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Hey fun fact the people 28 and over on this website actually do KNOW that the average age skews much lower so like, reminding us is pretty pointless?

More to the point, as much as you guys are way better at identifying and calling out misogyny than I was at your age, a lot of people are really terrible at picking up on one particular kind of misogyny, and that is the creepy upper age limit for space and existence you’re setting for women in your communities.

This may not be easy to instantly identify because it’s not really ageism across the board, for example, this idea that fandom has an upper age limit is not something that effects a lot of men in fandom. Women, on the other hand, are apparently expected to re-direct their fan obsession, fixation, or hobby to things like crafting, child-rearing, and housekeeping just as soon as they become a mom or reach that “typical mom” age. Adult fangirls are “immature” and “need to grow up,” while adult fanboys are literally just a fact of life, as if we both haven’t always been there.

Whenever you question a woman’s right to this space because of her age or parental status, you are reinforcing a stereotype that has effects that reach beyond that one situation. The expectation, for example, that 40 year old men be catered to when writing comics, but that characters of interest to 40 year old women are obsolete or unprofitable.

When actresses over 30 are written out of their franchises or written exclusively in villain/mother/crone roles, this not only furthers the impression that women over 30 have no interest in these franchises, but actually causes women over 30 to disengage with these franchises as a self fulfilling prophecy. A sudden loss of representation can be a real buzzkill, as many of you already know too well.

Women over 30 are often sexual and a lot of us get fan crushes or thirst at the exact same rate as younger people do, but you’re not going to hear about it because every one of us has been shamed at one point or another for expressing desire for age-appropriate fictional characters that was totally acceptable when we were five years younger. Add to that dissonance the fact that A LOT of you are fixated on and thirsting after characters that are actually closer to OUR age if not our age exactly.

Hell, we transfer directly from EVERYONE wanting to hear about our desires and attractions to people being equally disgusted. This is pretty dissonant on a website stuffed full of explicitly sexual material, and it’s especially difficult and heartbreaking for the 30+ year olds who JUST CAME OUT and get an extra level of taboo on top of what is most likely a heaping dose of internalized homophobia.

And I know it’s coming so I’m just going to head it off at the pass, this OBVIOUSLY does not mean that you need to engage in any overtly sexual topic with an older person if that discomfits you, and it doesn’t even mean you need to INTERACT with us, because well, you don’t HAVE to interact with anyone on this website if you don’t want to.

But realize what you’re doing when your reaction to the desire of a 30 year old woman to a 30 year old fictional character is revulsion or a suggestion that she is over-sharing. Notice your shock when you realize that older women inhabit the fandom and recognize that that shock has nothing to do with those women.

Pay attention to the double standard that allows you to embrace rude bigoted 50 year old male comic creators/collectors and equally feel like there’s something wrong or stunted about a woman into the same things. Think about it because that stuff will sneak up on you, and you are probably pretty sure that you’re not going to turn 28 and magically drop all your interests, because no one should expect you to.

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hey @ goyim could y'all reblog this if you're actually willing to listen to Jewish people and protect us?

we really need allies right now, and I know seeing this on people’s blogs could be comforting to other Jewish people. But please don’t do this as performative allyship- actually try and help us irl, or at least learn about antisemitism enough to spot it and call it out.

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Reblog and search your favorite game and add the first gif that pops up

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reblog this if you think being non binary is an actual gender please? I’m feeling really down and invalid

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Purr isn't sure what he thinks of this cupcake business. (( Purr is an Ashes ver. 2, Dyn is a White Pico Lapis, dessert version. Both are from Aileen Doll ))

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I’ve found my favourite money cat.

He’s Canadian and public domain, so if you reblog him you get swag for free and he will ask you for nothing and politely check up on you later to make sure the money arrived OK.

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Full time work should entitle someone to enough pay for rent, food, bills, and leisure activities. Full time work for a full life wage. You put in your 8 hours a day, 5 days a week? You should be able to afford the basic shit you need in life, no matter where you work.

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These are actually good questions.

the person i like and why i like them.

a famous person i’ve been compared to.

5 things that irritate me about the same sex/opposite sex.

the best thing that has happened to me this week.

weird things i do when i’m alone.

how i’d spend ten thousand bucks.

things i like and things i don’t like about the way i look.

my last night out in detail.

something that makes me sad when i think about it.

something i’ve lied about.

would i rather be stranded on a desert island with someone i love for ten years or someone i hate for a month? explain why.

something i’m currently worrying about.

one person from tumblr i’d throw off a cliff, one i’d marry and one i’d fuck.

something i do without realising.

lyrics that apply to my current situation/mood.

a drunken story.

something i regret.

post a picture of myself.

my longest relationship and who it was with.

press ctrl v and post.

post a bit of my last IM convo.

5 things i want to change.

my view on being tumblr famous.

someone i’d like to be for a day and why.

5 things within touching distance.

story of my first kiss.

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I’m just … like even when I WAS pro recast… like what kind of mental gymnastics do you have to do to even think civil rights = buying recast dolls…

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For good measure.

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Kaira isn’t sure if she likes this new outfit or not.

Kaira, a CP Minifee Shushu

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Lee and Cosmo take engagement photos!

featuring Lee, a Soom Mini Gem Aren, and Cosmo, a Unola Azurite.

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A group shot, of most, but not all, of the Echoes of Angels crew! There are 22 large dolls, 8 minis, and 11 tinies. Not included are my two centaurs, four super tinies, and five animals, as well as 18 floating/alternate heads or faceplates.

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I feel like I should sew for someone, but I can’t decide who...

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Kriemheld and Günther have eyes!! I still need to decide how I want them painted, though.

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My Voador pair from @pinkvetch-flyingpig arrived today! They're so adorable, and now I need to decide how I want them painted.