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I saw this too and I was like 😭😭

Excuse me while I FREAK out!

Seeing the word aegosexuality in such a popular internet space is absolutely mind blowing!

Four thousand likes and how many countless other people saw this post?!? I’m in shock, isn’t this amazing!??

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this made me laugh out loud because it's trUE

That other anon is Soo right

Am I horny or do I just need to pee? It's a ✨mystery ✨

m y s t e r y

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when people expect you to share a bed with your QP or SO but that includes having to sleep next to a person and listen to them breathing so no thank you I'll hug them in the morning instead

aro with a qp partner culture is wanting to live in an apartment with said partner but absolutely refusing to share a bed (the blankets are minnneeeeee)

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God being aegosexual is

One day: "I am a sexless being, revolted by sex, needless of physical pleasures".

And

Another day, after finding a media you relate to: "I am a slut, a whore, an absolute harlot for I can empathise so closely with this pretty man who's being touched so wonderfully and sensually by another pretty pretty man".

And I think that's wonderful

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ME (lol I sat in that cinema during the end of the film stressing every time they got close to each other praying that it wouldn't be romantic) (like it was actual aro panic) (I can't wait to rewatch now I know they don't get together 😭)

shang-chi spoilers

aro culture is watching shang-chi & seeing shang-chi & katy's relationship & hoping it stays as a friendship at first, but doubting that'll happen. but as the movie goes on i learned they knew met off screen years ago and have a solid connection, so i was more okay with them being together since it wasn't just "guy meets girl & now they will KISS" like most movies do. but they don't end up partners and are just best friends. & yeah i'd be okay if they did get into a relationship now that i know they actually know each other but still pleasantly surprised they didnt kiss.

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I was so oblivious to the fact that I’m asexual until I was 20 years old because of the fact that I experience such strong aesthetic attraction and I just assumed that I was feeling sexual attraction. Even tho it was like “do i want to have s*x with you? no. do i want to stare at you and admire you for hours? absolutely”.

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been rewatching the good place and this is such an aspec mood.

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lmao been getting into love island this season, which as an ace person is a wild ride.

they're all? so horny? it's very entertaining?

and then they're like 'mm I wanna rip their clothes off' and I'm like well that's pretty much confirming my asexuality then aha

but then they start making out with their mics on and I have to put my hands over my ears until it goes away.

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the fedora currently sitting on my shelf would agree.

Ace culture is fedoras.

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can someone please write a vampire fic where blood drinking is sexy and all but also a complete logistical nightmare for everyone.

because think about it.

humans need a certain amount of blood, so vampires probably shouldn't take more than the usual pint per 3 months or so. so either they do it every few months and there's hilarious levels of annoyance on both sides until they can drink again, or they drink more often but have to have it written down on a calendar with how much they can take per week to still be safe. and they have to count it out by the seconds so it's still sexy but wayy more focused on the actual process at the same time because they have to make sure it's all properly documented and the information is sent off to the nhs, or whatever.

also? blood tests? if vampires are known in society then there's bound to be a whooole system wherein humans have to get regular blood tests and have to register to be a blood donor, basically. so they can't just leap in and start having sexy-blood-drinking-times with their significant other because there's all this paperwork first before they're even allowed to do it incase one of them has a communicable disease, or an iron deficiency (it would be fantastic if vampires required a certain iron content in their blood because that's where all the nutrients come from, yaknow?) so blood drinking is now no longer heat of the moment and is now just as awkward or even more so than having sex is nowadays.

I think about this a lot. please write it and send it to me if you do.

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me @ daechwita yoongi 😳

Ace culture is getting "hot under the collar" for someone and still having absolutely no desire to sleep with them--which then leads to the rabbit hole of "am I really ace???"

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this annoys me so much. it's not that hard to make some pride flag emojis! seriously! they've made flags for basically every country and won't make flags to acknowledge the vast range of identities in the LGBTQ+ community.

Unicode:

Also Unicode:

Unicode thinks that we need two different emojis to cover all the subtleties and nuances between DVDs 📀 and Optical Discs 💿, which are so similar that emoji designers struggle to make them different, often by labeling them or making them wildly, unrealistically different colors. However, they think that pretty much all flavors of queer should be happy with the rainbow flag 🏳‍🌈, as if it's adequate to represent our wide diversity.

