plot may be centered around them but the romances are always geared towards the men.

Since Lucien is SJM's favourite, she doesn't believe Nesta deserves someone like him. Meanwhile Elain is pretty much a blank canvas who can be moulded into a sassy love interest to match Lucien's humour and rakish personality. She is the sweet, dainty lady who should be the recipient of his love instead of cruel Nesta. SJM could have done the same with her but that wouldn't result in forcing Nesta to take all the blame upon herself and submitting to the IC.

Nesta's arc was sealed from the beginning with or without her PTSD and drinking. She would've been put through these trials to transform her into the ideal wife material as per the patriarchal standards irrespective of who she ended up with. And SJM would rather it was anyone but Lucien so she didn't have to adjust his personality for the sake of plot. Cue Cassian, who imo is no different from what he was in the previous books.

To put it simply, SJM loves Lucien. She hates Nesta. She doesn't believe Nesta is worthy of a kind, nurturing love. She doesn't care if these women are respected by their counterparts as they are just vessels to carry out her sexual fantasies with her male characters.

There was no reason to trade Lucnes for Nessian other than the fact that SJM wanted to punish Nesta. Why would Nesta even be in Night if she was mated to Lucien and serve Feyre for the rest of her life?

Lucien will rip her apart.

The Lucien who realised exactly what his mate needed with one glance?

The Lucien who was the only one to suggest bringing a healer to check on his depressed mate?

The Lucien who was the only one to listen to his mate and treat her like a person?

The Lucien who went on a quest just because his mate had a dream?

The Lucien who gave his mate space and time when she wasn't ready to accept her fae life or the mating bond?

The Lucien who marvelled at Nesta's powers instead of seeing her as a weapon?

Cassian is the one Nesta needed.

The neanderthal who saw his emaciated mate and the first thing he noticed were her boobs?

The neanderthal who said 'eat this or starve' when his depressed mate didn't like his food?

The neanderthal who laughed at his mate after she climbed up the stairs with bruises on her face?

The neanderthal who had sex with his mate right after she was sexually assaulted by an ancient creature?

The neanderthal who rejoiced at how happy his brother will be at his mate's misery?

The neanderthal who forced his mate on a dangerous hike when she was suicidal?

I hear delusions. But thanks for playing.

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Nesta isn’t a bitch, she is a mirror.

And somehow this isn’t apparent to the fandom. I’m aware this isn’t a firm, cohesive explanation but I don’t have the brain capacity for this. So take it however it resonates.

Papa Archeron is negligent towards his young daughters. Nesta in return neglects his care and abandons him like he abandoned them. This becomes the foundation for her anger and hatred.

Elain is the nicest sister and treats everyone with ‘compassion’. She offers company, validation, and emotional comfort which Nesta reciprocates and goes beyond that by protecting her from the world.

Feyre is domineering and mean. It’s not explicit in her words in the beginning, but it’s always underscored in her body language, and later on during the fights when Feyre says cruel things to Nesta, which she pays back in kind.

Nesta is wary yet polite to Rhysand, Cassian, and Azriel during their initial visit. Cassian attacks first getting between Nesta and Feyre. Since then the IC treat her with hostility. The one moment Rhysand interacts with her like a person before the High Lords meeting, Nesta humours him and they share a joke. When he threatens her life or tries to control her, she retaliates.

Cassian has seen her as nothing but a vicious animal. He pokes at her, prods at her, which later results in Nesta lashing out. (I do wonder if this is why Nesta was changed from modest to hyper sexual to reflect Cassian’s exaggerated fetishisation. Can’t make him non-creepy if he goes on and on for pages about her ass while Nesta is dead serious about her virtue.)

Morrigan jokes about stealing her dress (from her body iirc) and Nesta comments on hers in return which is taken as an insult.

Amren looks at her with fascination as she does with all things Made, and Nesta reciprocates. That's why the two could develop a brief friendship.

Azriel is cordial and shows basic courtesy at times which she reflects back. He is the only one in the IC who never instigated a direct confrontation, and so their friendship.

