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How to survive the holidays with fatphobic friends and family

By Amanda Martinez Beck and J Nicole Morgan, Cohosts of the Fat & Faithful podcast

When someone says, “you look great, have you lost weight?”

NICE: No — I choose to focus on other things than weight. Good to see you, though!

SPICE: Nope! Still fat! There are so many more interesting things to talk about than weight.

ICE: Hi. Please do not comment on my body. Thin ≠ happy or better.

When someone comments on something you put on your plate

NICE: I didn’t drive all this way to spend today eating salad :)

SPICE: Oh, I’m sorry — did you think my food choices were any of your business? Because they’re not.

ICE: (Stare) RUDE. (Continue loading plate.)

When someone jokes about the holidays making us fat

NICE: Oh, stop it. One day of feasting is not going to make anyone fatter than they already are.

SPICE: And…? Nothing wrong with being fat.

ICE: Why is fatness a punchline for you? Do you think my body size is funny or to be mocked?

When food is moralized

NICE: Oh, stop… Food is morally neutral and today is about feasting. Let it go!

SPICE: Bad for you? Is it crawling with maggots? ‘Cause that’s the only way I see pie being bad.

ICE: Stop moralizing food. It is harmful to talk and think about food this way and I will not let you talk this way around me and my children.

Whether you chose NICE, SPICE, or ICE, don’t be afraid to voice your boundaries and push back against diet culture and fatphobia during the holiday season.

❤️, Amanda & Nicole

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Good night everyone, I hope you sleep well

You are capable, believe in yourself

Please take any meds you need to, and be kind to each other

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Don't be scared, little owl, it'll soon be over

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Good morning everyone, I hope you are enjoying the weekend

Remember to treat yourself to something nice, you deserve it

Please take any meds you need to, and stay hydrated

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Good night everyone, please take any meds you need to

You believe people when they say good things about you, because they're right

Please take any meds you need to, and be kind to yourself

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to Han Solo's credit I think "oh our generals had Magic Powers that let them stop bullets and heal the injured because of our Secret Religion" is, in fact, a reasonable thing to be critical of if neither you nor anyone you know has met a Jedi.

Now, if your best friend who you spent all your time with was on first name basis with the spirutual leader of said religion-

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Wide Girl Wednesday- Dongtan Edition

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Claiming you shouldn't be fat is one of the biggest lies they'll try to sell you

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bunny yuri. Spread the news

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un-dyes your ariane

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Good morning everyone, I hope you slept well

If having lots of cream and sugar in your coffee is how you like it, go have it

Please take any meds you need to, and stay hydrated (especially if you're having caffeine, it dehydrates you)

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Good night everyone, I hope you sleep well

Remember to treat yourself, you deserve nice things

Please take any meds you need to, and be kind to yourself

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I think puddle spores in metroid prime 1 are kinda cute 🙂

I want to keep one of the lava clams as a pet

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"estrogen didn't fix me, what now?" put on weight

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Good morning everyone, wishing you a comfortable day

The only person you have to prove things to is yourself

Please take any meds you need to, and stay hydrated

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Good night everyone, I hope you sleep well

Remember to find fun and laughter when you can, even when it feels like you want nothing of it

Please take any meds you need to, and be kind to yourself

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People have GOT to realize that doing the whole "oh honey no, you don't actually want big breasts! Think of the back pain!" thing to trans women when they joke about wanting basketball tits is a similar level of annoying to if i told someone getting a double mastectomy "noo but think of how hard it's going to be to lift things while you recover! Just get them reduced the recovery will be shorter" like I'm not mad you're not evil for doing that but you are the most annoying person in the room in that moment and you should probably think harder before you say these things. Trans women are not ignorant to the concept of back pain and don't need to be condescended to, okay?