docbe

[docbe]

No thanks.

[docbe]

Whenever an artist who makes dark content gets outed as a sexual predator people will be like 'aha it was obvious something was up because their work was so dark and nasty' and whenever an artist who makes wholesome content gets outed as a sexual predator people will be like 'aha it was obvious something was up because their work was so aggressively wholesome' and it's like you know I think maybe you can't tell whether or not someone is a predator based on their artistic output.

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is Gundam fantasy? On one hand: robots. On the other hand: off-brand jedi

Well, I'm not going to say what I think yet, cuz I don't want to influence anyone's responses, so let's outsource this question:

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

Is it Fantasy?

I'm conducting research about general perception of the Fantasy genre for very (un)important reasons. Respond with your personal opinion, and please reblog to increase the sample size.

Feel free to add commentary, explanations, discussions, or musings in the tags, replies, or reblogs.

(Find all "Is it Fantasy?" posts under tag #fantasy genre poll)

[docbe]

to those of you who are moving here from tiktok, from someone whos used both tiktok and tumbr for years...

1. DO NOT censor your posts

dont censor sex, abuse, suicide, dont censor it. we dont have censors like tiktok does, you wont be banned for talking about these things and tagging them properly helps people avoid them (also, we dont have shadowbanning here)

2. we dont really have an algorithm

you follow who you follow, and you see posts from who you follow or what you search. the 'for you page' is basically useless here. this also brings me to my next two points

3. dont crosstag

we get it, on tiktok you have to crosstag for reach, but thats not really a thing here. just tag your posts properly (also posters often leave more info about the post in the tags!! and when you reblog stuff you can leave your own notes in the tags, kind of like the old "repost comments" on tiktok)

4. dont expect to go viral/be famous

"viral" isnt really a thing on here (at least not for the average blogger). your posts will probably get 2-10 likes and you wont get nearly as many followers than on tiktok. thats just how tumblr is

5. blocking is your best friend

tiktok is VERY discussion based, and while tumblr is much more discussion based than other social medias, its still not a good place for ragebait/discourse. dont interact, itll make your experience worse in the end, just block and move on

6. you cant go into someone elses house and start rearranging their furniture

this is tumblr, not tiktok. dont diss old tumblr users for how they use the site or try to change them, thats like going into someone elses house and trying to rearrange their furniture. we've been here longer and we're familiar with the site and its culture, either find your niche, adapt, or find a different app

[docbe]

I want to step away from the art-vs-artist side of the Gaiman issue for a bit, and talk about, well, the rest of it. Because those emotions you're feeling would be the same without the art; the art just adds another layer.

Source: I worked with a guy who turned out to be heavily involved in an international, multi-state sex-slavery/trafficking ring.

He was really nice.

Yeah.

It hits like a dumptruck of shit. You don't feel stable in your world anymore. How could someone you interacted with, liked, also be a truly horrible person? How could your judgement be that bad? How can real people, not stylized cartoon bogeymen, be actually doing this shit?

You have to sit with the fact that you couldn't, or probably couldn't, have known. You should have no guilt as part of this horror — but guilt is almost certainly part of that mess you're feeling, because our brains do this associative thing, and somehow "I liked [the version of] the guy [that I knew]", or his creations, becomes "I made a horrible mistake and should feel guilty."

You didn't, loves, you didn't.

We're human, and we can only go by the information we have. And the information we have is only the smallest glimpse into someone else's life.

I didn't work closely with the guy I knew at work, but we chatted. He wasn't just nice; he was one of the only people outside my tiny department who seemed genuinely nice in a workplace that was rapidly becoming incredibly toxic. He loaned me a bike trainer. Occasionally he'd see me at the bus stop and give me a lift home.

Yup. I was a young woman in my twenties and rode in this guy's car. More than once.

When I tell this story that part usually makes people gasp. "You must feel so scared about what could have happened to you!" "You're so lucky nothing happened!"

No, that's not how it worked. I was never in danger. This guy targeted Korean women with little-to-no English who were coerced and powerless. A white, fluent, US citizen coworker wasn't a potential victim. I got to be a person, not prey.

Y'know that little warning bell that goes off, when you're around someone who might be a danger to you? That animal sense that says "Something is off here, watch out"?

Yeah, that doesn't ping if the preferred prey isn't around.

That's what rattled me the most about this. I liked to think of myself as willing to stand up for people with less power than me. I worked with Japanese exchange students in college and put myself bodily between them and creeps, and I sure as hell got that little alarm when some asian-schoolgirl fetishist schmoozed on them. But we were all there.

I had to learn that the alarm won't go off when the hunter isn't hunting. That it's not the solid indicator I might've thought it was. That sometimes this is what the privilege of not being prey does; it completely masks your ability to detect the horrors that are going on.

A lot of people point out that 'people like that' have amazing charisma and ability to lie and manipulate, and that's true. Anyone who's gotten away with this shit for decades is going to be way smoother than the pathetic little hangers-on I dealt with in university. But it's not just that. I seriously, deeply believe that he saw me as a person, and he did not extend personhood to his victims. We didn't have a fake coworker relationship. We had a real one. And just like I don't know the ins-and-outs of most of my coworkers lives, I had no idea that what he did on his down time was perpetrate horrors.

I know this is getting off the topic, but it's so very important. Especially as a message to cis guys: please understand that you won't recognize a creep the way you might think you will. If you're not the preferred prey, the hind-brain alarm won't go off. You have to listen to victims, not your gut feeling that the person seems perfectly nice and normal. It doesn't mean there's never a false accusation, but face the fact that it's usually real, and you don't have enough information to say otherwise.

So, yeah. It fucking sucks. Writing about this twists my insides into tense knots, and it was almost a decade ago. I was never in danger. No one I knew was hurt!

Just countless, powerless women, horrifically abused by someone who was nice to me.

You don't trust your own judgement quite the same way, after. And as utterly shitty as it is, as twisted up and unstead-in-the-world as I felt the day I found out — I don't actually think that's a bad thing.

I think we all need to question our own judgement. It makes us better people.

I don't see villains around every corner just because I knew one, once. But I do own the fact that I can't know, really know, about anyone except those closest to me. They have their own full lives. They'll go from the pinnacles of kindness to the depths of depravity — and I won't know.

It's not a failing. It's just being human. Something to remember before you slap labels on people, before you condemn them or idolize them. Think about how much you can't know, and how flawed our judgement always is.

Grieve for victims, and the feeling of betrayal. But maybe let yourself off the hook, and be a bit slower to skewer others on it.

[docbe]

they should invent a january that doesn’t make you go through every emotion known to mankind every day

[docbe]

Something about Bluesky has been working for me lately so I’m more active over there rn—if any mutuals are over there and I don’t follow you yet, gimme your @

[docbe]

3