Emerie is respectful and considerate when Nesta visits her shop. Nesta offers it back with the training and the solstice gifts.

Gwyneth values genuinity and authenticity. She pushes Nesta in the library until she is her true self instead of feigning politeness.

Nesta isn’t mean, temperamental, or sharp-tongued by herself. Instead she reflects what is directed at her. If she was just an angry bitch, we��d have moments where she lashes out at Gwyneth, Emerie or the priestesses at odd times without reason. Her disdain is always placed where it belongs, when the IC step on her boundaries or control her life, at Tamlin when she remembers what happened with Feyre, or Eris after she gets to know Morrigan’s past.

Nesta rarely initiates any interaction with the others. She needs to be pried into a conversation. She takes her time to gauge someone before she reacts to them. Often times, these first interactions set the pace for the rest of their relationship. That’s why she can have great chemistry with anyone. She mirrors them.

This can be considered a trait stemmed from her grooming which she still uses before building a relationship. Or, a lame writing trick to turn the character SJM butchered in the opening of her very first book into a likeable protagonist. Since Nesta’s inner thoughts don’t indicate she is manipulative enough or actively seeking that kind of validation from anyone, I will go with the latter.

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I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive but the term you are looking for in regards to Rhysand is character armour.

In book 1, we have little to no knowledge about Rhysand other than he is the High Lord of Night and is a bad guy. He has done nothing but torment everyone around him and aid Amarantha in the past fifty years sacrificing the rest of the Prythian. We learn about Velaris and the Inner Circle and the priestesses only in the later books.

In order to bolster him as a good guy and a potential love interest, he needs to have one quality to redeem him from all the crimes committed. But there can be none when the worst of those is the sexual assault and no good trait can erase that. If the readers are to sympathise and romanticise him, the only other way is to give him an equally compelling trauma.

Now anyone who dislikes him or can't forgive Rhysand, they are doing so despite his tragic past and hence they are heartless. How can you not sympathise with a SA victim? How can you possibly deny this character a second chance?

I find it very odd when in the SJM fandom people utilize someone’s SA as a character trait or moral quality.

To give some background on what made me want to post this: I saw a tik tok of someone saying “To say that Rhysand is a horrible person and that Aelin would never be his friend after this man was SA’d for 50 years, has multiple woman in his ranks at the top…” To open your defense with that, is just bizarre. This isn’t the person to treat SA as a moral signifier, and it won’t be the last.

I think it really exemplifies how SJM herself treats SA and abuse as a plot device or something to make a character more sympathetic, not really addressing the actual weight of it most of the time. The majority of her main characters have been abused or SA’d at some point, and the majority of her villains are SA’ers or abusers. While this is a very real and horrific situation, she almost never deals with it meaningfully, instead using it just further the plot for the sake of a romance or to give a character a backstory. Describing characters and their likability based off of a traumatic event, as if it could only happen to a specific kind of person, I find, diminishes it and them as a character/person.

Sarah uses enacting or being SAd as a way to signal a character’s morality. As much as SJM and her fans like to pretend that her characters are “morally grey” she has a very clear moral binary.

You can be a horrible person and still have something horrible happen to you. Bad people get SA’d, good people get SA’d, anyone in the middle can get SA’d and abused; it’s a vile crime that anyone can be a victim of, and it has nothing to do with a person’s inherent goodness, and yet SJM pretends like it does. Now more realistically, it also seems to be a side effect of lazy writing and just trying to make readers root for or hate a character without actually doing the legwork. Very few of her prominent characters haven’t been SA’d or physically abused in some way.

I have a lot more to say about this, but it’s a very delicate topic, and I don’t believe I have the knowledge and analysis to talk about it with the proper nuance it needs, so I’ll end it here

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I'm sorry for getting around to this so late but here I am. Curating this list made me realise how much of a sadist I am lol

Four characters from four different series? That's not fair!!

This is not very feminist of me with only one female character but this was so hard!!

Kol Mikaelson from The Originals (not The Vampire Diaries). Youngest of the five, Kol is jealous of the bond shared by his three older siblings. He acts out and destroys anything and everything irrevocably to satiate the raw desire to be seen, if not loved, by them. Despite his cockiness and obvious resentment for being ignored, his loneliness and longing for the familial love always shines through in his actions, and sometimes words.