Check out the #MorePrideEmojis campaign to find out how you can help change this.

[Image Description: Two versions of the Pam from the Office "Corporate needs you to find the differences between this picture and this picture" meme. Image one shows a comparison between two nearly identical looking CD-like discs. Pam's response is "Unicode: They're obviously completely different. One is an 'optical disc', the other is a 'DVD'. You can tell them apart by looking at the coloration and diffraction pattern." Image two shows a rainbow flag and a pan flag. Pam's response is "Unicode: They're the same picture."]

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day 2!

erm... lots of things :)

being ace makes me happy (most of the time!), BTS, the untamed, books, enhypen, fangirling over stuff, fanfiction, very aesthetically pleasing pictures, being able to talk to the wonderful ace community on tumblr!

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welp I've seen people doing this and I think it would be a fun record to have of my journey! so here's day 1 (oops it's a lil late)

my pronouns are she/her, and I identify as a: (deep breath)

bi-angled, sex-ambivalent, aego-asexual, cisgendered and cupio/grey romantic.

at the moment, anyway 😂

here are my flags!

^ angled aro-ace

^ sex-ambivalent

^ aegosexual

^ grey-romantic

^ cupioromantic

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big mood - I watched the Thai BL drama 'Sotus' (which was really good btw) and I was way more invested in finally getting to see Kongpob get to do the hazing thing than I was in their relationship 😂

Aro culture is caring more about character development than the main romance of the show

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lol I was always completely confused about the idea that people could actually have sexual fantasies themselves and that it was a Thing they were actually interested in doing with a person... I just assumed only characters in fanfiction did that. probably should have realised I was ace sooner ahahaha

You Might Be Asexual If:

(obligatory disclaimer: agreeing or disagreeing with one or more of these does not necessarily make you ace or NOT ace, your experience will vary!)

You’re not sure if you’ve ever felt sexual attraction.

You’re not even sure what ‘sexual attraction’ is vs. other types of attraction

You’ve ever had to just pick a person (celebrity or otherwise) that you had a ‘crush’ on in order to fit in with your peers (regardless of gender)

You’ve felt pressured to pursue relationships because “that’s just what everyone does”

You’ve felt pressured to kiss/touch/have sex with someone because “that’s just what everyone does”

Your peers being obsessed with sex makes you feel deeply uncomfortable or excluded

You’ve tried to mimic sex jokes or sexualized behaviors in order to fit in with your peers.

You’ve ever felt like “well, I guess must be bi/pan because my level of attraction towards everyone is the same” (and that sameness feeling isn’t actually, y’know, sexual attraction) (I’m just saying you’d be surprised how many aces start off identifying as bisexual or pansexual and then realize they are bi/pan ace or aro ace)

People having crushes/dating/having sex feels like a joke and you’re pretty sure everyone else is also faking or exaggerating their attractions (but then you realize they’re Not)

There are times when you suddenly remember that other people Fuck in real life, with Each Other, and it’s surreal as hell

The entire topic of sex is repulsive to you, or your just don’t understand why other people care about it so much.

You don’t understand people who complain if they go without sex for X days.

You don’t understand why people cheat (in real life or media), no matter how “hot” the person they cheated with is.

You’re fine thinking about sex as a vague concept, or even other people having sex (especially in fiction and/or on video) but when the topic of sex involves you personally, (or real life people) it’s a big nope.

Sexual jokes, innuendo, or flirting tends to go over your head often.

You have no interest or desire to masturbate and don’t get why other people do.

You enjoy masturbation but you’d be fine going without it.

You enjoy masturbation and can’t understand why some people claim that it isn’t “enough” for them vs having sex.

The idea of the “honeymoon night” (or other implied social sexual contracts, like a date expecting sex in return for dinner/being nice) fills you with dread.

The idea of having sex is strange or upsetting for you.

You enjoy sex but you’d be fine going without it.

You enjoy sex but can’t understand why some people seem addicted to it.

Sex is something you enjoy (or endure) moreso to have intimacy with your partner or because you want them to be pleased.