Johan Liebert from Monster. A psychopathic serial killer taunting the doctor who saved him ten years ago to teach a lesson that not all lives are equal, but death is. Johan was subjected to psychological and social experimentation as a child which worsened his tendencies. Though he's purely evil, it's hard not to sympathise with him. Beneath the calm, charismatic, scheming exterior, he is driven by the belief that he was never meant to be alive and he only existed/survived because of a simple error in his past. There is no way to know what his true motives are or what drove him to craft a perfect doomsday until the very last minute.

Trish Walker from Jessica Jones. I have a love-hate feelings about her but she is so intriguingly nuanced. Trish has everything in her life: money, fame, luxury. But she is desperate to leave a mark in the world as more than a just former child star. She is undeniably kind and strong despite the abuse and exploitation she endured from her mother and the industry. But slowly, her desire to do good and jealousy for Jessica's unused powers leads her down the quest to become everything she encouraged Jessica to be, to the point she can't distinguish if she's fighting evil or being evil.

Geto Suguru from Jujutsu Kaisen. Okay, where do I begin? His downward spiral from a dutiful hero to a villain in hopes to build a better and safer world for his people is deliciously heartbreaking and satisfying. Despite knowing what his life entails and already subjected to the horrors of the world, he struggles to cope and hold onto the benevolent ideals that keep him on the right path. There are many clear instances that could have avoided this trajectory and yet he becomes one of the most ruthless villains leaving behind the people (ahem, read Satoru) he once cared for. (Only because I have to pick one and I can't decide between Nobara Kugisaki and Maki Zen'in. I had to sneak at least one here.)

No one asked for the elaboration but I couldn't resist. Thanks for the tag, this was fun!

Onto nominations: @hrizantemy @litnerdwrites @umthisistheonlyusernamenottaken @achaotichuman @breadnabutterfingers @natureboy96 @foxyfairydream and anyone who comes across this. Sorry if I missed anyone out, my brain isn't braining enough.

If you see this, you must post 4 of your favorite characters from 4 different series...pass it on!

Thank you for the tag @winnie-the-monster !

Catelyn Tully Stark (A Song of Ice and Fire/Game of Thrones)

Roman Roy (Succession)

Jackie Burkhart (That 70s Show)

Emmett Honeycutt (Queer As Folk US)

Tagging: @crazy-ache , @bonecarversbestie , @fierling , @thrumbolt , @spiritedstars , @sapphiresandgold , @olenvasynyt , @themadmorrigan , @the-darkestminds

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Christmas if Gojo, Shoko and Geto had been able to raise Megumi, Tsumiki, Nanako and Mimiko together (Featuring Nanami)

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This one just went whooosh😂 I guess it was my fault. Anyway, Gwyneth, Emerie, Jurian, and as reminded by people in the comments: Balthazar, Cressida, Clare are all great choices for Nesta because her chemistry with everyone is on point.

Nesta's mother wanted a prince for her daughter and if Nesta blindly ends up with someone of that stature, it will reinforce her mother's grooming. On the other hand, Nesta ending up with someone for the sole reason to defy what she's been taught, or as a big fuck you, only brushes her trauma under the rug. It strips her of the chance to question what's been drilled into her and figuring out her own worth and desires outside of these relationships.

This is what happens in SF as this particular trauma is never addressed and is instead exploited by the IC, and before she can understand her own worth, she is broken down by Cassian. It's not always helpful to walk the path opposite of what was set out of spite, especially if there is no introspection.

Which is why I hate the discussions where Lucien, Eris, Tamlin are called bad choices for Nesta all because they fit her mother's criteria. Is it triggering for her? Yes. But that's the point! It helps her confront her issues and learn her mother was wrong.

Who am I supposed to ship Nesta with when almost every character is rich and privileged or a royalty in the series? If the standard is that her dead mother shouldn't approve of them, we've got only Gwyneth, Emerie, and Jurian.