You’ve ever told someone you don’t want a relationship/don’t want to have sex, and they felt sorry for you or acted like you’re weird even though you’re perfectly happy.

Bonus:

You might be Grey Asexual if:

You’ve definitely felt sexual attraction (maybe) but it’s a rare occurrence

(Not to be confused with having a libido)

You might be Demisexual if:

You’ve definitely felt sexual attraction (maybe) but it was only after getting to know someone really well and only for that person (and even then, it might come and go at times)

If you find many of these things relatable, you might wanna look deeper into asexuality! 

*- Please note that whether or not you have a libido is not a qualifying factor for whether or not you are ace. Some aces have zero desire or need to masturbate, for instance, others do masturbate. Some aces will even have sex to satisfy that drive. Feeling aroused is not the same as sexual attraction. This might sound confusing, but trust me it makes sense when you’re in this situation.

*- Also note that whether you have positive feelings towards sex (for other people or yourself), indifference to sex, or are triggered/repulsed by sex, also has no bearing on whether or not you are asexual. Allosexual people can also be positive, indifferent, or repulsed by sex, especially certain actions.

*- Ultimately, you are ace if you don’t experience sexual attraction, but since it’s a really freaking difficult task to recognize the absence of something you don’t even feel, this list might help some aces figure themselves out! ♥

(Feel free to add more! Aphobes and exclusionists, don’t interact)

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so I speedran the last few eps of hwarang for my second watch yesterday, and I love it.

but.

the relationship between Seonu and A-Ro is genuinely so uncomfortable to watch. I understand what the writers thought they were doing, but the actors have such wonderful platonic chemistry that whenever they kissed I had to look away. and ultimately, there was no need for them to end up together! it wouldn't have changed anything plotwise as long as they did it right, and it would have been so wonderful and wholesome.

so here is my rewrite.

Just because they are a man and a woman, it does not mean they have to end up together.

if this was two men or two women? those writers would have made it platonic.

A-Ro is suspicious of her 'brother', as she was originally. but instead of developing feelings for him (which was weird), she starts to accept him as a brother and feels very betrayed when she finds out that they aren't actually siblings and he has lied to her. but she gradually forgives him, and accepts him as her brother regardless of whether they were blood relations or not. can you imagine how goddamn wholesome that scene would have been?

A-Ro did not need Seonu as an excuse to reject Jidwi. And Jidwi did not need Seonu as an excuse to let her go.

Sure, Jidwi can mistake them for a couple, whatever. But when A-Ro rejects him and he assumes it's because of Seonu? She says, nope. She just doesn't like him and he has to accept that instead of trying to force her into a relationship with him because she doesn't like anyone else. This would have made a stronger moment for A-Ro as well as ultimately a stronger character arc for Jidwi, who has to realise that he is not entitled to her just because he's the king, and that she is allowed to find happiness for herself that does not include him. I thought the last scene where he just wrote her a letter was cowardly, and to really show his change they could have had that exchange in person.

A-Ro acts as a kind of Manic Pixie Dream Girl for Jidwi, in the respect that she helps him to find his strength but he becomes very attached to her as a result. if they spoke in person instead of through a letter, Jidwi ultimately lets her go because he has changed and although it's the hardest thing he's ever done he knows it's the right thing to do and not because of Seonu. it would have been so much more powerful in person, and made him so much stronger as a character.

also I personally would not have minded if Seonu and Sookmyung ended up together. like, not as a main plot in the show, but maybe as a what-if teaser for their possible future. in the show, Sookmyung could have tried to force Seonu to pick her over A-Ro, with Seonu telling her that he wouldn't, because his sister was the most important person in the world to him and he wouldn't choose a romantic relationship over A-Ro. eventually, Sookmyung could have realised that there was no reason that A-Ro would come between her relationship with Seonu, ultimately overcoming her selfishness and desire to have him for herself as she understands that he can have family too. obviously they could easily have not ended up together and that would be fine too, but I feel there is more basis for a romantic relationship between the two of them than between Seonu and A-Ro and if they really needed a romance then I would have preferred this one.

tl;dr - stop making all heterosexual couples default romances! it devalues platonic love! Seonu and A-Ro could have had a bond just as strong without it being romantic - found family is just as beautiful.